gifts out of guilt

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apathrev

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This question is relevant to the situation that occurred under my previous thread, "people you thought were your friends"

I've had much trouble getting to sleep lately, and its gotten worse since I now have to wake up at 5 AM in the morning for work. With 5 roommates living in my house, there is constant noise, and its not always easy getting to sleep. My roommate has this device that makes a constant, low volume noise, and allows him to sleep better. I asked him about it, and he told me where I could likely find one, and for how much, etc. I went looking for one today at both Target and Wal Mart with no luck. I come home from work, and there it is, brand new, lying right in front of my door. I have no doubt my roommate bought it as a guilt gift for stealing my bass guitar, which I am still very pissed off about. At this point, I want nothing to do with my roommates, but this gift is something I need. What should I do? Just take it, use it, and pretend like everything's fine? Or should I stand my ground and let them know my trust is not going to be boughten so easily?

And just for the record, no, I do not intend on buying any of my roommates Christmas gifts, after the situation on Friday night.
 
I dunno, I don't know your roommates or ever spoken with them before, What I'll tell you just follow your heart and trust your instinct. ;)


Have a nice Merry Christmas!
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Awww apathrevl, What the matter Hun? Want some advice? Don't worry about your roommates because there people out in the world are just like them even worst. I have my share of problems just like you, and I am not going to let it ruin my Christmas. Try to do the same sweetie. :hug:
 
If I were you, I would forgive them and take the gift, it show that they did their part by feeling bad for what they've done to you....Afterall, it's something you wanted and you got it!
 
apathrev said:
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Aw I know how you feel, I'm getting hasseling thru PM from a member here, and he just simple won't leave me alone...
 
"gift out of guilt"??? How about "gift as an apology"? What do you want to do, make him grovel? What if I said you don't appear to be very forgiving? How would you react to that statement?
 
apathrev said:
This question is relevant to the situation that occurred under my previous thread, "people you thought were your friends"

I've had much trouble getting to sleep lately, and its gotten worse since I now have to wake up at 5 AM in the morning for work. With 5 roommates living in my house, there is constant noise, and its not always easy getting to sleep. My roommate has this device that makes a constant, low volume noise, and allows him to sleep better. I asked him about it, and he told me where I could likely find one, and for how much, etc. I went looking for one today at both Target and Wal Mart with no luck. I come home from work, and there it is, brand new, lying right in front of my door. I have no doubt my roommate bought it as a guilt gift for stealing my bass guitar, which I am still very pissed off about. At this point, I want nothing to do with my roommates, but this gift is something I need. What should I do? Just take it, use it, and pretend like everything's fine? Or should I stand my ground and let them know my trust is not going to be boughten so easily?
And just for the record, no, I do not intend on buying any of my roommates Christmas gifts, after the situation on Friday night.
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If, that gift was intented for you..yes, just take it. And, also your roommate should say apologize to you as well for the sake of Christmas Spirit. By sayin' your roommate's apologizin' to you, it will make you feel whole a lot better and you will be able to sleep well. Perhaps, you may want to walk up to your roommate with your gift and ask that person what the gift is all about ? Maybe, your roommate will say somethin' ? :dunno:

FYI, Forgivin' is a medicine to make friends again.. and, also it helps to sleep well -- but, it will never be the same.
 
Tousi said:
"gift out of guilt"??? How about "gift as an apology"? What do you want to do, make him grovel? What if I said you don't appear to be very forgiving? How would you react to that statement?
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How would I react?

:gives:
 
I would say have a house meeting with your roommates and lay everything on the table -- see if everyone will be happy to sit down and talk things through with you? You could say thanks and explain that you're still feeling stung from the stunt they pulled last Friday and would be greatly appreciated if they didn't pull something like that again in the near future. Just a suggestion.

btw, Happy Christmas. Don't let this ruin the holidays.
 
my friend told me you just appear cold hearted if don't forgive it might take time to forgive the person/people for what they did. I think shes right and i know im not a very forgiving person if it was something big especially if someone assumed things about me or talked about one of my friends in front of me.
 
Accept the gift. Forgiving helps to move on and make peace. Don't hold a grudge it will only make you more miserable. Living in a full house is not easy but I agree with some of the others, don't let it ruin your holidays or any of your days. :zzz: I wish you peaceful nights.
 
apathrev said:
How would I react?

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Thanks a lot, Apathetic. Makes me wonder why I wasted my time but I thought you were asking for feedback. Merry Christmas to you!
 
Tousi said:
Thanks a lot, Apathetic. Makes me wonder why I wasted my time but I thought you were asking for feedback. Merry Christmas to you!
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Yeah, he is just a mean-sprirt Scrooge...
 
^Angel^ said:
Cheri will not like that....
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I am neither referring nor comparing to Cheri. Oh, boy....

Do you know about Jennifer Lopez's song called Cherry Pie?
 
No, I only know one song, " Here comes that little Cherry pie, her name is Cheri ".... :wiggle:
 
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