do you have a hard times being deaf or hard of hearing?

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i will i tell you the truth,i have a hard times being hard of hearing because the hearing people do not respect hard of hearing and deaf peoples because their look at us different and dumb,their think that all deaf and hoh(hard of hearing) all the same and we can't read and write,but that is not truth at all,and think that we can't started a family,husband/wife,girlfriend/boyfriend, and childrens. do anybody what i am talking about here?:lol::wave:
 
Yep, I know how u feel! Hang in there!
 
Hmmm...not really. It's rather fine to be honest. I've no real problems.
 
We all know what you are talking about. Just prove them wrong!
 
I don't really have a hard time being HOH. I'm perfectly fine.
Just as long as I have that hearing aid in my ear, I'm good.
But other then that I feel like everyone else.
 
The only obstacle that I've ever encountered while being deaf is that sometimes it can be rather difficult to get ahold of people on the phone, especially when using relay as so many hang up on you thinking that you're a telemarketer or worse. I always seem to end up having to stop by the business or find someone else. Not an easy feat in a small town nor with me living in the country several miles out of town.

In other aspects of my life, I don't think I have a harder time than any one else would normally do and by this I mean our hearing counterparts.
 
Not really, though I just got over someone who forgets to speak directly so I can comprehend her better. I assume it is something she didn't want to put the effort to do and ended up talking with other hearing individuals instead. Strange thing is that I have no problems conversing with others since they know exactly how to speak towards me.
 
I do great at home. I yank off all hearing technology at the door. It is the last thing that I pick up when I leave. My dog, Holly, she is all I need.

I have lots of trouble at work. No one really signs, they mumble and won't repeat. I do have one student worker who is awesome. He does not let them get away with teasing me or asking stupid stuff so they can make fun. Since I don't always hear my own voice, the boss called my speech "baby talk". grrr. I really got mad over that one. She did not get away with it.

I have learned the hard way not to voice at the grocery store. Its waaaay easier. If I don't voice, they don't expect me to hear. Strange, but then they don't keep flapping lips. (not mean, just, well, you must understand) There was one cashier who signed, but she left.

I do really well at KFC walk in service. I just point to my ears, shake my head "no", and try to tell them what I want. The ladies are nice. They point at the menu to help. They always forget and call out my number on the mic. It's ok tho. I watch who was in front of me. When they have all gotten theirs, the next one is most likely mine.

I know what you mean about relay. All Purple now, too? Any way, I use vco, the i711 version, it's slow but it works great. What do you use sfor relay? I like my cell. Text and IM - they are great.
 
I find it hard being HOH if I at a movie or at a town meeting , . My family forget to talk loud when we get together , so yes I do find it hard not being able to hear very good!
 
We all understand how you feel. We're all HoH and Deaf. Welcome to AD.com, and feel free to vent your frustrations.
 
I prefer be deaf cuz why? I don't have to listen to anyone talking behind my back or anything that I don't need to worry about cuz I don't have to worry cuz I can prove anyone wrong lol cuz I can take care of problems on my own but not all but still it beats being hearing cuz those days hearing people can be dumb when they think we can't do anything like they can do anyway.. funny thing is my boss didn't know how smart I am with computer and I'm expert at being on computer but being on computer all day how boring... but hell.. sometimes it is a part of life that u have to keep working u can't depend completely on ssi cuz ssi will cut a bit due to budget.. blah if i worked more hours then I wud not be online that much or out that much but hell.. at least I will be happier if I make better $$ tho :cool2:
 
I had problems being HOH because people expect you to listen to them with powerful hearing aids. When you ask them to repeat they refuse to do so.

I don't have any problems being completely deaf. People have to use deafblind manual with me now.

As for being deafblind, that's not a problem either if you look at what you still have instead of what you lack.
 
I truely know what you mean! It happens a lot, it is not our problem it's just the hearing world's' problem, i mean there's so many of us who are deaf, surely they have to start learning about deaf people as it is becoming quite common
 
Yes, I know what you are talking about because I went thru. That's their loss!
Just hang in there! :hug:
 
The only thing that is hard about being deaf is the assumptions that people make (ie. myths about lipreading) and how some of them think they are helping (ie. treat as I am a kid or something,) when they are actually making things worse. Other than that, it is all about doing your own thing and not caring about what other people think.

To be honest, it does help to fit into the mainstream society a bit more in a tourist-orientated city I find for some reason.
 
'just hang in there' is bullshit, im not gonna put up with the crap that hearing or Deaf give us. By my reckoning the hoh people cops the worse, because it is in a 'no man's land', (pardon the sexist term- im not refering to gender- just in general ok), we cop it hard because we dont get the benefits of doubt which Deaf politics serves up to the 'rights to interpreter' OR 'rights to employment in that- English doesnt matter' , but this is not the case with hoh, English Does matter, theres no -in-between "verbal interpreter" unless there's a social worker, but the problem is that social workers is now becoming exhinct. furthermore it is Hoh people (who dont generally bang on "Deaf rights", mainly because 'Deaf rights' is largely perceived to do with Rights to interpreters (which then supports the HEARING interpreters (GRRR, ok theres a very few deaf/hoh whose are intrpreters, besides the point ok), so it compels hoh to believe 'there nothing we can do' , and more nothing we can do about abuse from hearing people - "their loss" some of you might say. I used to 'agree' with it, but i never felt comfortable about it, so after a long time, and some experiences, and some learning I now, dont approve of this bullshit. If something wrong, we should be able to complain, and with me saying this now, i think we should take a good hard look at what 'Deaf Rights" really mean or what it Should mean. Hoh/deaf (small d) needs to step up and say 'enough is enough, time for us to be counted'

I have already dropped hints there and here in this post, at reasons why hoh gets is worse than the cosy-up Deaf. its like you never see Deaf hanging around hearing people, or function totally as a full fledge worker/citizen, in private and public spheres of life, its always some 'work' sorted for them then home and in the 'tiny community' hidden away from the hearing people. Hoh people are much more likely to be scattered, they dont get the 'group mentality' because there isn't any. and 'just hanging in there' means just that - to continue lliving isolated and accepting all 'owns rights' are effectively nonexistent, except in circumstances where it is 'obvious' by 'today standards' of 'whats right and whats wrong' (sic) i have to say we' still got another fifty years to go to match up. in so saying this, I still think Deaf politics is shit, its all abotu squibble of who's overcome the most and how much popularity they have gained 'community' as far as i see it, theres still fuck all done. Deaf doctors are likely to be late deafened, or hoh at a 'high functioning' level of heariness and or 'high level of assimilation to the hearing society', its doesnt rub up the right way with 'what or who counts as a real Deaf person, groans even this itself paints a misleading picture to the hearing world about what constitutes as a sucessful deaf person.dammit, we have to stop the 'prefered lies', right?
 
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'just hang in there' is bullshit, im not gonna put up with the crap that hearing or Deaf give us. By my reckoning the hoh people cops the worse, because it is in a 'no man's land', (pardon the sexist term- im not refering to gender- just in general ok), we cop it hard because we dont get the benefits of doubt which Deaf politics serves up to the 'rights to interpreter' OR 'rights to employment in that- English doesnt matter' , but this is not the case with hoh, English Does matter, theres no -in-between "verbal interpreter" unless there's a social worker, but the problem is that social workers is now becoming exhinct. furthermore it is Hoh people (who dont generally bang on "Deaf rights", mainly because 'Deaf rights' is largely perceived to do with Rights to interpreters (which then supports the HEARING interpreters (GRRR, ok theres a very few deaf/hoh whose are intrpreters, besides the point ok), so it compels hoh to believe 'there nothing we can do' , and more nothing we can do about abuse from hearing people - "their loss" some of you might say. I used to 'agree' with it, but i never felt comfortable about it, so after a long time, and some experiences, and some learning I now, dont approve of this bullshit. If something wrong, we should be able to complain, and with me saying this now, i think we should take a good hard look at what 'Deaf Rights" really mean or what it Should mean. Hoh/deaf (small d) needs to step up and say 'enough is enough, time for us to be counted'

I have already dropped hints there and here in this post, at reasons why hoh gets is worse than the cosy-up Deaf. its like you never see Deaf hanging around hearing people, or function totally as a full fledge worker/citizen, in private and public spheres of life, its always some 'work' sorted for them then home and in the 'tiny community' hidden away from the hearing people. Hoh people are much more likely to be scattered, they dont get the 'group mentality' because there isn't any. and 'just hanging in there' means just that - to continue lliving isolated and accepting all 'owns rights' are effectively nonexistent, except in circumstances where it is 'obvious' by 'today standards' of 'whats right and whats wrong' (sic) i have to say we' still got another fifty years to go to match up. in so saying this, I still think Deaf politics is shit, its all abotu squibble of who's overcome the most and how much popularity they have gained 'community' as far as i see it, theres still fuck all done. Deaf doctors are likely to be late deafened, or hoh at a 'high functioning' level of heariness and or 'high level of assimilation to the hearing society', its doesnt rub up the right way with 'what or who counts as a real Deaf person, groans even this itself paints a misleading picture to the hearing world about what constitutes as a sucessful deaf person.dammit, we have to stop the 'prefered lies', right?
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I am curious...as long as these Deaf people have jobs, pay for their bills, and mind their own business, why does it matter if they prefer to hang out with each other instead of hearing people? It is like saying heairng people are better than deaf people if deaf people have to hang out with them to be considered to be a full fledged worker and citizen?

I do not understand attitudes and views like these at all.
 
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