I am tired of feeling alone :(

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omgcid

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I am hearing and my last relationship really hurt me. I have never dated a deaf guy before because all of the ones I meet are either taken or gay. I do have a lot of deaf friends and I am afraid to ask them to set me up with someone. I want something new in my life like dating a deaf person. I am not asking to settle down but I am looking for something serious. Today I was at the beach with my friends and since it was fourth of july everyone had someone to hold and play with while I was alone. I will admit I am jealous of my friends but I just want someone to enjoy life with me. I live in California and I am 15, I love having a fun time and if you would like to hang out sometime feel free to ask.
 
Maybe you're looking in the wrong place and for the wrong thing. Most 15 year olds aren't looking for anything "serious," they're just looking for sex. Why not try something easier like friendship? You're probably very mature for your age but most 15 year old boys aren't, so maybe you need to go about this different.... Why can't you volunteer someplace? You'll meet nice people and perhaps form a few friendships. I don't think anyone should be serious at 15 but friendship is important. You should try branching out and join a dance class or study a martial arts or join a club at school (when it's back in). Developing good social skills is always important - you'll have plenty of time ahead of you to date.

Laura
 
Afraid I have no advice to give. At 15 my friends and I weren't dating; we just hung out with each other or our families.

I'm sorry but this forum isn't a place to meet potential boyfriends. Most of the guys here are adults.

Like Laura said, now is the age to learn new skills and participate in a variety of activities. Those are things that you can enjoy while at the same time becoming a more interesting and well-rounded person.
 
Lau2046 said:
Maybe you're looking in the wrong place and for the wrong thing. Most 15 year olds aren't looking for anything "serious," they're just looking for sex. Why not try something easier like friendship? You're probably very mature for your age but most 15 year old boys aren't, so maybe you need to go about this different.... Why can't you volunteer someplace? You'll meet nice people and perhaps form a few friendships. I don't think anyone should be serious at 15 but friendship is important. You should try branching out and join a dance class or study a martial arts or join a club at school (when it's back in). Developing good social skills is always important - you'll have plenty of time ahead of you to date.

Laura
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The way the OP was talking I thought they where in their 20's or 30's , I agree it would be best to get and met new people and who know the OP might met a guy she like . Guys like girls that are independent and have their own life .
 
whatdidyousay! said:
The way the OP was talking I thought they where in their 20's or 30's , I agree it would be best to get and met new people and who know the OP might met a guy she like . Guys like girls that are independent and have their own life .
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At first, I thought she was someone older, too.
 
whatdidyousay! said:
The way the OP was talking I thought they where in their 20's or 30's , I agree it would be best to get and met new people and who know the OP might met a guy she like . Guys like girls that are independent and have their own life .
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I thought the same. At 15 I was more interested in finding friends and fitting in...getting serious with anybody (including school) was dead last on my list of priorities....
 
I do great when it comes to academics, have healthy relationships with friends, and a happy family that I love very much; but I do not have a boyfriend. There are guys my age in this world that can commit, I know because I have had a few. I am happy with myself and everything that goes on in my life, I just wish I could experience that with someone.
 
omgcid said:
I do great when it comes to academics, have healthy relationships with friends, and a happy family that I love very much; but I do not have a boyfriend. There are guys my age in this world that can commit, I know because I have had a few. I am happy with myself and everything that goes on in my life, I just wish I could experience that with a someone.
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Romantic relationships will come in time but you learn about how to sustain relationships through friends. I'm curious how much your parents actually know about your life under their roof, and I think you should be talking to them about why romantic relationships are so important to you at 15.
 
omgcid said:
I do great when it comes to academics, have healthy relationships with friends, and a happy family that I love very much; but I do not have a boyfriend. There are guys my age in this world that can commit, I know because I have had a few. I am happy with myself and everything that goes on in my life, I just wish I could experience that with someone.
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I am 42 years old and gosh, if I only know what I know now back at 15, I would have avoided all the mistakes I made in my relationships and my first marriage!

Everyone else has good advice. Your life and your path to take...
 
My parents have only met one boy that I brought home and that was because our relationship was starting to get serious. We went out for 8 months until we ended it. My parents can see the sadness in my eyes when they ask why I do not have a boyfriend. I know they do not bring it up to make me sad, but really just to keep up with my life. When my parents ask me questions about my love life I do not mind answering. Love is something I am willing to wait on, it just gets lonely when I am out with my friends who are with their girlfriend/boyfriend.
 
omgcid said:
My parents have only met one boy that I brought home and that was because our relationship was starting to get serious. We went out for 8 months until we ended it. My parents can see the sadness in my eyes when they ask why I do not have a boyfriend. I know they do not bring it up to make me sad, but really just to keep up with my life. When my parents ask me questions about my love life I do not mind answering. Love is something I am willing to wait on, it just gets lonely when I am out with my friends who are with their girlfriend/boyfriend.
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I remember being there before when it seemed that all of my friends had a significant other except for me. I have to admit that it wasn't a fun feeling to have. Hang in there!
 
Lau2046 said:
Romantic relationships will come in time but you learn about how to sustain relationships through friends. I'm curious how much your parents actually know about your life under their roof, and I think you should be talking to them about why romantic relationships are so important to you at 15.
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Yeah , The OP really should be talking to her mother or some older woman she feel safe talking to , and not strangers about how lonely she is on line . it's not safe . There are too many weirdo out there looking for lonely girls to prey on.
 
omgcid said:
I do great when it comes to academics, have healthy relationships with friends, and a happy family that I love very much; but I do not have a boyfriend. There are guys my age in this world that can commit, I know because I have had a few. I am happy with myself and everything that goes on in my life, I just wish I could experience that with someone.
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Omg. I wish I was 15 all over again and be carefree enjoying my last years of childhood. I remember being 15 and not caring one bit about being in a committed relationship. The world was complicated enough with school And sports and mischief in my case Changing friends as everyone started to change.

Advice given by others are great ones.

soon your gonna deal with possible college applications figuring out what you want to do for the rest of your life getting a drivers license and part time job and bills why do you want to add a boyfriend with raging hormones into the mix. Soon your lifes gonna be so complicated. Slow the heck down. Things will work out.
 
I remember being 15 and thinking that if I had something turbocharged, I would fit in and make more friends. Sadly, I was wrong.
 
At age 15, no one is ready for commitment or "relationships," and it's very sad that there seems to be pressure on teens to get into serious situations while they are so young.

Getting thru high school and college, and establishing a career are plenty enough pressure without adding the drama of "relationships."
 
omgcid said:
My parents have only met one boy that I brought home and that was because our relationship was starting to get serious. We went out for 8 months until we ended it. My parents can see the sadness in my eyes when they ask why I do not have a boyfriend. I know they do not bring it up to make me sad, but really just to keep up with my life. When my parents ask me questions about my love life I do not mind answering. Love is something I am willing to wait on, it just gets lonely when I am out with my friends who are with their girlfriend/boyfriend.
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The bolded sections are red flags.

At 15, there should not be serious relationships.

Why would parents ask why you don't have a boyfriend? That makes it sound like they think something is wrong with not having a boyfriend.

At 15, one shouldn't have a "love life." That's too serious.

Maybe it's your friends who are off track; maybe they are too serious about dating.

Are there any other friends who are not dating that you could hang out with?

Also, is it just loneliness you are feeling or something else that is bothering you?
 
omgcid said:
My parents have only met one boy that I brought home and that was because our relationship was starting to get serious. We went out for 8 months until we ended it. My parents can see the sadness in my eyes when they ask why I do not have a boyfriend. I know they do not bring it up to make me sad, but really just to keep up with my life. When my parents ask me questions about my love life I do not mind answering. Love is something I am willing to wait on, it just gets lonely when I am out with my friends who are with their girlfriend/boyfriend.
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Then trying asking one of your friends if they know of a guy you could met or volunteer at an animal shelter ,there are a lot lonely dogs and cats that would love to get some attention or taken for a walk. I really don't think it help having your parents asking you why you do not have a b/f. If you keep letting people know you're feeling so lonely not having a b/f it will give other people the impression that you do not have a life of your own. A guy is not going want to go with a girl that look sad b/c she is lonely. Try to have some fun with your friends and stop feeling sorry for yourself . If you keep acting so lonely when you're with your friends they may not want to hang out with anymore. You're only 15 yo and your parents should not be bugging you about not having a b/f it's not making you feel any better.
 
omg most of deaf guys you meet are gay hmmmmmmmm to want deaf guy only at your age what reason he got be deaf at 15....have you thought of good book to read you can read another when fed up with it
 
I been thinking we do not a lot about the OP background or culture, some cultures are OK with girls dating young and getting married young. This could be why the parents are asking why their daughter does not have a b/f yet .
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