Facing your fears - have you done it?

kellycat said:
That is true...I often mutter something around my hearing friends they ask me to repeat and I say "never mind". On second thought it wasn't worth repeating, or I decided it wasn't nice to say, or whatever.

I have been scarred for life by every deaf person I know about never giving the "never mind" response. My poor deaf friends have all suffered through really bad, not funny, poorly signed, or nonsensical jokes. My hearing friends have been spared. Just so you know, be careful what you ask for! LOL!!!!

(and yes, I understand that a lifetime of being brushed aside probably makes you want to suffer through the bad jokes if it means you at least know what is going on)
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Really ?
 
Yeah...after the third time repeating and rephrasing a joke, adding in explanation that both clarifies AND sucks all the humor out, my deaf friends probably regret ever clueing me in on THAT cultural norm.

My example was not from a mixed language group...I was referring to stupid things I have signed in a fully signed conversation where everyone was signing, compared to stupid things I have said in a fully spoken, no deaf ppl around conversation. But I am still afraid of brushing off a comment I don't think bears repeating or I considered inappropriate or whatever.

(Does the "don't say never mind" rule still apply if I'm signing and change my mind? Is the rule mostly about not leaving someone out of a spoken conversation/interpreting for others? Or do y'all still hate that when everyone is signing and someone changes their mind about a comment?)
 
Kellykat,

My thought is that how would a deaf person know if it was the case of change-of-mind?
 
Presumably is one is using "ASL" in a "deaf group" then there response should "be understood".
If one doesn't understand ASL then everything stops at that point- require an "interpreter"-if available Or withdraw forthwith from that group.
What next?
 
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