Hello GrendelQ,
I am a 34 year old woman who was born Deaf to Hearing parents. ;-)
My parents did not find out I was Deaf until I was 18 months old - fortunately, my mom had prior experience with the Deaf as she was Best friends with a girl whose father was the Super of the Montana School for the D & B when she was in Jr. High so she had some exposure. She still freaked out when she found out I was Deaf though.
Montana at that time (and is a bit somewhat now)still are behind in regards to Deaf Awareness. The doctors in MT did not tell my parents what was wrong so they took me to U. of W. in Seattle and there, they found out I was Deaf. They were pretty devastated.
So they first started out by putting me in oral program and that quickly was abandoned because we were all very frustrated with communication issues so we ended up going to the U. of Montana sign language classes and I quickly took off in communicating in sign language with my mom trying to scramble to keep up with me! LOL
I started going to speech therapy & school at 2 years old and went to school all day and then when I got home, she would work with me building up more vocabulary.
That went on for YEARS. By elementary school I was pretty sick of it all ;-)
I had one big factor that helped me build my vocabulary and was able to read at college level by Jr. high school and that was loving to read books. I read books by the pile pretty much every day.
I have been mainstreamed my whole life with a stint at the Deaf school at Washington School for the Deaf for 3 months during my sophomore year to get some experience with Deaf social.
I have had interpreters in school the whole duration of my schooling. I took Advanced Placement and Honors classes during my high school years. I was the only Deaf student in my grade and there were 200 kids in my graduating class and I graduated at #14 - with Honors at 3.98 GPA. I was pretty bored at this high school because it was not "challenging" enough as it was a public school. I did apply to my brothers private Catholic high school and I did get accepted but ended up not attending that because of interpreter issue (as no one accepted the job) so that majorly sucked as I know that I would have gotten more quality education and challenges and end up being interested in school.
I grew up with a group of Deaf kids that were either a year or 2 older / younger than I was. There was about 10 of us, and only 2 other kids' parents besides my parents who signed at home and we 3 were more successful in being mainstreamed full time and could read at college level. But we all lived so far apart so it was not really possible to have the social life like at a Deaf school.
My stint at WSD was a big shock academically and socially. Academically, there was NO Advanced Placement and Honors classes offered there, it was pretty much all just very basic / remedial classes so I ended up going to a local high school being mainstreamed there and then I took crafts / physical education classes at WSD. Socially, I had a very hard time making friends there because it was so very much "cliquey" because it was an institution school and I had been "mainstreamed" so I experienced one of my first discrimination from the Deaf community, and the other issue was my "signing" - I was not "ASL" enough for them - as you can see I am pretty fluent in English but I do know ASL - I just can't do the "FULL" ASL grammar when signing. I can sign "ASL" but not in grammar form if that makes sense?
Anyways, my parents and brother knows sign - my brothe and my dad are more of "home sign". My mom interpreted for me in a lot of situations and by Jr. High / High school, I just wanted SPACE from her! LOL I did not appreciate all that she did for me then but now, I do.
It is VERY vital that families communicate with their Deaf child and encourage them, to let them be who they are, and expect a lot from them to be successful. And reading a lot is very important. This doesn't just apply to Deaf kids but for hearing kids as well. Too much tv & video games and not enough reading is a big problem for todays' kids for sure!
My mom did ask me if I wanted CI when I was about 14 and I was not ready and I said no way! ;-) But, I did get a CI in 2005. I believe to be successful with CI is if the Deaf person is motivated enough, already have the ability to lip read and can use the most out of having CI's.
I can lip read fluently and can speak pretty well.
Interpreters are great but for information I prefer CART; why? CART is verbatim and uses the vocabulary that the hearing person is using and wow it's amazing at how much information a Deaf person can get by using CART compared to interpreters. For other situations, I'd not mind interpreters but for like education, learning about whatever - getting information - I'd rather have the CART. It's really mind blowing for sure with the comparisons. I had my first experience with CART last year and I couldn't believe how much information I had been missing using an interpreter! WOW!
I often catch interpreters subsituting words or not using words what the speaker is saying and that upsets me because how can we expect the Deaf community to build up our knowledge if we are denied the information and / or the opportunity to learn new words and to interact with others on the same level? We don't need "dumbed down" information.
My biggest obstacle that happens often in my life is "interpreters" because I often would love to go to church (a Religious Science spiritual growth church) and there's no interpreter available because NO ONE wants to interpret for this "type" of church. Or even taking classes at that church - still the same issue. Ugh.. or even an community event / class / work shop or educational class in the community - same thing... it's about $, non-available, etc and so on. CART is pretty expensive compared to interpreters.
Anyways - I think I should stop for now LOL Feel free to ask me more questions via email if you'd like. I'd be more than happy to answer them if I can. ;-) Have a great week!
Take care