How old were you...

I'm bisexual. I've always had crushes on both guys and girls, and actually had my first kiss... on the school playground in elementary school... with a girl. I didn't come out until only a couple of years ago, when I was 22-23 (it took a bit of time to talk to different people). I think part of the reason it took me so long was BECAUSE I was bisexual. While I knew I liked girls, I told myself I couldn't be gay or anything, because I liked guys... and I just ignored it beyond that. Eventually I got to the point where I just said, screw it, this is who I am.

Reactions varied. My mom brushed me off with a "well, but I know you prefer guys" (not true... I think my attractions are about 50/50, but I've dated guys primarily both because it took me so long to accept my bisexuality, and because as a feminine girl, people tend to assume I'm straight. I therefore get more guys approaching me than girls, which frustrates me, to a point). My friends were very accepting, and several told me they'd already known. One female friend told me I'd drunkenly kissed her in high school (I hadn't remembered... whoops!) and another friend (an ex-boyfriend, in fact) just said, "Oh, you're talking about it now?" :laugh2:
 
I have early memories of being different from my two sisters. I was a tom who ran away from makeover plots. Because boys were jerks in junior high, I gravitated toward girls. I'd peep at my gymmates in the locker room. (Ack! I know.) Then in high school, I was a loner. I generally just watched people at lunch while I ate until I went to the library to read pornographic novels that I kept in my locker instead of home. (I was very into sex literature).
In college, I realized that I was bisexual, my preferences at 50/50. I got into a GSA group before I decided to come out to the world. However, my family has no idea. They are ultraMormon after all. I'm thinking of dropping the bomb either Thanksgiving or Christmas. My boyfriend knows and doesn't care. My family don't even know about him either.
Interesting. I'm also out on FB but my family haven't managed to hack in and find out that way. I must have done a good job with blocking and setting up security.
I stay close to six friends, all of whom have knowledge of this fact. Three are bisexual. I'm glad for them.
By the way, I'm now 20. I started coming out at 19.
 
I actually came out in my 30's. It took me a while to realize that I was in love with my best friend. I do remember kissing a girl when I was about 10-12 and I remember I did like it. Now that I know that I am bisexual, I catch myself looking at girls and thinking things like "she has a nice butt, or she has a pretty smile." I grew up in an age where if you were gay or bisexual, you did not admit it to anyone or risk getting beat up. I think it was this taboo on bisexuality and homosexuality that kept me from realizing for so long what I truly was.
 
LuciaDisturbed said:
How old were you when you first suspected you might be gay or lesbian and how old were you when you came out of the closet?
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I'm pansexual and I've basically always known that I'm attracted to multiple genders. Even when I was a kid. Most of my close friends have known my sexuality for quite some time, but I started being REALLY up front about it when I was 21-22. Told my parents when I was 22 (I'm 24 now). I never really needed to tell them because I've always been in long term relationships with men. But when I told my mom she was like, BUT HOW DO YOU KNOW? HAVE YOU HAD SEX WITH A WOMAN? And I had to be like, yep mom, I have. Sooooo uncomfortable.
 
Ildri said:
Reactions varied. My mom brushed me off with a "well, but I know you prefer guys" (not true... I think my attractions are about 50/50, but I've dated guys primarily both because it took me so long to accept my bisexuality, and because as a feminine girl, people tend to assume I'm straight.
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I've had my sexuality brushed off by many people too; I'm also pretty femme. I'm actually attracted to *more* women than men (number-wise, not my feelings when I'm with someone), but also have pretty much only had serious relationships with men. I think that's because statistically speaking...there are more straight men out there than queer women, so it makes sense that I'd come across more men interested in me than women, and even less so people who identify outside of the gender binary (genderqueer etc.). I hate when people ~don't believe~ my sexuality haha. I always want to be like, "I think I know who I'm attracted to, THANKS FOR YOUR INPUT." :giggle:
 
Ive known for longer then I can remember

Ive known since I was a young child. When girls had crushes on boys in school I had secret crushes on girls. I came out at 15, when I started dating a friend of mine. :bye:
 
I had my first sexual dreams when I was about 13, and they left no doubt at all. I came out to my mom at 19. She was really sweet about it; when she asked me how long I'd known an I said "for about 6 years," she said, "I'm so sorry you thought you had to hide it all this time."

The weird thing is, I went back into the closet a couple years later (religion...) and stayed there - with occasional forays out to get certain needs met but always with guilt after - for 13 years. I came back out at about 32, for good!
 
Hey Everyone

When i first thought about it i thought it was when i was 15 but thinking back to it when i was younger i think i showed signs then. When my family would go on holiday and we went to Butlins, i used to always want to be round the pretty redcoats or older attractive girls. When i was 15 i started having 'dreams' about girls but i shrugged it off. I thought i just admired them, i certainly admired them alright! but not in the way i thought. It wasn't til i was 19 when i started to really think about it and then i met my gf :) I came out to my mum as bi when i was 20 and she thought i was joking but she said she loves me no matter what. Though she always comments on guys and says how she doesn't think i am. I came out to my friends Feb 2011 and they said it doesn't change who i am. I love them! I have great friends. I haven't come out to everybody though just the people close to me.
 
I liked girls as long as I can remember. But, didn't know there was a name for it until I was 11 and came out just before I turned 13.
 
I realized I was attracted to guys when I was 14 and came out to friends when I was 15. My mom outed me when I was 15 because she looked through my notes I had written with a friend and they mentioned me being gay. She was cool with it, she just felt like I should not have hid it from her.
 
LuciaDisturbed said:
How old were you when you first suspected you might be gay or lesbian and how old were you when you came out of the closet?
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I am very confused. Lets just keep it at that. :)

I always kinda knew that I was not 100% straight since I was 7 but denyed it. I kind of addimitted it to myself when I was 12 when I began to develop some crushes. When I was 15 I sort of developed this relationship with a girl at cadets, it kinda went down the drain when she dropped the L-bomb on me to soon.

I still haven't came out of the closet yet. I am still trying to sort out everything.
 
I was 11 when I realized I like guys, not girls. I kept my feelings secret because all the other boys in my class were talking about girls, so I thought something was wrong with me. A year later I found out that me liking other boys was "gay" and that being gay is generally not accepted by most people, so I decided to keep it a secret from everyone. When I was 13 I told a couple of my "close" friends that I am gay, expecting them to keep it a secret since I asked them to, but they in turn started telling other people. This caused a lot of problems in school for me, and I denied being gay to anyone who mentioned it. I came out to my mom when I was 14 because the problems at school were getting too difficult for me to handle, and I knew I could count on my mom to help me through them. After that I decided I just don't give a f*ck what people think about me, so I stopped denying my sexuality to anything who said anything to me. This caused a lot more problems with my classmates, so I started home schooling the rest of the year. The following year I went back to public school. It was still tough, but better than the previous year. Things got a little better each year through the rest of high school. Now I'm super happy with myself and I'm glad for the decisions that I made then and all the suffering I went through because I feel it's made me a stronger person.
 
LuciaDisturbed said:
How old were you when you first suspected you might be gay or lesbian and how old were you when you came out of the closet?
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I started suspected that I'm bisexual when I was 7 years old because I stared at some boys and had play and hug with one boy at PE. It can be earlier as 3 years old or 4 years old because I got play with my best friend ever, boy, such as petting the clothes, hugging and feel the hair. It can be between 3 years old to 7 years old, hard to remember about exact age.

I don't know about word "gay" and "bisexual" until 10 years old so I started came out when I was 14 years old but lucky, my parent accepted me, however my father was in somewhere uncomfortable with me so finally he accepted me in few days later.
 
i in my 60's and still waiting find out if gay, my husband is though but he got crap sense of fashion
 
Looking back, I've been attracted to other guys since I was 5-6. I actually thought that all men were attracted to other men, but you had to date women. I didn't do anything about it until college though. Didn't come out for another 7 years. I think I'm just a slow learner...
 
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