hello, jiro

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matajan said:
My ex girlfriend piss off at me when visiting her at dell office in near san jose. And other, law firm in washington dc while she is student at harvard law.
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I agree with your ex girlfriend.

I dislike when my consumers showed up unannounced...it annoyed me the most.
 
matajan said:
Oh, really. I don't want to be trouble.

Do you have to share with experience of you or friend who visit someone house then result?
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It's called a surprise and some people think its kinky while others will grab their guns.

"stalking", "harassment", "restraining order" should be in your vocab.
 
What? Same another thread??:io:


Psst.. J.. You need careful that M will be become an obsession with you! :Ohno:


;)
 
craigm26 said:
It's called a surprise and some people think its kinky while others will grab their guns.

"stalking", "harassment", "restraining order" should be in your vocab.
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or... socially-awkward. it's not criminal.

in his case - he is socially awkward. because of aspereger's, he is not able to "take a hint" on social cue. One has to be told and taught and reminded and that's what I'm doing here. Sarcasm won't work because one takes it very literally so you simply need to use a blunt approach.
 
Jiro said:
or... socially-awkward. it's not criminal.

in his case - he is socially awkward. because of aspereger's, he is not able to "take a hint" on social cue. One has to be told and taught and reminded and that's what I'm doing here. Sarcasm won't work because one takes it very literally so you simply need to use a blunt approach.
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I do not really understand why does it socially-awkward mean when someone told me I am cuz I told this person I am interesting in going out with her in front of people.
 
matajan said:
I do not really understand why does it socially-awkward mean when someone told me I am cuz I told this person I am interesting in going out with her in front of people.
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For example - you visit a person's dorm without advanced notice. He gets upset at you that you didn't let him know first before visit but he lets other people come into his dorm without permission. That means he doesn't like you and he wants you to leave him alone. But you didn't know that and you keep visiting him without permission. You may have noticed that he is ignoring you while you're in his dorm or maybe he was mean to you. But you still keep visiting his dorm without permission first.

that's what socially-awkward means.
 
matajan said:
Oh, really. I don't want to be trouble.

Do you have to share with experience of you or friend who visit someone house then result?
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Showing up at a house, business etc without being asked to go there is called trespassing - it means going someplace with out permission, without them telling you " yes, I want you to come over". If they get upset about it they can call the police and have you arrested for trespassing.

If you show up at someone's work, school, house without them inviting you then you can get them in trouble with their boss or teacher or people they live with. They can get FIRED/ LOSE JOB, or being in very very big trouble!!

If someone invites you then they will tell you EXACTLY when it is ok for you to visit. They will say "come visit at work at 3:00pm next Friday". If they don't say this - then you might get them in trouble

You don't want to get your friends or people you like in trouble ? right ?

Do you understand what I wrote about "trespassing" and why you need to wait from someone to ASK you to visit them?

Do you understand you can get them in trouble if you show up without them asking you to go there ?
 
Jiro said:
or... socially-awkward. it's not criminal.

in his case - he is socially awkward. because of aspereger's, he is not able to "take a hint" on social cue. One has to be told and taught and reminded and that's what I'm doing here. Sarcasm won't work because one takes it very literally so you simply need to use a blunt approach.
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He may be socially awkward or not. He may have Asperger's. Two separate things though and they're not mutually exclusive. Aspergers does not mean that person is always going to be socially awkward. I mean how else would you diagnose someone who is socially awkward but not have Aspergers.Is he certified Aspergers? It's a lot easier to tell if someone is socially awkward.

If you are socially awkward, you have to know the consequences of breaking social norms. I went to the extreme because those scenarios may not be illegal. I understand your approach but it's ridiculous to ask questions of a basic nature on a Internet Forum because "I understand" may not have any real impact and there is a real risk of law enforcement being involved if this behavior is demonstrated by Matajan consistently and without behavioral training. Which I imagine none of us is qualified for. Actually there are some fee based websites that engage in that style of therapy. Matajan you want that link?
 
craigm26 said:
He may be socially awkward or not. He may have Asperger's. Two separate things though and they're not mutually exclusive. Aspergers does not mean that person is always going to be socially awkward. I mean how else would you diagnose someone who is socially awkward but not have Aspergers.Is he certified Aspergers? It's a lot easier to tell if someone is socially awkward.

If you are socially awkward, you have to know the consequences of breaking social norms. I went to the extreme because those scenarios may not be illegal. I understand your approach but it's ridiculous to ask questions of a basic nature on a Internet Forum because "I understand" may not have any real impact and there is a real risk of law enforcement being involved if this behavior is demonstrated by Matajan consistently and without behavioral training. Which I imagine none of us is qualified for. Actually there are some fee based websites that engage in that style of therapy. Matajan you want that link?
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What makes a person socially-awkward can vary. Mark Zuckberg is socially-awkward too. There's a specific variation that makes Matajan socially-awkward.... intensive fixation on a certain subject... a typical trait of Asperger's.

A person with Asperger's - in this case.... Matajan:
1. goes on and on and on.... on a very specific topic
2. has obsessive behavior to a certain thing
3. can't take a hint
4. can't pick up on subtle social cues
5. can't understand complex social rules
6. is very direct - "Are you single?" because they get straight to the point
7. has a great difficulty with abstract concept
8. so on...

The only way for a person to cope with Asperger's and to function reasonably well in society is to have a person with close relationship with him/her to constantly remind and educate him/her of social rules. With practice, one can succeed. In this case, matajan has no guidance.
 
Jiro said:
or... socially-awkward. it's not criminal.
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It can be if it evolves into stalking behaviors.

in his case - he is socially awkward. because of aspereger's, he is not able to "take a hint" on social cue. One has to be told and taught and reminded and that's what I'm doing here. Sarcasm won't work because one takes it very literally so you simply need to use a blunt approach.
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The problem is, he doesn't even accept blunt replies. Whoosh, over the head.
 
Reba said:
He's banned now. I wonder if he's still reading the posts?
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no idea but just shedding light on how to deal with Asperger's
 
i think matajan is probably not who he portrays himself to be...most likely he's some lonely (and hearing) socially rejected teenage dweeb from New Jersey, and he's having fun with you all. There is just no way he can be for real.

(I can poke fun at New Jersey because I live there too)
 
jenniifer said:
i think matajan is probably not who he portrays himself to be...most likely he's some lonely (and hearing) socially rejected teenage dweeb from New Jersey, and he's having fun with you all. There is just no way he can be for real.

(I can poke fun at New Jersey because I live there too)
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no. He's for real. I've met him in Las Vegas. Several of us knows him. Several of my NYC friends know him.
 
Regardless of authenticity of actual or severity of Aspergers - nonetheless I personally dont think the depth of help he was seeking was going to be found here.

I know I am socially awkward but that doesn't mean I have Aspergers or it has been ruled out. It's the process of learning or thereof from him that frustrated a lot of people on AD. That in itself puts into doubt whether he has Aspergers. We're not professionals so leave the judgments up to them.

Close thread please
 
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