Do you consider this rude or not?

Miss*Pinocchio said:
But those guests and family members, they talked to me like I am a child and think I am retarded. And they be surprised that I can cook. They know I can't hear them well and communication is not going well.
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I'm in the same situation as you are.. :sadwave:
They treat me like a child as well :(
I get annoyed when I hear their sentences like this one ' there is nothing'..
They say so when I cannot understand them ....

Anyway, We should respect everyone even if they do not treat us well.
 
Peachy Lady said:
Cheri, I agree with you that it is considered rude when you are someone's guest and that person stays glued on computer and/or on pager just chatting for loooong time. I would want to have fun with friends or guests first.
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Yep, You weren't like that when I visit you, You and your husband been a real great host. It was a blast hanging out with you guys! :hug:
 
Cheri said:
Yep, You weren't like that when I visit you, You and your husband been a real great host. It was a blast hanging out with you guys! :hug:
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Smile...glad you had good time with me and my Dave. We enjoyed having you too!
 
I agreed that its so rude of people to being "glue" to the computer or the sidekick when they visit their friends for a day. But if, stay at their friends for a week, I would not mind that they use the sidekick or computer once in a while but not everyday, 24/7. I would feel like that they arent enjoy to being with me for hang out. Ugh. I always bring my sidekick with me to anywhere, very rare to leave my sidekick behind me since my family could text me for emerency or let me know whats up also my friends can email me or text me for emerency also.
 
Absolutely! I do consider it being rude when people are on their SK2 or computer when they have guest in the house, I wouldn't mind them looking at it in case of emerency, but don't expect them to be on it too long and I would feel like I'm being ignored when I'm over there as a ' guest '.....

I always make sure my guests are welcome here and do as many things with them as making them feel more involved and part of what I may be doing or going where ever that may be.....
 
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I agree. I had a guest to come with me to go to my mom's house to clear it away before the house was put on the market. My friend had a sk and had an emergency. Duh his friend knew that he was about 250 miles away from a friend's house. She was trying to get him to come home and take the kid that she babysat to the hospital. I am like geez.

But he didnt use the sk much while he was with me at my mom's house. But one nite he took me to the hospital due to my asthma and he was using his sk chatting away while I got my treatment during while he was on sk he would tell the person to hd on and checking on me to make sure I am ok. Which I consider a good thing but not on SK all the time and ignore you.


Cheri, I agree about the kid's friend spend time at the house. I do the same thing too. My son would have his friend over and play. I would be online when they dont bother me and/or outside. But when it was time for meal or bed, then I will put it on hold til I get back.
 
ButterflyGirl said:
Of course I consider it very rude and same goes with a visitor. I have this friend who sometimes come over my home to visit me and my family and he would stick his head into his sidekick to chat with his other friends. Why would he come over to visit us but instead he " visit" his other friends on his sidekick? Some people just don't know how to show manners :roll:
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LOL Exactly!!! :kiss:
 
People should think of anothers first and the Sidekick & the computer will always be there. People could be here today and gone for good tommorrow.

God Forbid, What if that person was in a car accident then now that friend is gone ... you will wish you spent more time with your friend.

It is also good manners to show a person good times and the SK and computer can wait later. It would not be a problem if person wake up to check messages e-mail then let friends check their e-mail then go hang out all day and have fun then check e-mail again before bedtime both you and the friends check e-mail. That would be appropriate. :) :thumb:
 
Only emergency necessary Yes I will do that... If non-emergency while around hang w/friends during foreplay w/your pager front of guest.. Yes indeed as condsier r u rude!

as same thing computer freak front of your guest... Yes condiser it's rude... still counts..
No matter what!
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
My white Aunt asked me who is in charge of the house. And I joked the puppy Britney is in charge of the house.

She asked me that question because I always try to tell my mom that I don't want guests in the house. And my mom said she is in charge of the house and she can invite anybody to her house.

But everytime the guests come over, they bother me. And I would be on the computer or SK, and my mom said I am being rude for not speaking or saying hello to the guests.

My mom wanted me to stop dressing tacky in front of her guests. And sometimes her guests keep giving mr hugs and bothering me. And also my nephew's little cousin don't want to play with him but rather play with me by throwing pillows at me, while I am on computer or SK.

I was yelling at the young guest and told other guests to leave me alone, because I didn't invite them, my mom did.
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I didnt know you have a white aunt and also, doesn't matter if you didnt invite the guests or not, just respect them as you respect ur mother who invited them cause you would embrassass ur mother if you were acting that way.
 
Yes I consider it very rude and bad manner...

Enjoy with visitors come first before computer and sidekick...

Computer and sidesick can wait...

But I see no problem if I have guests to stay with us for holiday to use my computer sometimes for emergency but not long hours and all the time for the fun.

I never have any experience to have any visitors or guests to use my computer all the time... I can´t image how I feel when they use my computer all the day because it show that they prefer computer than have my company.
 
Steel X said:
I didnt know you have a white aunt and also, doesn't matter if you didnt invite the guests or not, just respect them as you respect ur mother who invited them cause you would embrassass ur mother if you were acting that way.
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Yeah she is white, her name Rebekah and she is Jewish also... Okay I will behave when guests come over.
 
yes it is very rude for the guest or the host(ess) to be on the compy or SK all the time
 
When someone I don't see very often invites me over and s/he gets on the computer or sidekick too long and often then I consider it rude. If this happens then I'd leave the house quietly because this way it'll give her/him the message. I'd leave a note and say give me a call WHEN you are available.

This happened to me a lot with my mom. Every time I go over my parents' house the phone would always ring, but she'd answer it and stay on the phone for an hour. One day I walked out of the house without her knowledge and she got the message. So, now when I go visit her for lunch my mom make a point of telling this person "My daughter is here I will call you back later." I was happy to hear that because she made me feel like I do exist!
 
Catmandu said:
When someone I don't see very often invites me over and s/he gets on the computer or sidekick too long and often then I consider it rude. If this happens then I'd leave the house quietly because this way it'll give her/him the message. I'd leave a note and say give me a call WHEN you are available.

This happened to me a lot with my mom. Every time I go over my parents' house the phone would always ring, but she'd answer it and stay on the phone for an hour. One day I walked out of the house without her knowledge and she got the message. So, now when I go visit her for lunch my mom make a point of telling this person "My daughter is here I will call you back later." I was happy to hear that because she made me feel like I do exist!
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I haven't been invited I dont have friends never happened to me but similar with my mother in law either visit her house, on VP and on AIM/MSN she always hld, phone's ringing and talking for long I was sitting polite, even she visited my home talking on her cell phone also my girls with her older daughter told me too :aw: I could tell she cant live without phone. I should leave msg like u did :D
 
ecevit said:
I'm in the same situation as you are.. :sadwave:
They treat me like a child as well :(
I get annoyed when I hear their sentences like this one ' there is nothing'..
They say so when I cannot understand them ....

Anyway, We should respect everyone even if they do not treat us well.
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well today me and my mom gotten into a fight.
I woke up at 11 am to watch soap opera and got
on internet. And my mom told me to get off the internet because
I am blocking the phone. And I told her that I am downloading
something... but she said I am being rude because Marion is
trying to call for direction to come here.

And I asked why is she coming here for?
And she said because she invited her over.
And I told her I don't want her over and I haven't eat my breakfast.
I don't want to speak to guest or cook in front of her because
Marion would be nosy.
And I told mom, "she isn't important... she is an old, ugly woman
who want to gossip gossip gossip and she needs to go
get a life, because that woman call here everyday ever since
she moved here from Las Vegas, I just wish she stay in Vegas...
We can't even watch soap opera because of her, and she doesn't
watch soap opera. I don't want to see that old woman who is an alcoholic.
Why don't she go travel or something and leave me alone."

And my mom said, "well she isn't coming over to see you, she is coming over to see me, you don't have to speak to her, you can stay in your room."

And I said, "Fine, just don't call my name and tell me to come down to speak to her, and if she asked about me, then tell her to go mind her own damn business. I am hungry and I have to wait on her to leave here so I can fix me something to eat."


I don't know if I am wrong or if my mom is wrong.

Because she should have warn me yesterday that she is inviting someone...
Then I would have been prepare for today, such as going to bed early and getting up at 9 am to fix breakfast before the guest get here... And
then dress up nice and cover up my bald head with a scarf.

And I would be in good mood for guest.
I don't like it when mom invite someone over and not ever tell me.
 
When someone VP me. I turned the TV on and chatting. She focus on her SK. I said, You can call me back later when you are finished with your conversation on your SK pager.

yeah, I felt it was rude when she called me on VP then looked at her pager. Why would I wait for her as I have so much things to do at home with my family.

When I was at Gallaudet for the DeafWay. I was shocked to see alot of them using wydntell pagers. They did not look at faces and conversation. They just fascinated at their device pagers.

There were over approx 5,000 ppl at the convent DeafWay. About 75% using the pagers conversation than chatting face to face 25%. :ugh:
 
I agree that it is rude but I am guilty of that sometimes. I use my SK often for work as Im always on call 24/7. :aw:

My mother gets mad when she sees me using my SK so I would show her the email or IM from my staff so she will know that I am NOT ignoring her! But if HER cell phone rings, she chats away on the phone. WTF? It happens to many of my hearing family or friends - they think we are so rude when we use SK but they are always on their cellphones!! :dunno:
 
Cheri said:
Do you consider it rude when you're a guest and your host is on computer or sidekick too much while you're staying at their home or going out in public with them?
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Yes.
 
Well, I would honestly say that from my heart... that it is OUTRIGHT RUDE!!! I was lousy host, and I can't believe this and made huge mistake by not treating my last guest properly. I hope I can make up for this the next time.
I may be in hermit mode for too long! Its hard to get outta Hermit mode than to get back in! grrrrr
 
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