let me help you out here...
What do you mean, "could be friend?" you have to be friends. You need to just meet people, be friends first. Don't even try to date for several months until you know what she's like. Why do it only to find out weird or strange things that might run you off? Take the time to be friends first and maintain that friendship from the beginning through the middle to the end of life.
What gets me, and i was guilty of this, (though my body and upbringing forced it on me) is that i saw potential partners as mainly bed buddies (though i wanted to be with them from then on, like being married). I wanted to get in their pants and start developing an intimate relationship on the first day, without any idea of what the person was like.
This is just one of many reasons why i keep thinking the end of western civilization is near, because we are devolving spiritually, not evolving. Good luck with your life.