Had to vent, sorry

Skullchick, just be yourself and keep on posting along with us. As for real life, who cares what people think, just walk with your chin up high and smile :)
 
jillio said:
I'm sorry that you are having such a tough time right now, Skullchick. I can assure you that you are not invisible on AD, and that I have always enjoyed chatting with you.

Just a reminder....we must like ourselves before others will like us. It comes from the image we present. Behave as if you are a person others would want to know, and it attracts those who want to know you.
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Yeah I know its very very difficult to like myself because of too much people telling me bad things all my life and I figure if I get it so often it must've been true you know, like my family called me fat even if I'm underweight, kids from school when I was in past then were cruel, completely stranger telling me I'm ugly, all that stuff you know. I recently got called dyke even tho I'm not lesbian few weeks ago by stranger I don't understand.
Sometimes I feel like I'm wearing sign that's visible to people but not to me saying "be mean to me" or something
 
You are nice, I love your pic!! You've endured alot in your life/past and I feel you are accepted here.
 
SkullChick said:
Yeah I know its very very difficult to like myself because of too much people telling me bad things all my life and I figure if I get it so often it must've been true you know, like my family called me fat even if I'm underweight, kids from school when I was in past then were cruel, completely stranger telling me I'm ugly, all that stuff you know. I recently got called dyke even tho I'm not lesbian few weeks ago by stranger I don't understand.
Sometimes I feel like I'm wearing sign that's visible to people but not to me saying "be mean to me" or something
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dyke? I don't think she meant it as in lesbian. I think she said that as in tomboy or "tough guy" image. Maybe you came on strong or look strong to her and she, with her very limited vocabulary skill, resorted to calling you a dyke - just like a guy called a girl who he hates as "whore"

these people... :roll:
 
jiro123 said:
dyke? I don't think she meant it as in lesbian. I think she said that as in tomboy or "tough guy" image. Maybe you came on strong or look strong to her and she, with her very limited vocabulary skill, resorted to calling you a dyke - just like a guy called a girl who he hates as "whore"

these people... :roll:
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He, I don't even know him just stranger yelled dyke at me I heard it with CI clear as bell and I was like "wtf" lol.
Believe it or not it wasn't first time, I've been accused of being lesbian all time during middle and high school :dunno:
 
Oh, and you know what I do when I feel I am being ignored by other members? I travel the board and check all the rooms out. It's neat.
 
SkullChick said:
He, I don't even know him just stranger yelled dyke at me I heard it with CI clear as bell and I was like "wtf" lol.
Believe it or not it wasn't first time, I've been accused of being lesbian all time during middle and high school :dunno:
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Who care about people who pick on you. Just igonre them and let them think whatever they are.

Be happy you have fiance.
 
Hey Skullshickie,

Don't worry about those people and you don't expect everyone to be your friend. You cannot just make friends overnight, as it takes time to get to know people and they will warm up with you as time goes by. I do get ignored plenty of times here and I just move on and not worry about those people. At least, you have a fiance that loves for who you are and accepts for who you are.
 
sequoias said:
Hey Skullshickie,

Don't worry about those people and you don't expect everyone to be your friend. You cannot just make friends overnight, as it takes time to get to know people and they will warm up with you as time goes by. I do get ignored plenty of times here and I just move on and not worry about those people. At least, you have a fiance that loves for who you are and accepts for who you are.
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I know I didn't expect to makes friend overnight it just I've been here for over a year (ignore my join date its supposed to say may 07 not july) I just hoped to be well known around here but oh well
 
SkullChick said:
I know I didn't expect to makes friend overnight it just I've been here for over a year (ignore my join date its supposed to say may 07 not july) I just hoped to be well known around here but oh well
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If that makes you feel better, I am a long time member from Skyscrapercity forums. I get ignored WAYYYY worse than you can think. Some of the people made fun of my grammar. I don't post there that often, though.
 
SkullChick said:
He, I don't even know him just stranger yelled dyke at me I heard it with CI clear as bell and I was like "wtf" lol.
Believe it or not it wasn't first time, I've been accused of being lesbian all time during middle and high school :dunno:
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:dunno: oh well... my response to him? :sure::wackit: :cool2:
 
sequoias said:
If that makes you feel better, I am a long time member from Skyscrapercity forums. I get ignored WAYYYY worse than you can think. Some of the people made fun of my grammar. I don't post there that often, though.
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Yea same here with Skyscraperpage, I stopped posting around there due too much ego and competitive people there.
 
SkullChick said:
Yeah I know its very very difficult to like myself because of too much people telling me bad things all my life and I figure if I get it so often it must've been true you know, like my family called me fat even if I'm underweight, kids from school when I was in past then were cruel, completely stranger telling me I'm ugly, all that stuff you know. I recently got called dyke even tho I'm not lesbian few weeks ago by stranger I don't understand.
Sometimes I feel like I'm wearing sign that's visible to people but not to me saying "be mean to me" or something
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People can be very cruel. In the vast majority of cases, those who treat others in a cruel way actually feel very bad about themselves, and attempt to make themselves feel better by making others feel bad. The others are just thoughtless and irresponsibile.

What matters most is what you think of yourself. People can say whatever they want, but it isn't necessarily connected to reality. Just because someone says you are fat doesn't mean that you are. I understand that after being subjected to that kind of treatment for a long period of time, you start to feel that maybe they are right. But they aren't. You are a beautiful girl with much to offer, and I want you to hold onto that thought and make it yours.
 
SkullChick said:
I know I didn't expect to makes friend overnight it just I've been here for over a year (ignore my join date its supposed to say may 07 not july) I just hoped to be well known around here but oh well
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I think if you just post a little more often, you and what you are like soon will be well known. That will help you find the group you fit in.
 
You're not invisible. It goes both ways, You make friends with people here, and they make friends with you. Many of these people here want to make friends just as much as you do. so make your move, then you'll successful. :)
 
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