Homemaker's jobs?

[shel90]

My friend, her hubby and I have been debating this...

My friend and I think homemakers work constantly with no breaks..I mean there is no 9 to 5 job for homemakers so my friend feels that the working spouse should help out after work but her hubby said that it is the homemaker's job to take care of the kids and house 100%. I told her hubby that if the working spouse's job ends at 5 PM and gets 5 hours of rest and relaxation then the homemaker's job should end at 5PM too or get paid overtime. He stated that the kids go to school for 6 hours so the homemaker has a choice to use that time to relax or keep on cleaning the house. He said it doesnt take 6 hours daily to clean a house, cook, and do laundry. He said that at the job, the spouse takes a 30 min break and has to work according to policy..cant decide when or how long to take a break. Hmm..he has a good point.


My hubby and I both work so I am thankful that he takes care of some chores cuz I would be a walking zombie if I work, took care of the house, chores and kids all by myself. My friend's husband says it is the woman's job to take care of the house and kids 100% even though she works full time. I say BS!!!


Then, I thought of my mom raising us all alone and I gotta say that I am very impressed with u single parents who are working full time, taking care of the house and kids all alone. *applause* to u all!!!

Just a debate I am having with my friend and her hubby cuz their views are different. I gotta admit that her hubby did make a good point about the homemaker having 5 to 6 hours of freedom to do whatever he/she wants. What do u think? I have never been a homemaker so how do u homemakers work it out with your spouses?

 

[Phillips]

I am home and mother of two daughters.. Plus I am part time of student college.. So I do clean, laundry, drop/pick up daughter'school and cooking food when My hubby come home! But He does work on the outside yard.

 

[shel90]

I am home and mother of two daughters.. Plus I am part time of student college.. So I do clean, laundry, drop/pick up daughter'school and cooking food when My hubby come home! But He does work on the outside yard.

So u are solely responsible for the house and kids? Does your hubby help out with the house and kids beside the yard?

 

[Phillips]

Yes he does.. When I am injured, sick, or other busy. He does chores in the house but one that I don't let him in my kitchen because He is bad cooker!

Last time I was stayed in my bed and sick cold flu.. He makes breakfast and came a plate to my bed.. I was shocking see their Egg with about black and What is it... Because He shakes or pour a black pepper too much on Egg. But He is good with Pancakes.

 

[shel90]

Yes he does.. When I am injured, sick, or other busy. He does chores in the house but one that I don't let him in my kitchen because He is bad cooker!

Last time I was stayed in my bed and sick cold flu.. He makes breakfast and came a plate to my bed.. I was shocking see their Egg with about black and What is it... Because He shakes or pour a black pepper too much on Egg. But He is good with Pancakes.

That is nice!! My friend's hubby believes that even if the homemaker is sick she/he still has to take care of the kids and the cooking. :roll:

I think he needs to travel back to the 1950s or something.

 

[BearBeauty]

I'm a homemaker alas no kids tho. Since my boyfriend works army, I do everything in the house. but there are times he is like " Lemme do it!!" He thinks I do too much, but I love taking care of him.

in my last marriage, I was working full time or overtime and doing all the house work.. I was burned out, and very unhappy. So I think it should depend on jobs. if both parents work, should be a 50-50 thing.. if only one person is working, then the person who stays home should do 75% of the work.

it takes me 2 hours a day to clean and do laundry, sometimes less.. And my boyfriend thinks that's Too Much. Go figure.

 

[Brian]

When my father was still living, he did most of cleaning, cook, getting me ready for school, and stuff like that while my mother worked at night times.

This was so I won't have to live at the deaf school.

 

[Kalista]

Yes he does.. When I am injured, sick, or other busy. He does chores in the house but one that I don't let him in my kitchen because He is bad cooker!

Last time I was stayed in my bed and sick cold flu.. He makes breakfast and came a plate to my bed.. I was shocking see their Egg with about black and What is it... Because He shakes or pour a black pepper too much on Egg. But He is good with Pancakes.

Your husband cooked overdue pasta. The pasta became stuck and stinky. I was laughed off my ass at him. He was stared and mad at me. It was so funny how he looked. I love to pick on him when I work with him. I love to piss him off. He looked like to cook alot of the glue in the hot water boil pan on the stove.

 

[Phillips]

Your husband cooked overdue pasta. The pasta became stuck and stinky. I was laughed off my ass at him. He was stared and mad at me. It was so funny how he looked. I love to pick on him when I work with him. I love to piss him off. He looked like to cook alot of the glue in the hot water boil pan on the stove.

Really!!!

Phillips Kalista

HEHEHEH

 

[Phillips]

That is nice!! My friend's hubby believes that even if the homemaker is sick she/he still has to take care of the kids and the cooking. :roll:

I think he needs to travel back to the 1950s or something.

I Knew two of men that They re believe that their wife or woman must do work chores the home and care of kids with 100 precent!

Long time ago... I got nasty argument with my ex friend's ex husband because He believe that when new mother deliver a baby then one week later.. He says she must return to work a job! But she ingored me and they re married.


Later They got into messy divoice.. Then I asked her Why she married him first place because Also I see him say to her and she told me... "I do not love her twice, three times break ups, affair another woman one night and complain her cooking and clean" etc........

She says because her ex husband looking good man so married him!

Now I am not longer friend with her because she is brainsick, insanity, madness, crazy,demented, distracted,unhinged and sick. And her ex husband is obsitnate, refractory,unregenerate and stubborn.


If I meet person alike personal like that believe old fashioned way then I will walking away.

 

[WildHunt]

my husband and I do equal work with our kids, but for the household work, I do about 90% of it. My husband helps me out with a few things and that is all I ask from him. It's worked out pretty well for us so far.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

My friend, her hubby and I have been debating this...

Normal... My friends and I do the same as you as well... It´s thrilling debate until we see what right or wrong. Anyway, I quote some of your posts to ask you question.

My friend and I think homemakers work constantly with no breaks..I mean there is no 9 to 5 job for homemakers so my friend feels that the working spouse should help out after work but her hubby said that it is the homemaker's job to take care of the kids and house 100%. I told her hubby that if the working spouse's job ends at 5 PM and gets 5 hours of rest and relaxation then the homemaker's job should end at 5PM too or get paid overtime. He stated that the kids go to school for 6 hours so the homemaker has a choice to use that time to relax or keep on cleaning the house. He said it doesnt take 6 hours daily to clean a house, cook, and do laundry. He said that at the job, the spouse takes a 30 min break and has to work according to policy..cant decide when or how long to take a break. Hmm..he has a good point.

Did you remind your friend´s hubby about the weekends? How about this? Your friend want to have weekends break. Should she work through from Monday to Sunday? Do her hubby work from Monday to Friday, not weekends? Your friend need her hubby´s support for weekends or holidays... Take care of the kids and housework are stressful. Of course your friend need her hubby´s support for only one hour or whatever. What´s wrong with that? It would be nice when hubby helps her with dishes after evening meal or play with the kids to leave his wife alone to do with dishes or whatever. If hubby support her wife bit more then it would make his wife reduce stressful, moody, aggressive, etc.

My hubby and I both work so I am thankful that he takes care of some chores cuz I would be a walking zombie if I work, took care of the house, chores and kids all by myself. My friend's husband says it is the woman's job to take care of the house and kids 100% even though she works full time. I say BS!!!

Yes, my hubby & I share our chores. I work full time from 7.30 am to 4.00 pm and my hubby work from 4.00 pm to 10.00 pm from Monday to Friday. We discuss until agree to pick which chores we support each other.

Just a debate I am having with my friend and her hubby cuz their views are different. I gotta admit that her hubby did make a good point about the homemaker having 5 to 6 hours of freedom to do whatever he/she wants. What do u think? I have never been a homemaker so how do u homemakers work it out with your spouses?

I had an experience as housemaker twice during 3 year mother care to take care of 2 sons. I doing housework, small shopping and take care of baby. I feel stress and tired... I cooked the dinner to prepare my hubby come home from work. He helps me with dishes and give me rest to take care of baby. After 3 years mother care over, I go back to work. My hubby change his work time from day to evening because of take care of boys. (My company do not accept part time or evening work but full time that´s why my hubby took as homemaker over). I would say that homemakers is not for me... same housework, take care of boys, cook, same like that everyday with no news from outside... feel myself stress... I like to go work because I can communicate with my co-workers... I bring news to home cheer to my family... as the same as my hubby as well... I feel fit and good mood to have time with my boys and chat with them... Stay in home is really sucker... it make me feel stress myself... Oh dear... I can image how your friend feel...

 

[BearBeauty]

I can understand it not being for everyone. I like being a homemaker becuase I don't like being outside my house. Plus I've always been working, and it is SO stressful for me, mainly becuase i have minor social anxiety. SO it really depends on the couple.

 

[sara1981]

mostly wives who been staying at home and caring kids,making foods,shopping,etc!!!!!

some of my family who been staying homemaker for longtimes because wanted to clean house KEPT!

 

[shel90]

Normal... My friends and I do the same as you as well... It´s thrilling debate until we see what right or wrong. Anyway, I quote some of your posts to ask you question.



Did you remind your friend´s hubby about the weekends? How about this? Your friend want to have weekends break. Should she work through from Monday to Sunday? Do her hubby work from Monday to Friday, not weekends? Your friend need her hubby´s support for weekends or holidays... Take care of the kids and housework are stressful. Of course your friend need her hubby´s support for only one hour or whatever. What´s wrong with that? It would be nice when hubby helps her with dishes after evening meal or play with the kids to leave his wife alone to do with dishes or whatever. If hubby support her wife bit more then it would make his wife reduce stressful, moody, aggressive, etc.

I never thought of the weekends. Good question!!! Now that I think about it, whenever I visit them, she is still taking care of the house and kids while he watches tv. In fact, she did mown the lawn one time when I was there. Yea, my friend told her hubby that she is burnt out and he laughed at her cuz he thinks taking care of the kids and the house is such an easy job.


Yes, my hubby & I share our chores. I work full time from 7.30 am to 4.00 pm and my hubby work from 4.00 pm to 10.00 pm from Monday to Friday. We discuss until agree to pick which chores we support each other.


Same thing with my hubby and I. If I stayed home, I probably would do 70% but as of now we do 50/50 since we both work full time jobs.


I had an experience as housemaker twice during 3 year mother care to take care of 2 sons. I doing housework, small shopping and take care of baby. I feel stress and tired... I cooked the dinner to prepare my hubby come home from work. He helps me with dishes and give me rest to take care of baby. After 3 years mother care over, I go back to work. My hubby change his work time from day to evening because of take care of boys. (My company do not accept part time or evening work but full time that´s why my hubby took as homemaker over). I would say that homemakers is not for me... same housework, take care of boys, cook, same like that everyday with no news from outside... feel myself stress... I like to go work because I can communicate with my co-workers... I bring news to home cheer to my family... as the same as my hubby as well... I feel fit and good mood to have time with my boys and chat with them... Stay in home is really sucker... it make me feel stress myself... Oh dear... I can image how your friend feel...

I tried it once for one summer and realized it doesnt fit me. Like Bearbeauty says, it is not for everyone.

 

[halford]

Before my divorce, I helped put my ex-wife thru college to get her Master's degree. I took care of kids full time, washed clothes, cooked all meals (yes I am good!) while I had a full time job.

yes I am a man... now I am a single dad with full custody of 3 kids....

What do you call me?

Ladies, Interested in this man?

 

[shel90]

Hehehehehe Halford.


Anyways, Liebling..about weekend chores, I talked with my friend about that issue. She said her husband is supposed to be responsible for the yard work or repairs but he is a huge proscinator so she ends up doing it. Interesting.

I told her about having the weekends off and that she should have the weekends off too. She liked that idea. LOL!

 

[horselover61]

Before my divorce, I helped put my ex-wife thru college to get her Master's degree. I took care of kids full time, washed clothes, cooked all meals (yes I am good!) while I had a full time job.

yes I am a man... now I am a single dad with full custody of 3 kids....

What do you call me?

Ladies, Interested in this man?

I proud of you. Not all men does the job but you knew your responsibilty and making sure the kids are safe and clean home. You knew that your kids need roof over their head, food on the table and clothes to wear. I am sure your kids love you for a good job.

 

[Awauphi]

just like i said all along.. i believe in equality.. 50/50.. and have weekends off like i always do except washing dishes and cooking dinner.. lol.. then on weekdays i do the chores..

my husband works and i am a housewife.. i take care of the house etc.. i cooks foods and my husband wash the dishes and put them up.. sometimes he helped me with laundry.. so nice of him.. heh.. due the reason of my hand as its weak grrr.. only work with one hand.. sighs..

 

[Gemma]

When I was married, I was a homemaker as I gave up a wonderful and thriving career to stay home and raise kids. But I became bored and depressed, as I cannot fathom having a life based around on chores and watching soap operas! After five years, I decided to go back to work so we split everything 50-50. Since then, I have been working nonstop. I cannot be a homemaker again but I am grateful to have opportunity to raise my children when they were young as it is really more of a luxury these days. Note that I said "luxury" - society has changed so much and the cost of living is so high.

I do see some husbands of my friends aka homemakers being too old fashioned and demanding - they expect too much. They dont realize that being a housewife is a THANKLESS job - same old thing every day!!! There is so much more to life than having a dinner ready on time!!!! Laundry, dishes, vacuuming, etc can be done next day - it is just an endless cycle so it irkes me to see some husbands carping on their wives if they didnt do that or that.

Sometimes I do envy my friends who are homemakers but then again, I remind myself of what I went through - I wouldnt trade my career for anything else again