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shel90

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Do any of you ever have your moments where u ever wonder what your life would be like if you were hearing?

For me, I do have my moments. It is so strange...sometimes, I wonder if I would be a successful and highly recognized interior designer by now? I am sure I can do that being deaf if one lady from VR didnt shoot me down when I expressed wanting to study interior designing at 18 years old. However, my point is if I was hearing and I never had people telling me that I cant do this or that which as a result, ruined my self-esteem at such a young age, would I be living in Seattle having my own successful business as a world-reowned international interior designer in demand by the rich and famous?
 
I do sometimes. I wanted to work in the Mult-media Industry.
 
Always. Whenever i go swimming, you know we have to take off our CI and hearing aids when we go in water right? like taking a shower, going swimming, whatever and wherever. But for me, I always wondered what underwater when swimming sounds like. Like people splashing waves under water? or something like that. And when my hair is wet I wonder what the sounds i'm making right now is different comparing to the CI and HA to real life sounds. Sometimes I do wish i was hearing. Sometimes I believe I'm lucky enough to be deaf. I don't know if this is God's plan for me in my lifetime. I lost my hearing to autoimmune hearing loss when i was three. And I remember talking to my mom about my hearing loss when i was 8.
"Mom?" -me
"Yes?"-my mom
"Will I able to hear again in the future?"-Me scared and nervous
My mom sighs and looks at me.
"No honey, I'm sorry. Your hearing won't be back." -my mom sad, and hugging me. I start to be sad.

It was hard. But I guess that its something god has in plan for me.
 
There is plenty og good things that is good to be deaf. BUT the quote says from the former president of Gally University.

"Deaf people can do ANYTHING, execpt to hear"

and its true.
 
It is a normal reaction to have those moments of wondering what our lives would be like if we had made other options.

When you ponder back on your life you think to yourself, what if you had done differently?

But when one makes a choice, no one knows whether that choice will end up being a satisfactory or an unpleasant one.

I had always wanted to be a nurse but was told that I couldn't. Nevertheless, I still enjoyed working in an office for years. :)
 
I always wanted to be a DJ it was a dream for me along time ago,if I could have had better hearing and not have a deaf accent.
 
uhhhh....hmmm.......I am deaf nurse..dude....It can be done, you CAN do it. I love work as nurse soooo much. That is what has kept me sane in my life after everything I have gone through.

Shel, like mentioned, I think we ALL think that. I do know what life is like hearing.....it really is soooooo different. In a matter of 3 weeks I go from "priviledged" as in kinda having nothing I havent achieved that I tried at, to tremendous struggle to even get the chance from people. It is humbling to think about it, because I was way too arrogant, way to cocky; and I feel so much personal resolve now, with my effort to have successful days every day. It is tough things every day.

It may sounding cheesy, but I don't know what life to be like hearing anymore...I love you guys too much and and not know that it would suck if I never came to AD two yrs ago.
 
hohDougRN said:
uhhhh....hmmm.......I am deaf nurse..dude....It can be done, you CAN do it. I love work as nurse soooo much. That is what has kept me sane in my life after everything I have gone through.
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I am aware of that, Doug ... you are very fortunate to be one in this day and age. But, years ago in the early 70's, disabilities were frowned upon so it was very difficult in those days. I was told I would be a liability as I may misinterpret what medical persons say and get the wrong medications, etc.
 
I will give you that, and I understand. I know times change cultural norms and viewpoints, and always will
 
Usually only when it comes to finding a job and I get discriminated because of my hearing disability and my race that I wish that I was hearing so that I could get a job fast. I don't like professional people putting me down and say that I could not do the job. If they would just give me a try like a trail to let them know I can do the job, that would be great. Beside, I have never been hearing as I was born with deafness. I would not want to change my life being deaf to hearing. No way!!! I am happy being Deaf, so there. :nana:
 
Bebonang said:
Usually only when it comes to finding a job and I get discriminated because of my hearing disability and my race that I wish that I was hearing so that I could get a job fast. I don't like professional people putting me down and say that I could not do the job. If they would just give me a try like a trail to let them know I can do the job, that would be great. Beside, I have never been hearing as I was born with deafness. I would not want to change my life being deaf to hearing. No way!!! I am happy being Deaf, so there. :nana:
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got that right my only thing id change would be being sent to the hearing impaired schools as a young child then I could speak in asl instead of speaking I guess what they call "normal" now
I wouldnt give up who I am, hoh, just to be "normal" because of what other people say or want me to change to fit there perpective of what life is.
sry if it doesnt make sense but I tried
 
A couple of thigs that come to mind as what I would have wanted to do: Be a pharmacist or a trader on an Exchange floor.....
 
i think of it the other way honestly....

What things would be like if i were born deaf...

Honestly i probaly wouldnt be CLOSE to the kind of person i am today.
 
good question but then.... we wouldn't turn out to be this great, kind people as we are now. If we were hearing back then, we'd probably end up as an asshole like rest of people. But I'll answer your question - yes if I were a hearing, I'd be in public service - military, law enforcement, whatever.
 
As a multi handicapped person, my goals were to live my own life without controls of parents, get married, and have a family.

I achieved what I wanted.

I am happy.
 
ya know....its only natural though to wonder, dream, and imagine. I replay tons of memories or experiences and think what might taken place of I had done something else, thought this, etc......this does not only apply to what could have been if we wasn't deaf
 
Actually my constant question is "Why was I chosen to be deaf?" - I often marvel at how that could happen to me as deaf people are in minority - and I am one of them - it is not a pity question - it is more like a philosophical question.

I never thought about what my life would be like if I am hearing - Nope - because I know I would not be who I am if I can hear - I would not trade my trials and tribulations for anything else as they really have molded me into who I am - a strong confident and courageous woman.
 
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