How do you want to be treated/viewed in the hearing community?

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Eowyn

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As a hearing person with a sister who has been battling hearing losses for years now I am interested in deaf culture. My biggest question is how do you want hearing people to view you? I struggle to find a balance between having compassion for people with hearing losses, but at the same time knowing that the struggles don't define a person. And I don't want to come across as viewing people with hearing losses as incompetent or anything (which I know is not true). So what is the balance in your eyes?
 
like a normal human being. I may not be able to hear, but I can still do anything a hearing person does. I'm not stupid/dumb, I'm perfectly capable of living life as I see fit for myself.
 
to be treated as valued as employable but not for 'access to deaf community to control them' but to be picked and mentored into something that a d/Deaf wants to try/be in society, hearing people DO have lower opinion of d/Deaf people! it IS rotten!! subtle or not.....subtle become denied and vice versa - unbelievable
 
Gotta agree with the above.

As a person.
As a viable employee who has much to offer (even though my interview abilities sucks donkeyballs and I have to find other ways to communicate with you...)
As a human.
As a brother, uncle, son etc (this part isn't a problem for the most part in my family...they try... they do...gotta work on my chatterbox nephew though).
 
I'm Derek. I consider myself a person who can be asset to our society as one whole universe.
 
Like the way you treat everyone else. Dont need anyones pity. One of the times i hate it when im deaf is when i have to deal with someone acting its too inconvient to deal with once find out cannot hear and need to slow down n try again in communication then quit or walk away. Im still standing there trying.
 
Eowyn said:
As a hearing person with a sister who has been battling hearing losses for years now I am interested in deaf culture. My biggest question is how do you want hearing people to view you? I struggle to find a balance between having compassion for people with hearing losses, but at the same time knowing that the struggles don't define a person. And I don't want to come across as viewing people with hearing losses as incompetent or anything (which I know is not true). So what is the balance in your eyes?
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Compassion for what??

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Audiofuzzy said:
Compassion for what??

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Gee I don't know. I guess for things like music that you don't get to hear??? I know that has been the hardest thing for my sister, although she has continued to play the piano even when she has virtually no hearing at times.
 
Tousi said:
I can't quite tune a piano but so what......:lol:
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That is ok, I suck at babysitting babies in diapers cause I can't smell to save my life and never know when they need changing! But I do wonder what it would be like to know what things smell like. And I do appreciate things like my sister telling me the cookies are burning, although it irks me that I can't know that on my own.

And I can't tune a piano either. :wave:
 
As a god...

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As someone who is employable in different areas of jobs not just in the deaf fields. Other than that, I don't care to be treated as a friend by the hearing community. Just hire me and you don't have to go out of your way to treat me as your friend.
 
shel90 said:
As someone who is employable in different areas of jobs not just in the deaf fields. Other than that, I don't care to be treated as a friend by the hearing community. Just hire me and you don't have to go out of your way to treat me as your friend.
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So you don't want to be friends with hearing people? Or am I misunderstanding you? Why not? Isn't that just the opposite of being audist? I mean we are all people, differences just make friendships more fun. I have a friend who is learning english, and we frequently miss communicate but we just laugh about it and let the differences make the friendship stronger. I am pretty sure if I ever got to really know you, we could probably be really good friends. And I know if the world ever got to know you, they would not only see you as someone who is employable in a job sense, but as someone who could be a really good friend. So why not give them a chance to see that?
 
Eowyn said:
Gee I don't know. I guess for things like music that you don't get to hear??? I know that has been the hardest thing for my sister, although she has continued to play the piano even when she has virtually no hearing at times.
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I can't hear some sounds but I do no need anyone to feel sorry for me.
 
Eowyn said:
So you don't want to be friends with hearing people? Or am I misunderstanding you? Why not? Isn't that just the opposite of being audist? I mean we are all people, differences just make friendships more fun. I have a friend who is learning english, and we frequently miss communicate but we just laugh about it and let the differences make the friendship stronger. I am pretty sure if I ever got to really know you, we could probably be really good friends. And I know if the world ever got to know you, they would not only see you as someone who is employable in a job sense, but as someone who could be a really good friend. So why not give them a chance to see that?
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Employment is my priority. I am not looking for a job to make friends with hearing people. If it happens, great, if not, I don't care. My family and close friends comes first.

BTW, I am married to a hearing guy.
 
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