how do you feel when you are out of love ?

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I loved this girl from where I work at. This lasted about a year.. in the end, she said she only talks to me as a close friend of hers..My heart broke into thousand pieces when I understand I'm only a friend :( I thought she did love me.. I'm hurt deep inside but not mad .I have been very confused,sad,thoughtful,worn-out these days..this shot me at heart :( I had a difficult time when I talk to her last time.. It was very difficult to accept her just as a friend.. I tried to be friendly but I felt like I lost my sun :(

so what about your feelings when you feel out of love
 
I know how you feel. It does hurt when you love someone who doesn't love you back. But, I've learned that you can't make someone to love you when you want someone to even if you do everything right. You know the saying is if you love someone let them go, if they come back they were always yours, and if they dont then they never were. :)
 
Cheri said:
I know how you feel. It does hurt when you love someone who doesn't love you back. But, I've learned that you can't make someone to love you when you want someone to even if you do everything right. You know the saying is if you love someone let them go, if they come back they were always yours, and if they dont then they never were. :)
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yes,I can't make someone love me.. love comes from heart :)
 
i know how i can image you being hurting so much i went through same thing last year i like this guy and turn out he not wanted to be in relationship and i was hurting so much. i understand how you feel highland i give you big hugs :hug: :hug: smile
 
it's tough when you have to see that person everyday.. that's one thing I stay away from is dating at work...

I always believe this quote "if it's not meant to be, then let it be" better you being loved than nothing at all.

That's correct you can't force someone to love you as it has to come from within... hang in there!!!
 
thank u moonflower, I spent a year of my life on this love.. but now,I'm trying to get used to being alone..
 
Canuckian_Chick said:
it's tough when you have to see that person everyday.. that's one thing I stay away from is dating at work...

I always believe this quote "if it's not meant to be, then let it be" better you being loved than nothing at all.

That's correct you can't force someone to love you as it has to come from within... hang in there!!!
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ty , yeah it's difficult to see her at work but fortunately she works at another department so I can take breath .. good quote,btw :)
 
Sometime in life, we learn to be stronger when we get heart broken. I was more heart broken when my first finacee' passed away back in 1996 due to brain tumor. Now I am married to a wonderful lady and we have 2 daughters. God works in mysterious ways LOL. Just take one day at a time and who knows, maybe you might meet someone tomorrow! Only God knows!
 
highlands said:
I loved this girl from where I work at. This lasted about a year.. in the end, she said she only talks to me as a close friend of hers..My heart broke into thousand pieces when I understand I'm only a friend :( I thought she did love me.. I'm hurt deep inside but not mad .I have been very confused,sad,thoughtful,worn-out these days..this shot me at heart :( I had a difficult time when I talk to her last time.. It was very difficult to accept her just as a friend.. I tried to be friendly but I felt like I lost my sun :(

so what about your feelings when you feel out of love
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Aw I am so sorry that you feel hurt. I know it is hard to let someone go that you really love so much. It's okay to cry until you compose and move on. I was hurt alot in the past, but I learned not to dwell on it and move on. Meet some new friends that will always make me to feel better. Go out with friends where I can share their laughs, teases, nice/clean jokes and all that until I come home to feel refresh feelings at bedtime. :)

I am sure you will be alright, my dear friend - go out and spend your good time with friends... and believe me, you will feel whole alot better. You won't regret it. ;)

Love will always come back and it won't be gone forever. You are always loved for bein' here. Here's my :hug:
 
I'm sorry, Highlands for what you are going through. I like some of advices that ADers gave you as we do care about you too! Love is best when shared by two people who love each other the same way. Knowing you from chatting with you online, you are wonderful person that deserve to be loved by the right lady hopefully soon. It takes time for your heart to heal before you will be ready again. Next year is a new year...smile
 
Highland,

I was dating with hearing guy last summer, did not realize that he is married. He admitted that he preferred to stay with his wife. Of course, it breaks my heart, need to stay in stronger and move on with my life. However, I still do think of him once a while. I have been very picky on Deaf guys nowadays because I couldn't replace Andrew with anyone else. He is very special in my life. I did go through www.deafsinglesconnect.com most guys are not my types.

Right now, I have no desire for long term relationship, need to focus on myself to figure out what I will do with my career and education. I have so many friends that I can chat with but not ready for serious relationship.
 
Cheri said:
I know how you feel. It does hurt when you love someone who doesn't love you back. But, I've learned that you can't make someone to love you when you want someone to even if you do everything right. You know the saying is if you love someone let them go, if they come back they were always yours, and if they dont then they never were. :)
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I'm very sorry Highlands :hug:
 
First of all, I can understand how you feel. I know it's hurtful but you has to accept the fact and move on when a girl see you as her friend.

highlands said:
yes,I can't make someone love me.. love comes from heart :)
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Exactly, that's what you know that you can't make her love you but heart itself. What Cheri said is correct.
 
Peachy Lady said:
I'm sorry, Highlands for what you are going through. I like some of advices that ADers gave you as we do care about you too! Love is best when shared by two people who love each other the same way. Knowing you from chatting with you online, you are wonderful person that deserve to be loved by the right lady hopefully soon. It takes time for your heart to heal before you will be ready again. Next year is a new year...smile
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thanks and I should take my time and cool down before a new start :)
 
Liebling:-))) said:
First of all, I can understand how you feel. I know it's hurtful but you has to accept the fact and move on when a girl see you as her friend.




Exactly, that's what you know that you can't make her love you but heart itself. What Cheri said is correct.
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you're correct here.. I don't see any point in being insistent .. but moving on isn't easy after one year .. I avoid seeing her and talking to her,though..
 
Kalista said:
Highland,

I was dating with hearing guy last summer, did not realize that he is married. He admitted that he preferred to stay with his wife. Of course, it breaks my heart, need to stay in stronger and move on with my life. However, I still do think of him once a while. I have been very picky on Deaf guys nowadays because I couldn't replace Andrew with anyone else. He is very special in my life. I did go through www.deafsinglesconnect.com most guys are not my types.

Right now, I have no desire for long term relationship, need to focus on myself to figure out what I will do with my career and education. I have so many friends that I can chat with but not ready for serious relationship.
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I hope best for you :)
 
I am sorry to hear that and I hope you the best of life. Take your time. I am not in a relationship right now cuz it is not the right time. I have so much to do and thing need to be straighten out before I can get into relationship also I want to get to know myself more and find out what I want in my life.
 
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