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Do you look down on anyone who were once a parent and It did not work for them. They made the decision to give baby away to the BEST parents who are in desire of adopting baby and treated like they are belong to them?

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I'm not a parent to anyone unless you count my rottweiler. It'll be inappropriate for me to judge other parents.
 
Having the experience of growing up never knowing my mother, yes I do.

I judge it harshly.
 
Bottesini said:
Having the experience of growing up never knowing my mother, yes I do.

I judge it harshly.
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Im sorry. Was my question related to your life that your mother didnt want to take care of you and allow your dad to take care of you instead. SO She got out of your life to the day??
 
Bottesini said:
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I understand. I am sure that your mom had reasons not to take care of you.


I dont judge any parents if they could not able to take care of kids. If they are stuck with kids then they would more likely put more stressses on Kids in general.
 
Depends on the circumstances...I know of several women who have lost their kids due to neglect and drugs....some due to abandonment....What really makes me angry is teenage mothers having babies after babies with no way to suppport them and Dead Beat Dads.....
 
rockin'robin said:
Depends on the circumstances...I know of several women who have lost their kids due to neglect and drugs....some due to abandonment....What really makes me angry is teenage mothers having babies after babies with no way to suppport them and Dead Beat Dads.....
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Yes that!! I cant stand of seeing like what mom having babies after babies for what...
 
I have experienced this firsthand. My first wife decided she wanted to continue being a partier, she wanted out... so I got full custody of my daughter at 3yo and her mom ran off. She would call and talk to our daughter at first, telling her she would come visit her ( birthdays, holidays ) and never show. It would break our daughters heart. I finally told my ex, not to call her unless it was the day before or the day of and if she was truly going to be there. Since I was a single father raising my daughter alone her mom has only seen her about 5 times in 17 years....she did show for her high school graduation but didn't show for her college graduation. I never got a dime of child support from her, I didn't want it anyways since she cant hold a job it wouldn't do any good to ask for it, one less headache to worry about. but yes, I hate parents who run off either it be mom or dad, its a 2 way street and you made a child together, both are responsible. I have seen the toll it takes on a child. People always make comments about her mom leaving and she hates it, last time since she is a young adult now, she told them "Yeah, I get it ! Now Forget it" she knows her mom was wrong, but she still loves her.
 
rockin'robin said:
Depends on the circumstances...I know of several women who have lost their kids due to neglect and drugs....some due to abandonment....What really makes me angry is teenage mothers having babies after babies with no way to suppport them and Dead Beat Dads.....
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And something the dad is an older man and I would blame the dad more . My best girlfriend got pregnant by an older man and she wanted to keep her baby but her parents would not allowed this because they where worried with the Jones would say! When my friend was older my younger sister was trying to help her find her child , but my friend got cancer and dies before she got to see her first grandchild. I never looked down on my friend because I knew she really wanted her baby. Some girls have babies so they'll have some to love them. They have abused parents or parent and feel unwanted, my girlfriend wanted a baby so she would feel loved all the time.
 
if mother for good reasons could not cope and knew baby be better with someone else then it brave thing to do,but option to know mother should be allowed...like rr young girls and boys who have children with no regard then maybe child better off with adoptive parents...so many variables
 
I do not look down on parents adopting out their children as long as they're doing it to make sure it's what's best for the child. There are certain circumstances where raising a child just doesn't work. Maybe they couldn't afford it, maybe they were in an abusive situation I mean anything could happen. As long as they truly love that child and are giving it up for adoption for the right reasons, I see no harm..... it's actually very responsible of them. Also in your scenario to make sure they were given to the best possible parents, I can respect that for the betterment of the child. Now, if someone is just giving up the child because they're lazy, or any of those types of situations.... it's still better for the child to go to a family who cares. I don't respect those people, but at least they had enough sense to still do what was best for the kid.
 
there's always stories you can get on the other half...bad ones and good ones..and not all
unplanned pregnancies are bad either...
indeed knocking up isnt a good idea as a lifestyle choice, that much i tend to agree with ...but...sometimes unexpected reason can throw you to change your mind in a big way
 
Both of my goddaughters' parents took off. The girls are currently living in India with their grandparents. How could I not judge them harshly when I'm one of the ones trying to answer questions like, "Where is Mommy?" and "Will Daddy call me on the phone today?" I try to let it go so it doesn't hurt me anymore but it will always hurt them and I don't know if I can ever get over that. Since then, both parents have gone on to have 2 other children each. The mother doesn't even know the date they left the country and the father only calls when he wants something and will only talk to the older girl if it happens to cross him mind before he hangs up.

But that's them. I don't know everyone and their stories. There could be good reasons for leaving. It isn't up to me to judge others, and I try not to, but having been so involved with my goddaughters' lives and the crap they are dealing with, it is very hard for me to not judge.
 
needsleep said:
Both of my goddaughters' parents took off. The girls are currently living in India with their grandparents. How could I not judge them harshly when I'm one of the ones trying to answer questions like, "Where is Mommy?" and "Will Daddy call me on the phone today?" I try to let it go so it doesn't hurt me anymore but it will always hurt them and I don't know if I can ever get over that. Since then, both parents have gone on to have 2 other children each. The mother doesn't even know the date they left the country and the father only calls when he wants something and will only talk to the older girl if it happens to cross him mind before he hangs up.

But that's them. I don't know everyone and their stories. There could be good reasons for leaving. It isn't up to me to judge others, and I try not to, but having been so involved with my goddaughters' lives and the crap they are dealing with, it is very hard for me to not judge.
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are the parents indian did they get adopted by americans?sounds complicated story
 
My aunt was a foster parent and I've seen first hand the awful things that parents who don't want to be parents can do to their children. I even went to the funeral of one who was given back to his parents that didn't want him.

I will judge them more harshly if they abuse, neglect, hurt the child that they resent for being alive. I will judge them less harshly or not at all if they make the decision to give the child away or extricate themselves from their lives so they can live a life with a parent/s who love them.
 
caz12 said:
are the parents indian did they get adopted by americans?sounds complicated story
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It is complicated. When people ask I usually tell them, "It's a long, Jerry Springer-inspired story. I'll explain later..." The father is Indian. Its his parents they're with. They moved back when they retired a few years ago. They're happy and healthy and safe out there so even though I only get to visit sometimes I'm happy with that. That's all I want for them. ♥
 
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