Ever feel so alone even thou you are married?

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Mistyrose

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Do any of you ever feel lonely even though you
are married? I know it sounds strange but it
does happen!
Like for example: Your husband/wife does not
communicate with you or share with you about
anything or you and your spouse may do things
on our own like not even going anywhere together?
I know some couples do things separately like
going on vacations by themselves instead of going
together or possibly going with other people.
This type of marriage is more like roommates or living
together like a brother and sister. I have heard this
does happen.
Want to discuss this?
 
Unfortunately this is much more prevalent than you think it is. It is not strange - it is out there more than we realize.

I have been there - whether it be in my previous marriage or relationships - so that is why I always say "I would rather be alone than be with someone yet feel so alone."

I do realize that every one of us cannot always be in tight connection with that particular significant other but we can keep working on connection. Some simply give up and live together yet lead seperate lives, whether it be emotionally, mentally, spirituality and physically. For me, I cant accept that.
 
No, my hubby & I do mostly everything together ... go out shopping, cooking, household chores, holidays, watch most TV programs and have great conversations.

Of course, we give each other 'space' every now and again where we go on our own computer/lap-top in different rooms, or I might do some laundry/ironing while he does the car maintenance/mowing lawn. :)
 
That is the way it has been for years for me,I know the feeling my marriage died along time ago.
 
Gemma said:
Unfortunately this is much more prevalent than you think it is. It is not strange - it is out there more than we realize.

I have been there - whether it be in my previous marriage or relationships - so that is why I always say "I would rather be alone than be with someone yet feel so alone."

I do realize that every one of us cannot always be in tight connection with that particular significant other but we can keep working on connection. Some simply give up and live together yet lead seperate lives, whether it be emotionally, mentally, spirituality and physically. For me, I cant accept that.
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I understand and i would not accept that concept either but im
experiencing it. It is very difficult to live like this yet i do not
want to be alone even though im lonely but this situation could
change cuz like you said "I would rather be alone than be with
someone yet feel so alone". Didnt realize that it is more common
out there. Thanks for your input.
 
Matilda said:
No, my hubby & I do mostly everything together ... go out shopping, cooking, household chores, holidays, watch most TV programs and have great conversations.

Of course, we give each other 'space' every now and again where we go on our own computer/lap-top in different rooms, or I might do some laundry/ironing while he does the car maintenance/mowing lawn. :)
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Thats the way a marriage should be, do things together and
have fun, especially having good conversations. You are lucky
that you have someone that you can do that. Of course, we
all need some space time, thats good and normal. But not if
you and your spouse just dont it anymore. If your spouse
is constantly taking off to places by himself/herself all the time,
not good sign.
 
Pepsi said:
That is the way it has been for years for me,I know the feeling my marriage died along time ago.
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Im sorry about your marriage cuz i know how you feel!
I hope im not being nosy but is your husband hearing or
deaf?
Are you happy with your marriage like that? Im not sure
if i would myself. It is just too lonely.
 
Defee said:
Im sorry about your marriage cuz i know how you feel!
I hope im not being nosy but is your husband hearing or
deaf?
Are you happy with your marriage like that? Im not sure
if i would myself. It is just too lonely.
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Thank,my husband is hearing and we are getting a divorce.I can't wait I am going to be so happy.I just wish that I have not waited so long.
 
Pepsi said:
Thank,my husband is hearing and we are getting a divorce.I can't wait I am going to be so happy.I just wish that I have not waited so long.
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Oh dear! Im so sorry to hear that. I understand your feeling
about getting out of the marriage, dont blame you at all
since you and your hubby are not happy.
Good luck in your soon to be freedom and i pray that you
will find peace and happiness.
 
How long you're married? It sound you're happy marriage! I am happy for you! :)

Matilda said:
No, my hubby & I do mostly everything together ... go out shopping, cooking, household chores, holidays, watch most TV programs and have great conversations.

Of course, we give each other 'space' every now and again where we go on our own computer/lap-top in different rooms, or I might do some laundry/ironing while he does the car maintenance/mowing lawn. :)
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Defee said:
Oh dear! Im so sorry to hear that. I understand your feeling
about getting out of the marriage, dont blame you at all
since you and your hubby are not happy.
Good luck in your soon to be freedom and i pray that you
will find peace and happiness.
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:ty:
 
I'm married for 1 half month now. I am feeling alone when he is at working for second shift. We always have spend time in daytime before he go to work at 4. He came home for dinner for an hour then return to work. And plus he will go back to college next month. He is out of town right now. I can't wait for him to get home tomorrow. We will spend time together alone and communicate.

The most important is faith, communicate and love. We don't like to get divorce. I am hope for my husband to find a right job after graduate. He really want to work for first shift instead second shift.
 
mostly married people always kept in marriages and trust for longtimes and more trust some argues for sakes of kids! and got divorces but never trust of spouse!

my parents got argues for sakes of me and my brother when they were so little and i wouldnt bear to watch on my parent's argues of marriages so my parent is no longer marriages! SO my mom got file divorces but my parent got temporary separation till divorces so my parent know they dont together but i love my dad.Sometime my dad visit my mom not everyday just once month.

I told my boyfriend on e-mail messages about future plans but i dont like argues what my mind about of my parents on divorces but i would like to strong marriages for longtimes what i wanted it but i dont wanted rush get married.

my grandma been widow for 19 years since my late grandfather's died and she got remarried in 1995.
 
sara1981 said:
mostly married people always kept in marriages and trust for longtimes and more trust some argues for sakes of kids! and got divorces but never trust of spouse!

my parents got argues for sakes of me and my brother when they were so little and i wouldnt bear to watch on my parent's argues of marriages so my parent is no longer marriages! SO my mom got file divorces but my parent got temporary separation till divorces so my parent know they dont together but i love my dad.Sometime my dad visit my mom not everyday just once month.

I told my boyfriend on e-mail messages about future plans but i dont like argues what my mind about of my parents on divorces but i would like to strong marriages for longtimes what i wanted it but i dont wanted rush get married.

my grandma been widow for 19 years since my late grandfather's died and she got remarried in 1995.
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Im sorry your parents are divorced but sometimes its best that way
if they dont get along and it would not be good for the kids..looks
like your parents still love each other but cant live together..at least they still see each other..a bit unusual but it does happens. I know your
parents love you very much so remember that, ok? Smile!
 
There is a book that will help with this problem actually. it is called The Five Love Languages
 
If I feel lonely I'd tell & discuss with my hubby about it. And go on a "date" like dinner & movie or attend an event/festival/museum. If still feel lonely, I go do something that I enjoy to do by myself, i.e., painting, reading, flyfishfing, watch a movie, or work in backyard tend my flowers and roses, whichever I feel like. Or grab a friend and chat, chat & chat!!

I don't need to depend on my hubby for happiness. I have to be happy and enjoy within myself and have a relationship with heavenly Father. My hubby & respect each other for our own space and need time together, too. Been married since Jan 2008 after being together for 2 years. ;)
 
cabaca said:
If I feel lonely I'd tell & discuss with my hubby about it. And go on a "date" like dinner & movie or attend an event/festival/museum. If still feel lonely, I go do something that I enjoy to do by myself, i.e., painting, reading, flyfishfing, watch a movie, or work in backyard tend my flowers and roses, whichever I feel like. Or grab a friend and chat, chat & chat!!

I don't need to depend on my hubby for happiness. I have to be happy and enjoy within myself and have a relationship with heavenly Father. My hubby & respect each other for our own space and need time together, too. Been married since Jan 2008 after being together for 2 years. ;)
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Yes you are absolutely right and i agree that you and your spouse
should have some space time and time together is good. Also good
communications between you and your hubby/wife is very important
too.
You are lucky and God bless you and your hubby.
 
Defee said:
Yes you are absolutely right and i agree that you and your spouse
should have some space time and time together is good. Also good
communications between you and your hubby/wife is very important
too.
You are lucky and God bless you and your hubby.
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Oh thank you Defee, you a sweetie :ty: God bless you, too!
 
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