Honest opinions

[AJWSmith]

I have recently been talking to a guy that doesn't live here, in fact he lives in another country all together. I am usually a good judge in character and really like this guy. I have always been the girl who was overly cautious with my feelings and emotions, careful to not let the wrong guys in.

Another part of this was losing the one person I felt I could marry in my life. After finally realizing there will never be another man exactly like him I was able to let go and allow myself to believe there was another man out there for me.

My question is this, if love is there, do you believe that over distance it can prevail and if it was meant to be we will end up in the same place?

My answer is "Yes, it is possible".

In our own extended family we have a happily married couple where one was from Africa and the other from the UK. The African partner left home and settled successfully here in the UK. Obviously you need to be careful, and there is plenty of good advice already posted, advice followed by couple I refer to (they spent time meeting in the flesh in both countries & families before committing to each other, and the whole courtship was spread over a number of years).

 

[LoveBlue]

Also, be very cautious of sayings like "if it's meant to be..." Nothing is "meant" to be. Things happen or don't happen mostly by our own actions and choices, with a bit of luck tossed in.

that is definitely your opinion, I tend to believe differently.

Same here. It was fate / "meant to be" for my husband and I. There's no way we would have met if God hadn't put us in the same place at the same time (working on a summer show). Granted, either of us could have ignored His guidance, but we didn't and after a few years of getting to know each other over the summers, we married and spent nearly 25 years together (he passed away 2 years ago) and raised two wonderful girls.

 

[shel90]

Wirelessly posted (droid)

Let's face it. Everyone who is dating is on their best behavior. Trying to seem desirable and impress. That's true whether it's online or in person. That's why you date for a while to really know the person before getting serious.
Once you're in a serious relationship with a person, then you see negative qualities. You have a more accurate view. When you find someone you can put up with, you marry him. Lol

Aint that the truth!!!!!

My brother learned that lesson the very very very hard way.

CBE...seems like everyone has great advice. Hope it all works out!

 

[radioman]

I am a bit apprehensive on this. A freind of mine met a girl online, flew to russia and met girl parants in person. He decided she was the one and made a second trip and proposed to her and married her there. He had to work many months to get her here legally. Once they were together, they started to have issues and she got homesick within a half a year and flew home to visit her folks and her mother basically scolded here and stay in USA. She did go back , but got divorced from him. She is still in usa with someone else, but I cant help but think my freind was taken for a ride. all that work down the drain.

caorline makes a good point- going in person and visit can reveal many truths. Problem is, if you stay together, then what do you do about the holidays? one of you will have to give up EVERYTHING and leave it behind for the other. Which one of you? If you get married, are you prepared for the huge flight expenses for rest of your life, even if you do it every so many years like every 5 years?
I think this has to come up in your skyping in a what if scenarios. You might want to talk about something trivial or pet peeves like which way do you put toilet paper on? over or under? just little things like this can show how serious your relationship can be.