how do you feel when you are out of love ?

Another quote:

What doesn't kills ya, makes you a stronger person...

hang in there smile,
 
thanks horselover61 & Canuckian_Chick

I'll save the quote to my signature, Canuckian_Chick :)
 
When a relationship ends people assume that it is easy on the person who ends things. It is as if the person who does the breaking up, or who is thinking of breaking things off, is a person with no feelings, but nothing could be further from the truth. Sometimes people break off a relationship without remorse but this is not the norm. Most of the time falling OUT of love is a painful and confusing process filled with doubt and guilt. In fact falling OUT of love can be a more emmotional process than falling IN love.
 
i am sowwy abt that.. :hug: i know it hard on u but have many women out of the world and u will pick right woman for u.. :)
 
I am sorry highland. I agree with Cheri. There is another one, 'When you love someone...if it doesn't come back...set it free...Because it was meant to be...' I know it truly does hurts, but we all moved on, and I know you will.
 
Highlands,

You are not alone -- I have just got a broken heart today -- A friend, I have liked told me that she doesn't find the relationship anywhere near romantic. BUT she wants to be friends with me as she finds me as an fablous person. I was a bit disappointed, but really, there is nothing I can do, but to accept what she wants and I perferred to be friends too. Friendship is important too.
 
Highlands...I have been there with 3 guys that I dated after my divorce. I really fell for them while dating but at the end they told me that they didnt feel the same way as I did for them. The first one, he was my classmate in the same program as I was at Gally so it was hard to see him in almost every class for a whole year and I kinda got obsessed over hoping that he will change his mind one day and declare his love for me. The other 2 guys were easier to get over cuz I had learned how not to dwell on it for too long like I did with the first guy.

For one year, I didnt date nor purposefully search for someone cuz I got tired of being burned or being the one who burned the guy. While, I wasnt looking, my 2nd hubby came along. Life is full of surprises.

Hope u will feel better soon! :hug:
 
We all get hurt one way or another in relationship. Love does hurt. I have been hurt lot of times and get burned. But I learn to move on and never to give up hope to finding love again with the right man, I am still searching but not yet fall or fell in love with a man that haven't win my heart and trust. It take time to find the right person. But love will find a way again.
 
I know you cannot make people love you. But, I see friendship as a good thing, because a relationship can develop from friendship even though they can say that they are not interested in a relationship at present stage. Your friend may also have other friends that you may find interesting, etc...
 
shel90 said:
Highlands...I have been there with 3 guys that I dated after my divorce. I really fell for them while dating but at the end they told me that they didnt feel the same way as I did for them. The first one, he was my classmate in the same program as I was at Gally so it was hard to see him in almost every class for a whole year and I kinda got obsessed over hoping that he will change his mind one day and declare his love for me. The other 2 guys were easier to get over cuz I had learned how not to dwell on it for too long like I did with the first guy.

For one year, I didnt date nor purposefully search for someone cuz I got tired of being burned or being the one who burned the guy. While, I wasnt looking, my 2nd hubby came along. Life is full of surprises. Hope u will feel better soon! :hug:
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You stole your husband from Andrew's old roommate !! Andrew miss his cooking as chef. :lol:

We are very happy for you to find a right guy! :D
 
Highlands, Wow I just noticed this thread just now and I am so sorry that happened to you, and I know how you feeling with out of love, I had that before with my ex girlfriend who really REALLY broken my heart that I found out that she has been affair with other woman behind my back for whole 1 year that I didnt know... So I knew how this feeling! Highlands, you will find the right and desrves better! for you and in love and happier again. :) :hug:
 
SxySpicyGrrl said:
Highlands, Wow I just noticed this thread just now and I am so sorry that happened to you, and I know how you feeling with out of love, I had that before with my ex girlfriend who really REALLY broken my heart that I found out that she has been affair with other woman behind my back for whole 1 year that I didnt know... So I knew how this feeling! Highlands, you will find the right and desrves better! for you and in love and happier again. :) :hug:
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Cheri said:
I know how you feel. It does hurt when you love someone who doesn't love you back. But, I've learned that you can't make someone to love you when you want someone to even if you do everything right. You know the saying is if you love someone let them go, if they come back they were always yours, and if they dont then they never were. :)
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that quote doesnt work well in my case. my sons father cheated on me and went on with someone else.. i let him go... cuz i didnt want to fight with that bitch... so 3 yrs later.. they were unhappy together and he came back to me and told me he still love me etc and wanted to try again with me which i said ok cuz i still loved him at the time.. so we got back together and started over but only that bitch said I AM PREGGY.. he had to go back to her.... she LIED to get him back in her life.... 2 weeks later I found out I was pregnant with TJ... I told him and he couldnt believe it.. two ladies preggy same time... when that bitch found out i waS PREGGy same time as her.. she hit the roof.. later she said she lost the baby... but she never went to dr or hospital.. she was never preggy... yet he stayed with her... so that quote sucks big time... after that i never believed in it ever since... ever since i let him go... yet he still come back to me and trying to get me back.... i told him no... i have moved on without him... i will always have a place for him in my heart... but we never can be more than that but best friend thats all... not with our history and that bitch.. forget it.. i dont want to fight....too much hassles...

highlands i am sorry to hear about that... i hope you will find new love but dont rush it and give it times for you to get it over that... you will find one someday.... :)

for me? I dont think i will find love again... love sucks... you gotta make compromises on some things.. Lord know I have made compromises and sacrifices and look at where i am now? being played of and etc. no more.. sigh....
 
Freaky Cat said:
that quote doesnt work well in my case. my sons father cheated on me and went on with someone else.. i let him go... cuz i didnt want to fight with that bitch... so 3 yrs later.. they were unhappy together and he came back to me and told me he still love me etc and wanted to try again with me which i said ok cuz i still loved him at the time.. so we got back together and started over but only that bitch said I AM PREGGY.. he had to go back to her.... she LIED to get him back in her life.... 2 weeks later I found out I was pregnant with TJ... I told him and he couldnt believe it.. two ladies preggy same time... when that bitch found out i waS PREGGy same time as her.. she hit the roof.. later she said she lost the baby... but she never went to dr or hospital.. she was never preggy... yet he stayed with her... so that quote sucks big time... after that i never believed in it ever since... ever since i let him go... yet he still come back to me and trying to get me back.... i told him no... i have moved on without him... i will always have a place for him in my heart... but we never can be more than that but best friend thats all... not with our history and that bitch.. forget it.. i dont want to fight....too much hassles...

highlands i am sorry to hear about that... i hope you will find new love but dont rush it and give it times for you to get it over that... you will find one someday.... :)

for me? I dont think i will find love again... love sucks... you gotta make compromises on some things.. Lord know I have made compromises and sacrifices and look at where i am now? being played of and etc. no more.. sigh....
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Ouch freaky, That was a bad situation you were in with your ex. But important thing u got a beauitful son. Some ex boyfriends and ex husbands never learn to keep their pants on when they cheat. They are always busy thinking with their head in their pant and cheat. I had enough guys cheat on me and I feel ya girl!
 
Here a song about falling out of love by Reba.


He says he loves her...what can you say to that
He's made up his mind and there ain't nothin' you can do
And as you swallow hard...maybe you drive all night
Tryin' to figure out where the whole thing started goin' wrong
And in the silence something begins to unravel
You never knew him like you'll be knowing him now

Chorus:
Fallin' out of love and back into your life
Pullin' your heart out from under the knife
Closin' the door on all those dreams you used to know
Fallin' out of love and back on your feet
Turnin' away from that dead end street

[Fallin' Out of Love lyrics on http://www.metrolyrics.com]
Finding out that nothing feels as good as letting go

That's when he called you up out of the blue one day
And you know he thinks he's talkin' to the girl you used to be
So when you tell him he's just a memory
Ain't it funny how his voice cracks when you're sayin' goodbye
And in the silence something begins to unravel
He never knew you like he'll be knowing you now

Repeat chorus

Tag:
Oh and nothing feels as good as letting go
He said he loved her
 
GarnetTigerMom said:
When a relationship ends people assume that it is easy on the person who ends things. It is as if the person who does the breaking up, or who is thinking of breaking things off, is a person with no feelings, but nothing could be further from the truth. Sometimes people break off a relationship without remorse but this is not the norm. Most of the time falling OUT of love is a painful and confusing process filled with doubt and guilt. In fact falling OUT of love can be a more emmotional process than falling IN love.
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Gotta agree wholeheartly about your post.. you just can't shut it off it takes time, I think we have to think we have a life too... if we can make ourselves happy then if it didn't work out, we still be happy and SANE.. :giggle:
 
Cheri said:
I know how you feel. It does hurt when you love someone who doesn't love you back. But, I've learned that you can't make someone to love you when you want someone to even if you do everything right. You know the saying is if you love someone let them go, if they come back they were always yours, and if they dont then they never were. :)
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Amen, I've been there, the second time around it shows if it'll work or not, as my feelings had changed and you always will have that situation that happened in the first place in the back of your mind. In a way, it does good to your heart and soul by letting them go!! at least you had a good ride but it wasn't meant to be... you can't hate yourself for it... smile..
 
Freaky Cat said:
that quote doesnt work well in my case. my sons father cheated on me and went on with someone else.. i let him go... cuz i didnt want to fight with that bitch... so 3 yrs later.. they were unhappy together and he came back to me and told me he still love me etc and wanted to try again with me which i said ok cuz i still loved him at the time.. so we got back together and started over but only that bitch said I AM PREGGY.. he had to go back to her.... she LIED to get him back in her life.... 2 weeks later I found out I was pregnant with TJ... I told him and he couldnt believe it.. two ladies preggy same time... when that bitch found out i waS PREGGy same time as her.. she hit the roof.. later she said she lost the baby... but she never went to dr or hospital.. she was never preggy... yet he stayed with her... so that quote sucks big time... after that i never believed in it ever since... ever since i let him go... yet he still come back to me and trying to get me back.... i told him no... i have moved on without him... i will always have a place for him in my heart... but we never can be more than that but best friend thats all... not with our history and that bitch.. forget it.. i dont want to fight....too much hassles...

highlands i am sorry to hear about that... i hope you will find new love but dont rush it and give it times for you to get it over that... you will find one someday.... :)

for me? I dont think i will find love again... love sucks... you gotta make compromises on some things.. Lord know I have made compromises and sacrifices and look at where i am now? being played of and etc. no more.. sigh....
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huggs ginger ouchie about that story about your son's father, I do believe once a cheater will always be a cheater... You really can't be mad at the son's father cause he's part of your life due to your son...I admired your courage to stick with what best for you... it's true, why we want to be in a relationship being miserable and thinking what if he'll do it again.. NO THANKS!!!

Hang in there girl, don't think that way that there's no love as God does have something for everyone to be in love... maybe not just your time yet, just hang in there hun!! focus on yourself first smile... huggs
 
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