How can you say I am not who I say I am without knowing me?

[zebadee2010]

Yep

So. If this is in relation to the placing of my post. I guess it would have maybe fit better in On-topic Debates. Didn't see that one however.

 

[shel90]

Lucky for me my hearing loss wasn't genetic, so chances are slim that i'd have a deaf child. If my implant does fail I guess for that short term I would probably end up communicating like I am now. Pen and Paper or reading lips.
If the CI fails and re-implantation isn't as successful I may have a problem. but only if I can't understand speech. If I do decide to learn ASL, it would take me a few years. And may become difficult to remember. I only know of two people who know ASL in my county. One is a teacher and the other is an older guy who learned it for the heck of it.

I know many ASL users in NC.

 

[zebadee2010]

Thats what YOU know. The difference is.. I can find about 30ish ASL Deafies in your county if I was there and put in some effort.

Then... Countless more in Charlotte

I know there are probably deaf people here in my county. I know there are a few more who know ASL from the teacher. As for Charlotte, the only time I go there is for Dr. Appts. Other than finding people who actually know it, none of my current friends or family know ASL, and to have decided to just stay deaf and not get a CI would have meant that I would have to make all my friends either talk slow, or learn ASL. Or just chat on facebook..

 

[posts from hell]

I know many ASL users in NC.

Yeah, I personally know a few of them as well.. Theres decent amount of deaf events in NC too.

 

[Jiro]

How does saying that I'm still a noob to being deaf having anything to do with me being mature.

I could say that since you never learned to ride a bike, you're immature. Or You can't swim, you're immature. The list can go on and on of things that I may know little or much about. That doesn't mean i'm immature, that simply means i'm un-intelligent in that field.

noob? no.. you came here as a rude, obnoxious brat with a "gimme gimme gimme" attitude. You wanted to get the information you want - fast and easy and you wanted to hear what you want without getting to know of us first. and plus this is what you did -

i am in no way happy with my current situation. since i had hearing before there is so much that i miss now.. And for all the deaf people out there, i really feel sorry for you even though you probably don't want me to. but ya'll are missing quite a lot.

I know it will be a struggle and I know it won't be normal hearint (that's half of my problem with it) but it will be speech (again no disrespect) but speech is far faster and more effecive than ASL. And if all you're going to post is negative stuff then please don't post it. If you have something helpful other than hearing sucks then by all meas feel free to post it..

Thanks, I just feel that ASL is completely impractical for what i'm doing. ASL has its uses and concerts isn't one of them. Not to say songs can't be expressed using ASL.

Deaf people, can see signed music and perhaps feel it but they can't get the same emotion out of it as you do when you hear an artist suddenly drop the music or change keys to emphasize a certain part.

and more....

 

[posts from hell]

I know there are probably deaf people here in my county. I know there are a few more who know ASL from the teacher. As for Charlotte, the only time I go there is for Dr. Appts. Other than finding people who actually know it, none of my current friends or family know ASL, and to have decided to just stay deaf and not get a CI would have meant that I would have to make all my friends either talk slow, or learn ASL. Or just chat on facebook..

i wantto be clear on one thing: when did we ever tell you not to get a CI?

 

[shel90]

I know there are probably deaf people here in my county. I know there are a few more who know ASL from the teacher. As for Charlotte, the only time I go there is for Dr. Appts. Other than finding people who actually know it, none of my current friends or family know ASL, and to have decided to just stay deaf and not get a CI would have meant that I would have to make all my friends either talk slow, or learn ASL. Or just chat on facebook..

I am deaf and dont have a CI...I can communicate with my family but it has to be on an one-on-one basis or small groups. If there is a large group, my husband helps me out.

However, I am not in the hearing world full time like before so life is not limiting for me.

 

[Jiro]

Lucky for me my hearing loss wasn't genetic, so chances are slim that i'd have a deaf child. If my implant does fail I guess for that short term I would probably end up communicating like I am now. Pen and Paper or reading lips.
If the CI fails and re-implantation isn't as successful I may have a problem. but only if I can't understand speech. If I do decide to learn ASL, it would take me a few years. And may become difficult to remember. I only know of two people who know ASL in my county. One is a teacher and the other is an older guy who learned it for the heck of it.

a few years? difficult to remember?

I just learned ASL 2 years ago and it's definitely not difficult to remember. Mind you - I talk more than I sign on daily basis.

Just something to think about.... "A picture is worth thousand words." ASL is just like that

but hey... we're not telling you to learn ASL. I don't recall us telling you that when you first came here. In fact - we supported your choice in getting CI and we pitched in for you to know what to expect from post-CI surgery. What happened next got messy. You insulted us and brushed us off.

 

[zebadee2010]

i wantto be clear on one thing: when did we ever tell you not to get a CI?

Well you were there at my first thread. And at the time I hadn't decided that I was getting a CI as we didn't know if insurance would cover it yet. And you guys never said not to get a CI. Not that I remember.

 

[posts from hell]

Well you were there at my first thread. And at the time I hadn't decided that I was getting a CI as we didn't know if insurance would cover it yet. And you guys never said not to get a CI. Not that I remember.

ok I want that to be clear. You can now see we're NOT anti-ci.

THere are people telling you that, I want you to believe otherwise.

 

[shel90]

ok I want that to be clear. You can now see we're NOT anti-ci.

THere are people telling you that, I want you to believe otherwise.

A few angry people say that we are anti-CI...up to you if you want to believe those people or not.

 

[zebadee2010]

I am deaf and dont have a CI...I can communicate with my family but it has to be on an one-on-one basis or small groups. If there is a large group, my husband helps me out.

However, I am not in the hearing world full time like before so life is not limiting for me.

My biggest problem with not hearing, maybe because i'm used to hearing, is that I have no clue what's going on around me. If i'm in the house I can sometimes feel people walking but like at Walmart today, I didn't know if someone was behind me or coming towards us from the outer isles. I just can't hear what's going on.

I can communicate with my family fairly well, but not if its more than one.
I still have many other problems other than just no hearing.

 

[posts from hell]

My biggest problem with not hearing, maybe because i'm used to hearing, is that I have no clue what's going on around me. If i'm in the house I can sometimes feel people walking but like at Walmart today, I didn't know if someone was behind me or coming towards us from the outer isles. I just can't hear what's going on.

I can communicate with my family fairly well, but not if its more than one.
I still have many other problems other than just no hearing.

I would expect that to continue even after having a CI. You will become MUCH more visual.

 

[zebadee2010]

ok I want that to be clear. You can now see we're NOT anti-ci.

THere are people telling you that, I want you to believe otherwise.

I will believe that, I don't think i ever declared you as anti-CI, but I still have my doubts on other users.

 

[Deaffy]

My biggest problem with not hearing, maybe because i'm used to hearing, is that I have no clue what's going on around me. If i'm in the house I can sometimes feel people walking but like at Walmart today, I didn't know if someone was behind me or coming towards us from the outer isles. I just can't hear what's going on.

I can communicate with my family fairly well, but not if its more than one.
I still have many other problems other than just no hearing.

Time my friend.... In time you will become used to this. I can " sense" when someone is behind me or is walking around. I can also " sense" when a phone is ringing. I can't explain how it work's but it is very real that in time your other sense's will become attuned to your new deafness.

 

[posts from hell]

Time my friend.... In time you will become used to this. I can " sense" when someone is behind me or is walking around. I can also " sense" when a phone is ringing. I can't explain how it work's but it is very real that in time your other sense's will become attuned to your new deafness.

Its amazing I can feel my blackberry getting messages before it vibrates.

Also, with being more visual, you will see things "better" out the corner of your eye... Youre just paying better attention to that.

 

[Jiro]

My biggest problem with not hearing, maybe because i'm used to hearing, is that I have no clue what's going on around me. If i'm in the house I can sometimes feel people walking but like at Walmart today, I didn't know if someone was behind me or coming towards us from the outer isles. I just can't hear what's going on.

I can communicate with my family fairly well, but not if its more than one.
I still have many other problems other than just no hearing.

that's perfectly understandable. That's the kind of attitude you should have exhibited in the first place when you came here. That way - we can better help you and get you all the information you needed and wanted to know.

Now you understand that a therapist can help you exactly for that reason? It's common for many people getting CI.

 

[sheila022]

Its amazing I can feel my blackberry getting messages before it vibrates.

Also, with being more visual, you will see things "better" out the corner of your eye... Youre just paying better attention to that.

You just got a phone? i thought you're a phone luddite.

 

[zebadee2010]

I would expect that to continue even after having a CI. You will become MUCH more visual.

Well from my fall I have lost my balance, and my hearing as well as the left side of my face going numb. My left eye lid also doesn't function quite right ( it slouches.) But face numbness and eyelid are starting to return closer to normal. Balance is also getting better. Could just be from practice. And after laying in a hospital bed for two weeks my head still isn't used to the bouncing thing from running or jumping of any sort. That also is getting better. A lot of things happened in the fall and the combination of all of them has made things very difficult.

 

[Jiro]

You just got a phone? i thought you're a phone luddite.

it's from before.