Do You Teach Your Child To Believe.....

[shel90]

Aww you're a good mom and that's an awesome idea!, I should do the same thing with my boys, Thanks

I try to! My daughter is spoiled due to my ex husband. Tooo of a long story but there are a lot of issues with that and as a result, my daughter doesnt really appreciate what she has. It is time to really show her. FYI, my ex bought her a $400 cell phone and she is only 9! Piss me off!

Sorrry to go off topic here...that can be a new thread "How much is too much for our kids?"

 

[Lillys dad]

I realize that charity is not the topic of the thread. I mentioned holiday time charity for a reason. I too am involved in charity and child well being time and financial donatrion through out the year. I brout up the christmas parties and christmas charities as an example of "spirit of the season" The kids I am referring to have very hard lives. So I do what I can for them to have a good christmas. Making sure they gets toys on christmas. Since my job was already brough up in this thread, remember, part of my job is to take children out of harmful/neglectful , abusive households and put them in a safe place. When these kids are taken, they are usually taken with only the clothes on their backs. They might have their backpacks if they are lucky enough to be taken into protective custody while at school. This is hands down one of the hardest, most emotional parts of my job. To most of those kids, I am the bad guy for putting them in a safe environment.
I actually have a 7 th grader at my school that eats her lunch as fast as she can everday, then runs over to me just to talk. After talking to her, I found out that she was taken from her parents when she was a little girl. After being placed into foster care, she was mistreated, and again taken into protective custody by police. SHe is left with several issues from all of this. But the one thing she told me was that the only people that have ever been nice to her were the cops. Teh ones that took her from her mom and the other family. Just as a reminder, I work in a jr high school, as a resource officer.

 

[Cheri]

shel90,.

Most of us I'm sure that we put the name "Santa" on the Christmas gifts when our children believes in Santa, I know I do, Lily's dad does not even understand our posts instead he went off rude in his very first post, calling us harsh parents saying how he felt sorry for our children. We never took the spirits away from the children, if you re-read the entire thread nobody had took Christmas away from their children. Now I've said what I wanted to say, I'm bowling out of this thread because Lily's dad just ruin it all for me to find this thread interesting again.

 

[shel90]

shel90,.

Most of us I'm sure that we put the name "Santa" on the Christmas gifts when our children believes in Santa, I know I do, Lily's dad does not even understand our posts instead he went off rude in his very first post, calling us harsh parents saying how he felt sorry for our children. We never took the spirits away from the children, if you re-read the entire thread nobody had took Christmas away from their children. Now I've said what I wanted to say, I'm bowling out of this thread because Lily's dad just ruin it all for me to find this thread interesting again.

I agreed with Lillysdad about children losing their innocence too fast and about St. Nick being real. The name calling stuff, that I didnt agree with. I should have edited his quote to the parts that I was referring to.

Thanks

 

[Liza]

What?! You meant to tell me that Santa isn't real? I disagree with you there! Santa exists! He exists in all the Christmas spirit in each of us, and is a symbol of benevolence and kindness. St. Nicholas was after all a real person many years ago and is the patron saint of children. We celebrate his day on Dec 6th, and leave small presents for each other. Then 24th, we put the gifts that Christkind left for us under the tree. And finally on Jan 6th, we have Day of Holy Three Kings, where we have more gathering. It's all over by the 7th.

My parents raised me to believe in Santa, and I knew it was them because it was obvious by seeing their handwriting on the tags, etc... but I knew that Santa lived in the spirit of giving and sharing, and sharing with the family some good times. I think it is important to teach the kids that instead of some story like Twas the Night Before Christmas.

I was thinking similar things about Santa existing in each of us and that santa did exist in some other way through St Nicholas, a real guy from 3rd century who happened to be into giving gifts in secret and also was the Bishop of Myra (an old city in modern Turkey). One of the coolest Christians around that time, possibly Episcopal. Wiki this. We got our Santa from the beautiful, mysterious middle east! I remember Santa as being that kind old man who was really into giving, and got turned into a legend complete with reindeers and elves to make children behave all year round or to make them the world's biggest market consumers, depending on perspective. I wouldn't keep my kids from celebrating with other kids in different ways, though, if the opportunity arose... they will know all the ways people celebrate Christmas along other holidays. Just dreams o'mine!

I would like to have kids someday, and I will tell the kids the truth about Santa/St Nicholas without making them lose some magic and fun in humanity. I don't want them to think I lie to them or something, whether it is to keep them happy or to make them behave good. They will learn to be kind as St Nicholas had been without strings attached, and hopefully that lesson stays with them forever. I can also see many of you have Santa in y'all. That's a compliment!

Once I read Dear Abby about a parent telling her kids that Santa sends her all the bills for their presents, so the kids were more considerate of asking for what they wanted! lol

Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus!

 

[Kuifje75]

For the record, may I add something here? I do not feel that Lilly'sdad was rude with his posting at all. I think he said it in a way that was in a funny way, like he could not believe that you all don't tell your kids about Santa. That was how I understood it. I feel that the reactions towards him was a bit over the top. But that is all done with and forgotten now. Smile.

Great post, Liza. I liked the excerpt from Dear Abby, quite funny!

Yes, Earth, there is a Saint Nicholas!

 

[GalaxyAngel]

I was thinking similar things about Santa existing in each of us and that santa did exist in some other way through St Nicholas, a real guy from 3rd century who happened to be into giving gifts in secret and also was the Bishop of Myra (an old city in modern Turkey). One of the coolest Christians around that time, possibly Episcopal. Wiki this. We got our Santa from the beautiful, mysterious middle east! I remember Santa as being that kind old man who was really into giving, and got turned into a legend complete with reindeers and elves to make children behave all year round or to make them the world's biggest market consumers, depending on perspective. I wouldn't keep my kids from celebrating with other kids in different ways, though, if the opportunity arose... they will know all the ways people celebrate Christmas along other holidays. Just dreams o'mine!

I would like to have kids someday, and I will tell the kids the truth about Santa/St Nicholas without making them lose some magic and fun in humanity. I don't want them to think I lie to them or something, whether it is to keep them happy or to make them behave good. They will learn to be kind as St Nicholas had been without strings attached, and hopefully that lesson stays with them forever. I can also see many of you have Santa in y'all. That's a compliment!

Once I read Dear Abby about a parent telling her kids that Santa sends her all the bills for their presents, so the kids were more considerate of asking for what they wanted! lol

Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus!

Pretty interesting 'bout this.. Actually I've heard about this one but don't know whereabouts exact location. Until you came and tell us about St Nick and location specific. Fully explanation. Thank you!

 

[JLFWildKat]

I know this is an old thread, but I voted no. Although my kids are only 1 & 2 years old. I'm not gonna say anything really unless they ask. But of course I'd tell the the truth. But also have them understand not to go to school & talk about it & break the other kid's heart about Santa not being real. Because sure enough those plenty that do believe in Santa.

 

[Animal_Lover]

My parents didnt tell me to believe the Santa..

When I was little..I don't care about Santa because i just want presents! haha yep I am bad! lol