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Have you ever had a problem when a hearing person approach you and asked you a question and you couldn't be able to read his/her lips, and you tell that person you are deaf but, "If you speak clearly I could read your lips," and that person says "Oh I am so sorry never mind" and walks away?
 
Oh yeah, when someone came up to me and asked me where something was at in the store, and I would say " I'm sorry I didn't hear you, I'm Deaf " and that person said " Oh I'm sorry never mind, " and walked away...It bothers me sometimes but then again when I was in line, and this old lady would turned around facing me and started talking and talking about things that I have no clue what the heck she said, but she kept on talking and talking , so I told her " I'm sorry I didn't get anything you said, I'm deaf " and she said " oh dear " then shaked her head and said " sorry " and turned around, boy I felt really bad at first but on the second thought, I'm glad 'cause she would be talking forever and I could have been stuck in line for hours.... :eek:
 
That happens to me sometimes, yeah.. and I hate when people would talk to my husband about things that they are supposed to talk to me about.. u know? or they'd say... 'tell her...' and Im like, I can understand u fine.. and they give me a look like I was an UFO
 
BewitchedKitten said:
That happens to me sometimes, yeah.. and I hate when people would talk to my husband about things that they are supposed to talk to me about.. u know? or they'd say... 'tell her...' and Im like, I can understand u fine.. and they give me a look like I was an UFO
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Yes, exactly, I had the same problem you did, I used to date a lot of hearing guys. People would talk to them instead of me, and tell them to "tell her this and that" and wouldn't even look at me. I hate that I felt like I have some kind of disease or something.
 
BewitchedKitten said:
That happens to me sometimes, yeah.. and I hate when people would talk to my husband about things that they are supposed to talk to me about.. u know? or they'd say... 'tell her...' and Im like, I can understand u fine.. and they give me a look like I was an UFO
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Oh yeah, God, I hate it when they do that, I used to be married to a hearing guy which now he's my ex and even our hearing friends does the same thing, " tell her this, tell her that, ask her, etc " grrr, even tho I understand my friends sometimes but they wouldn't even look at me when they speak to me, they would look at my ex husband... :roll:
 
this happens to me almost everyday mostly at work.. when a customers asking me where is this... i asked them to repeat or write it down many times they say " oh i'm so sorry.. i'll find someone else" this jerks me off and i normally say "FUCK YOU" (in my head)when they walk away... i refuse help a customer when they do that.. if they corperate.. i'll help as much as i can..

so.. now i'm just used to it.. but the repeated customer knows me.. and they know what to do.. which is nice about a small town instead of big cities. anyway...
 
oh yea i has plms same as u! a hearing peron talked me , i was alike noddiing n smile.. then this person still blah talk to me so i decided told this person that i am deaf, i cant hear u! this person say oh sowwy abt that.. then in my mind wft!


i dated hearing before.. they talked talked, i was alike whistle n left me out.. so i say HELLO!!!!!!!!!!!! dont forget i am here.. they gulped and sowwy, talked me too.. i was grrrr!!!!!
 
DeafSCUBA98 said:
they say " oh i'm so sorry.. i'll find someone else" this jerks me off and i normally say "FUCK YOU" (in my head)when they walk away...
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:laugh2: I can only image what your thoughts are. Funny how you put it "fuck you" in the back of your head, I am sure you would really want to say that out loud. :laugh2:
 
Yup yup yup!

Ive had that happen to me, its nice to know that other people are in the same postion as me

Ive learnt to accept it now, it just goes over my head. Plus Im really shy so if they do that, Im a little bit glad!!!

EDIT: and also one of the members on here (Katzie) thought of a really good idea about what to do about this, its in one of the threads somewhere...called Pet Peeves
 
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yeah espcially at my work... whenever i'm cleaning the rooms and some of the guests were in the hallway trying to call me or something and i said hold on walks up to this person and said sorry, i'm deaf and did u need anything.. sometimes they did, sometimes they would tell me uh.. never mind. *rolls* it varies on people. *shrugs*
 
Been there, sometimes i would say, please say it again, they go nevermind, then i start to sign, just to be fair. i will never forget this, this guy came to me, are you deaf with his mouth wide open, i said yeah, just talk normal i can read lips, does it hurt your ears that ur deaf, im like :wtf:. espically when guys with mustance(sp) im like ugh!!!
 
Yaa.. my husband totally doesnt get it either. We go out with friends sometimes and theyre all talking and laughing hard.. then my hub complains on why Im not chattery with them.. Im like.. I have absolutely no idea what u guys are talking about, how can I jump in a convo? jeez..
 
I am exactly the same as you Bewitchedkitten! Except my husband didn't say that, but his friends asked him why I'm not as chattery. *rme*

Cheri, yes it happened to me a lot and it is one of my biggest pet peeves like I mentioned in the Pet Peeves thread.
 
That's too bad that some of you have had bad reactions from people. I am hearing, but would never react like that. I used to work at a place where we had a deaf mailman and everyone would refuse to go talk to him if he needed us to sign for something or whatever. I don't know what's so intimidating about it, it's just mail! So I would always go over because I would never want to make a person feel badly.

Besides, how hard is it to just sign for the mail and smile?
 
Cheri said:
Have you ever had a problem when a hearing person approach you and asked you a question and you couldn't be able to read his/her lips, and you tell that person you are deaf but, "If you speak clearly I could read your lips," and that person says "Oh I am so sorry never mind" and walks away?
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It happens to me many times. Some people would look for some paper and pen to write it down what they want to say. That is only small percent of people would... Other than that, they will wave and say "never mind". I tend to give them my 'rolleyes' face and walk away.
 
That is why....

I have this bad attitude...
because some people can be immature.

And I would get fed up about it...

Some people always think I have a problem, but I don't
they have a problem... they don't understand
how insensitive they are.

I know nobody will believe me but...
when I was job corps, an old black woman threw my notebook and textbook in the garbage. And I didn't say anything about it... I just took my
books out of the garbage and left the room and SLAM the door behind me.

And I told my friends about it, and they said they heard about it...
And they said that the old woman didn't understand me.

And Malf, if you don't believe me, why not called Atlanta Job Corps and
asked one of the staff if they know me... and they will tell you.
Just tell them "do you know a girl with TCS and blah blah blah?"
They will remember me.

Not trying to get attention or get pity,, just joining discussion...
Yeah I gotta explain myself here.
 
It happens to me sometimes, too. The only one time was bad was when I was at the club with my sister, cousins and friends. A guy asked me for a dance, I said OK. He was going to whisper in my ear and i pulled away because I needed to read his lips. lol My cousin told him that I couldn't hear. He said oh and then immediately asked my sister to dance with him. She left with him. She was not aware of what went on between him and I. I was like GRRR, I may be deaf but I sure can dance!
 
This has happened from time to time...the thing that is unsettling is the fact after I've explained nicely that if the speaker could either speak up or look directly at me...and then catching that exasperation or sigh when they realize they need to repeat and then a few of them will either say--"oh never mind, it's nothing..." or wave off and walk away or say something else...although, there are quite a few people that will realize how important this is and adjust accordingly and it won't be a problem anymore.
 
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