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My hubby and I have had a very hard couple of week with our little one being so sick, and she is really having a hard time with her asthma right now. So we were going to go camping but since the humidity is really bad we decided to take them to the Wheels Inn in Chatham, ON.

I told my friend a few days ago, that we had two places we were going to pick. I told her 2 weeks ago that because we had a crappy family vacation with my inlaws due to the fact she had to keep coming back for IV therapy Daddy was going to take us on our own "family" vacation to make up for it.

Just now she told me that she is coming to the Wheels tomorrow, we are leaving tomorrow too. I am very upset we just got reservations, and hubby isn't sure we are going now. I spent the day packing and everything, I feel like she totally did this on purpose and now it's not even going to be a vacation because she will want to hang around us.

What do I do? Seriousily, I am so upset right now.
 
Why don't you explain to her that this is a family thing, that you want to spend time with your family? She should respect that.
 
I did! And she even acknowledged that she wouldn't want to "butt in" ..but she said they are going tomorrow.

She was like if the kids bump into each other they won't want to seperate ..I said exactly and I told her my own mom wanted to come but we said no because it's our family time together.

She is like oh is this the address to the place? I was like shocked...right now I am so angry..I mean they have a pool and they always brag they don't need to go anywhere and now we are going ~ she plans on coming!

I don't want to waste 300 dollars to have a weekend full of stress! I just want to be with hubby and kids. I know she is going to give in to her kids cries if they "WANT" to stay with our kids. It's alot of money to pay out not to have family time.

If she wants to do a friends thing like that, let her pay to stay there and invite us.

Not on our money. Especially when she knew weeks ago, and days ago that we had plans to go.
 
Then be very clear and frank with her. Tell her NO. She may get mad, but if she is a good friend, she will get over it.
 
Maybe a best idea next time when you and your hubby making plans...don't say a word to her so you can have a peaceful weekend?

It is rude to butt in! UGH!

I hope you'll enjoy and make your money worth it.
 
Ofcourse, I am such an idiot!

I am pretty angry with her. I mean, my mother said she has issues if
she has to be where we are. I think we may still go, I mean our room isn't ready until 3 ~ we need to give the little one her treatment during the times we are there.

So maybe it won't be as bad as I am making it out to be. I will have to tell her that I will see you when we get back.

And explain that we are here to spend time with our family.

I know she gives in all the time when her kids cry, but I know Hubby will just say let's go kids...and we will do something else.

You have no idea how much of a break we need.
 
I understand girlie! I don't blame you. You got beauitful girls! I hope they changed the plans at last minutes and give you a peace weekend!

RainGurl said:
Ofcourse, I am such an idiot!

I am pretty angry with her. I mean, my mother said she has issues if
she has to be where we are. I think we may still go, I mean our room isn't ready until 3 ~ we need to give the little one her treatment during the times we are there.

So maybe it won't be as bad as I am making it out to be. I will have to tell her that I will see you when we get back.

And explain that we are here to spend time with our family.

I know she gives in all the time when her kids cry, but I know Hubby will just say let's go kids...and we will do something else.

You have no idea how much of a break we need.
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i know how you feel when a friend butt in

i agree that next time don't tell her anything just take and go have time with your family ALONE

smile
 
I agree what other said about it.... Confront her and tell her dead up that you want to spend time with family ALONE! Good luck! :)
 
A 'friend' is one that will truly understand your needs and desires by respecting such. If she can't do that, then surely she doens't know the meaning of being a respectful friend.

As for the trip, go...if you run into her, then confront her 'alone' and let your heart speak for you, hopefully she'll 'see' it in your eyes what it is that you are expecting...expecting to have 'family time' alone...and surely she'll factor that in and be willingly to leave you and your family alone to enjoy the vacation.

I do hope for the best and please do enjoy your family gathering and time together, may it all be truly a great time just being together and having what fun you and family can have. ;)

Do take great care now!! :)
 
i am sowwy that u had wrong time.. and umm, next time dont tell her what ur plan.. allright.. i hope everything will be smooth
 
Raingurl.... Your family comes first before friends... you should tell her the whole truth that your family comes first !! Forget your friend for while as you go on your vacation with your family... I had seen pix of your daughters.. they are beautiful...
SxyPorkie :ugh2:
 
I'm glad that you and your family aren't going camping because of your little one has been sick along with asthma.

Have fun with your trip! :D
 
Hey Raingurl,

I advise you, You talk her out... Don't butt in our family quality time reason need to deserved to be "alone family quaility time". I hope she'll have to accept and let you guys go and have fun familly qualitfty time alone gateway!

Tell her, Another time and to see if have good time.. whatever if you can let her butt in your family once that is it.. Don't let her control your way.

I know where is Chatham Fifth Wheel and wanted to go there but don't know when if we have good time to go.. I heard some of new things at Fifth Wheel Inn Chatham.. and also little expensive but worth it for suitable children deserved to be "fun". (chuckles)

Let me know how's went so far! *smile*
 
Awww, Rain, I hope you get to go on your Family Vacation!!!! God knows you all need it. This isn't fair to you regarding your friend. You made it very clear to her that this is a family time, and that you all want to be alone. She doesn't get it? Then you need to put your foot down, and tell her please (as Roadrunner said), if she is any kind of a friend to you, then she will respect your wishes, and leave you all alone. I know it has been hard to get everyone together as your husband has his work schedule, and you're in school, so this is the only chance right now for all of you to have a great time together. Go and have fun, and if you do run into her? Take Roadrunner's advice, and tell her right to her face.
Have a great time on your vacation!!! :hug: :hug: :hug: :ily: :ily:
 
Back From Wheels Inn!!

Oh my gosh! We had a blast!
We have been before but just only for a day. They stayed up until 10-11pm going on the rides, doing games, we swam all day yesterday. We did some more rides, and we did bowling, we did everything that we could possible do. They went in the huge jungle gym, I got lots of pictures as well!

It was just a really nice break a way. My friend knew I was pretty upset, she called yesterday and asked if we were home yet. I said no we weren't leaving until 7. We were even able to check out at 6 usually check out is like 11. We weren't charged extra either!

We got to relax, and everything!

Oh and my awesome hubby got me a digital camera the one that we wanted to get since last year. It was reg. 379 marked down with tax 217.
So believe you me, I am talking TONS of pictures!

Hugs, thanks for your advice to still go. We did, and we had such an incredible family time! :) :) :) :) :)

I am glad we didn't go camping either, we were still able to come up every time she needed treatments. She was still coughing away when we were there. But with having a hotel room, and being indoors she was so much better.

RG
 
Oh, it's too late for me to give you advice here!!!

Yes, I'm agree with Roadrunner & CODAgirl. Explain your friend in friendly way how you feel and want to be alone to enjoy with your family. She should show her respect on your wish if she's really your friend.

I'm glad that you enjoyed yourself on your wonderful day... I can't wait to see the pictures... I must have miss that you put pictures of your 2 girls somewhere here... I am not on the online much.... pretty busy due summer time...
 
:applause: I am so happy that you are thrilled with full of blast of fun. Glad you went and enjoy your family time. Do share some of the pixes and I would love to see it. :hug:
 
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