This is AlleyCat's post here from another thread:
I just wondered how long it takes to become proficient at sign language. When I read this I was like, wow, it must take longer than I thought. I heard that after 3 semesters of ASL a person should be able to carry on a decent conversation. As someone going into my 3rd semester of ASL I can say the more I learn, the more I see I need to learn. Real ASL seems like layers of an onion. It's a very deep an complex language.
It certainly takes 2 to make it work.
My hearing husband and I were together for 5 1/2 years before marrying. In that time, I taught him all his basic signs. He then went to our local college and took 2 years of ASL (ASL 1-4), Deaf Culture, Linguistics. He's gone with me to our local Deaf club to meet my Deaf friends. By no means is he proficient yet, but he's slowing getting there. His Deaf Culture class really opened his eyes to understand what I experienced as a deaf child and the hardships growing up (learning the language, being bullied, you name it.)
For me, as the Deaf person, I have to be patient and teach him signs he still doesn't know. I have to be patient when he's feeling nervous about the Deaf club. We have friends stopping by all the time (who are hearing) and sometimes it gets loud and rambunctious in our house, but I end up feeling left out. It's hard. I often retreat to our bedroom and play with our cats, with my iPhone or iPad, etc. He understands and comes find me and keeps me company from time to time throughout the night. He understands I can't do an entire night of lipreading everyone. He tries to sign what others are saying. Sometimes its a lost art when things can't be kept up with. But I appreciate the effort.
All said, it's not easy. It does take 2 to make it work.
I just wondered how long it takes to become proficient at sign language. When I read this I was like, wow, it must take longer than I thought. I heard that after 3 semesters of ASL a person should be able to carry on a decent conversation. As someone going into my 3rd semester of ASL I can say the more I learn, the more I see I need to learn. Real ASL seems like layers of an onion. It's a very deep an complex language.
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