Having kids in different decades?

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Anyone have kids so far apart in age in which they were born in different decades, like for example, one kid was born in the 80s, one born in the 90s, and in the 00s and so forth? If so, share your experiences! Did the age difference make for interesting relationships btw your children? Share your stories!

Most parents opts for children close in age as they can ...mostly 2 years apart but it is rare for parents to have children 5 plus years apart in age.

My hubby and I are seriously considering for trying another one and if we do, then that would mean all 3 of my kids will be born in different decades...my daughter in the 90s, my son in the 00's and new baby in the 10s. :shock:

Just wondering if anyone out there like that?
 
I have one in the 70's and one in the 80's, but they are only two years apart. :lol:
 
My husband was born 10 years after his brother. They were raised almost like two only children. His brother married young, so was out of the house entirely by the time my husband was about 12.

Usually one of the advantages of having siblings close in age is that the children learn to negotiate issues between themselves, work out their disagreements, form mutual friends, and go through life's milestones within a few years of each other, so they can give each other mutual support. With a big age difference, that doesn't happen; the older one looks out for the younger one, but they don't really interact as peers. That pretty much summed up their relationship; the big age difference meant they were not peers until well into adulthood.

In adulthood my husband and his brother got along fine; they were cordial, enjoyed each other's company, but didn't really see each other that often, as they were living in different countries.

Age difference means less as you get older, but growing up, the sibling relationship was very different from what I had with my sisters, for example, since we are quite close in age.

Not necessarily better or worse, just different.
 
There is 22 years between me and my youngest brother and we are like strangers. My aunt had 3 girls..all 12 years apart. The oldest is 42 years old, the middle is 30 and the youngest is 18. the youngest and the oldest arent close but the middle child is very close to both the oldest and the youngest. It was interesting.

I know that my situation could be different because my 14 year old daughter lives 3,000 miles away.

We are just thinking about having another one but we may not. However, we better decide FAST due to my age. lol
 
shel90 said:
There is 22 years between me and my youngest brother and we are like strangers. My aunt had 3 girls..all 12 years apart. The oldest is 42 years old, the middle is 30 and the youngest is 18. the youngest and the oldest arent close but the middle child is very close to both the oldest and the youngest. It was interesting.

I know that my situation could be different because my 14 year old daughter lives 3,000 miles away.

We are just thinking about having another one but we may not. However, we better decide FAST due to my age. lol
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Your age difference is even greater than the age different between my little sister and my big brother. He's eleven years older than me and 13 years older than my little sister.
 
awesome. I think it's so great!! sorry, It did not apply to me but I grew up being close to my 10 years older sister that we used to hang out more than other siblings of ours who are close to my age.

good luck!
 
I'm the youngest of 6. Oldest sister is 15 years older than me. She was more like a second mom to my other sister (2 yrs older than me) and I than a sister. She never married and lived at home. Brothers are 11 and 9 years older...I have no recollection of interacting with them when I was growing up. My other sister is 6 years older than me. I'm closest with her.
 
LOL.

My two older sisters were born in the 60's, three other siblings were born in the 70s and then there's little old moi born in the 80's! :)

I remember the eldest two taking care of me a lot when I was quite small. I am on good terms with all siblings. However, I'm more close with my third eldest sister than any others.

Shel, if you decide to try for another then good luck!
 
Yeah. My sister and I were born in 1980's, and my baby brother born in early 2000's. He was born in Fall 1999. So close to 2000's era. :)
 
My oldest sis was 18 years older than me. I'm the youngest. I have to concur with Beach girl. My brother and I were kids (we are three years apart). We are extremely different but remain close. We played with older siblings occasionally, but they were always busy with their lives- jobs, colleges, traveling, etc. However, my oldest married sister always managed to find the time to hang out with us.

My dad's dad was 22 years older than his sister, and she is 92 years old now. My dad is 8 years younger than her. lol
 
I'm a senior...and my boys were born in 1991, 1994 and 1996.....each of them are different as day is to night....even their music preference is different....the way they dress, their types of friends, etc.....It was a little difficult at first to communicate with them "on their age level"....(dunno if I explained that right)....And since I'm mainly "old school" there were some problems here and there....
 
My oldest sister was born in 1959 and most of my sisters and I were born in 1960s. My baby sister was born in 1970, so my family got into THREE decades. :)
 
For my father in law, He was born in 1930, his one sister in 1931 and the baby sister in 1955. She was always known as the "oops" baby since they were not planning on anymore children and both FIL and his one sister were out of the house when the baby was born. All that is left now, is the baby and she is only 2 years older than my hubby.
 
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My brother is five years younger than me. Not a huge gap between our ages. I was born late 60's and him early 70's.
 
Beach girl said:
My husband was born 10 years after his brother. They were raised almost like two only children. His brother married young, so was out of the house entirely by the time my husband was about 12.

Usually one of the advantages of having siblings close in age is that the children learn to negotiate issues between themselves, work out their disagreements, form mutual friends, and go through life's milestones within a few years of each other, so they can give each other mutual support. With a big age difference, that doesn't happen; the older one looks out for the younger one, but they don't really interact as peers. That pretty much summed up their relationship; the big age difference meant they were not peers until well into adulthood.

In adulthood my husband and his brother got along fine; they were cordial, enjoyed each other's company, but didn't really see each other that often, as they were living in different countries.

Age difference means less as you get older, but growing up, the sibling relationship was very different from what I had with my sisters, for example, since we are quite close in age.

Not necessarily better or worse, just different.
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There were 8 years between my brother and I. It is almost like being an only child. In fact, in psychology, birth order is often to be considered an important variable in some situations...except in the case where there is 8 or more years between the children. Then, birth order doesn't apply and they are seen as only children.
 
jillio said:
There were 8 years between my brother and I. It is almost like being an only child. In fact, in psychology, birth order is often to be considered an important variable in some situations...except in the case where there is 8 or more years between the children. Then, birth order doesn't apply and they are seen as only children.
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According to Kevin Leman (author of 'Birth Order'), if one is born 5 years or more after the last one - the birth order is started all over. Also if a child is severely disabled, he/she would be more like the last born even if he/she isn't.

I was born 7 years after the last one and I am the youngest. I am like an only child.
 
Buffalo said:
According to Kevin Leman (author of 'Birth Order'), if one is born 5 years or more after the last one - the birth order is started all over. Also if a child is severely disabled, he/she would be more like the last born even if he/she isn't.

I was born 7 years after the last one and I am the youngest. I am like an only child.
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Yeah, I can see that. Often when I meet people, they assume I'm the only child, or that I'm the eldest. I have to correct them and say I'm the baby. They find it hard to believe, lol.
 
KristinaB said:
For my father in law, He was born in 1930, his one sister in 1931 and the baby sister in 1955. She was always known as the "oops" baby since they were not planning on anymore children and both FIL and his one sister were out of the house when the baby was born. All that is left now, is the baby and she is only 2 years older than my hubby.
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It's amazing how a woman's hormones can flare up for one last chance just before they shut down entirely. I've known of more than one "oops" baby. Twenty-five years difference between oldest and youngest is really unusual, though.
 
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