Hearing Looks vs Deaf Looks

Yes it's hard to judge, especially when in shopping centres where the noise is variable. Much easier to sign. :lol:
 
deafgal001 said:
I thought this is usually common in deaf people. People have asked me "What, what did you say?" and I had to speak up. I asked my husband, "I don't understand it, why do they often ask me what? even though I know I'm speaking clearly (like "NO" or "YES" or my name) " and he simply told me that I was talking way too soft. I guess it is because we often can't determine the right volume control for the situation we are in (especially when we have a filtered background program in our hearing aids/CI) .. Hearing people know when to speak up or speak softer.
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Yes, I have a similiar situation. One time when I was a teenager I got tired of being told to 'speak up we can't hear you', so I said that I would try to raise my voice and for my mother to tell me when it was 'normal' level for her. When told to stop it was like I was shouting (my throat was sore from the effort) I said that it would be impossible for me to keep it up like that all the time. So I didn't bother after that. I just let it be as it is.
 
deafgal001 said:
I thought this is usually common in deaf people. People have asked me "What, what did you say?" and I had to speak up. I asked my husband, "I don't understand it, why do they often ask me what? even though I know I'm speaking clearly (like "NO" or "YES" or my name) " and he simply told me that I was talking way too soft. I guess it is because we often can't determine the right volume control for the situation we are in (especially when we have a filtered background program in our hearing aids/CI) .. Hearing people know when to speak up or speak softer.
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Yes, although I've also seen some deaf people who aren't even wearing hearing aids or getting any auditory input also have this stigma.
 
Funny thread here.

I usually can pick out deaf women in a crowd better than deaf men.

Don't get all worked up over this, but, based on MY observations, I find that hearing women pay more attention to how pretty they are, how they walk, and have a certain look on their faces.

Deaf women usually dress bland, wear no makeup, don't act very feminine, mind their own business, and act like they are pretty comfortable with themselves.

Many of them usually have either fixed or no expressions on their faces when they are not talking to anyone. Some stare endlessly at people.

With men, it is hard, since they all are pretty much disgusting to look at....:laugh2:
 
People don't know that I'm deaf as I have long hair and tend to troll (no) a lot in real life until I tell them, but why ruin the fun? If they are talking to me and get pissed as they think I'm ignoring, I just tell what's really going on. :P
 
I think generally people can see my CI which indicates that I'm deaf. Girls with long hair can hide the CI under their hair which complicates matters. Actually I'm kind of interested as to how people would act if I grew my hair out and hid my CI, but I'm a guy so it would look odd :hmm:

People have told me that I say consonants with a bit more emphasis than average. Like a couple weeks ago my dad said that I strongly emphasize the first "t" in internet while others say "innernet" or "indernet". Interesting - maybe constant speech therapy leads to an accent kind of like that?
 
I can't say there's much of a difference in the looks of a hearing person and a deaf person. I mean, yes, HA's and CI's will sometimes standout and help you determine which is which, but for someone like myself or even Rockin Robin, we are total deaf, and don't wear any device. You can't tell just by looking at us whether we are hearing or deaf. We've been both. Do we undergo bodily changes just because our ears decide not t work for whatever reason. We each had two totally different instances that achieved the same basic thing. No ear drums.
 
Deaf people always have faces that have been more expressive and mobile. I always think I can tell just from the underlying muscles that have been used a lot in ASL communication.
 
green427 said:
Funny thread here.

I usually can pick out deaf women in a crowd better than deaf men.

Don't get all worked up over this, but, based on MY observations, I find that hearing women pay more attention to how pretty they are, how they walk, and have a certain look on their faces.

Deaf women usually dress bland, wear no makeup, don't act very feminine, mind their own business, and act like they are pretty comfortable with themselves.

Many of them usually have either fixed or no expressions on their faces when they are not talking to anyone. Some stare endlessly at people.

With men, it is hard, since they all are pretty much disgusting to look at....:laugh2:
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Most deaf people spend their money on deaf related technologies than makeup and clothes. It isn't cheap.

as far as staring, my sister and I do that, but I just happen to see couple of deaf people and they were signing to each other. They did not stare at all when they were quiet. (we were in line for trick or treating at the mall)
 
rraja said:
I think generally people can see my CI which indicates that I'm deaf. Girls with long hair can hide the CI under their hair which complicates matters. Actually I'm kind of interested as to how people would act if I grew my hair out and hid my CI, but I'm a guy so it would look odd :hmm:

People have told me that I say consonants with a bit more emphasis than average. Like a couple weeks ago my dad said that I strongly emphasize the first "t" in internet while others say "innernet" or "indernet". Interesting - maybe constant speech therapy leads to an accent kind of like that?
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You don't necessarily have to have really long hair to cover your CI. Even if your hair is just of medium length and the color of the processor also matches your hair color, it could cover it pretty good.
 
craigm26 said:
I think hearing people who don't know better would think that you're trying to look down her shirt.

Some women do get uncomfortable once I start following their mouths to lip-read. I guess once I tell that she's uncomfortable I tell her, but I'm wondering if it's more common of an uncomfortable behavior than not.:hmm:
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Hah! If a guy who has perfect hearing and English is his first language is staring at me, I feel weird. If a guy speaks English as as a second language, even fluently, then I may be nervous but I would be A LOT more uncomfortable than if I felt he wasn't listening to anything I said!

My lips are still fairly above my chest, thank you! :naughty:
 
green427 said:
Funny thread here.

I usually can pick out deaf women in a crowd better than deaf men.

Don't get all worked up over this, but, based on MY observations, I find that hearing women pay more attention to how pretty they are, how they walk, and have a certain look on their faces.

Deaf women usually dress bland, wear no makeup, don't act very feminine, mind their own business, and act like they are pretty comfortable with themselves.

Many of them usually have either fixed or no expressions on their faces when they are not talking to anyone. Some stare endlessly at people.

With men, it is hard, since they all are pretty much disgusting to look at....:laugh2:
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OMG....what is your problem with stereotyping of Deaf people?
 
green427 said:
Funny thread here.

I usually can pick out deaf women in a crowd better than deaf men.

Don't get all worked up over this, but, based on MY observations, I find that hearing women pay more attention to how pretty they are, how they walk, and have a certain look on their faces.

Deaf women usually dress bland, wear no makeup, don't act very feminine, mind their own business, and act like they are pretty comfortable with themselves.

Many of them usually have either fixed or no expressions on their faces when they are not talking to anyone. Some stare endlessly at people.

With men, it is hard, since they all are pretty much disgusting to look at....:laugh2:
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Wow, f*uck you. Not all hearing women I know are like that. And I'm sure there's other deaf women who also pay attention to themselves, etc.

Yeah, PFH, shows that he has no pretty deaf women in his life. xD xD
 
shel90 said:
OMG....what is your problem with stereotyping of Deaf people?
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sheila022 said:
Wow, f*uck you. Not all hearing women I know are like that. And I'm sure there's other deaf women who also pay attention to themselves, etc.

Yeah, PFH, shows that he has no pretty deaf women in his life. xD xD
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is your radar broken? dead battery? miscalibrated?
 
rraja said:
I think generally people can see my CI which indicates that I'm deaf. Girls with long hair can hide the CI under their hair which complicates matters. Actually I'm kind of interested as to how people would act if I grew my hair out and hid my CI, but I'm a guy so it would look odd :hmm:

People have told me that I say consonants with a bit more emphasis than average. Like a couple weeks ago my dad said that I strongly emphasize the first "t" in internet while others say "innernet" or "indernet". Interesting - maybe constant speech therapy leads to an accent kind of like that?
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2 words - who cares?

everybody pronounces it differently. if you wanna say innernet.. go ahead. My dad wouldn't be able to pronounce internet correctly anyway since there's no R-sound in Korea.
 
deafgal001 said:
I thought this is usually common in deaf people. People have asked me "What, what did you say?" and I had to speak up. I asked my husband, "I don't understand it, why do they often ask me what? even though I know I'm speaking clearly (like "NO" or "YES" or my name) " and he simply told me that I was talking way too soft. I guess it is because we often can't determine the right volume control for the situation we are in (especially when we have a filtered background program in our hearing aids/CI) .. Hearing people know when to speak up or speak softer.
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curious - Are you shy? self-conscious? easily embarrassed?
 
I would never be able to tell just from looking at people whether they are Deaf or hearing. When I worked in WinCo we had all kinds come in. Unless I was specifically told "I can't hear you, I'm Deaf" I never would have known. The Deaf customers went punk/goth/chic/country just as much as everyone else.
Frequently, I wouldn't even be able to tell by how they spoke if they decided to speak. Some words would sometimes sound smushed but even hearies can get lazy with their words so it wasn't really a good indicator.
 
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