Do we actually want our deaf child to hear?

Do you want your deaf child to be able to hear?

  • Yes

    Votes: 20 44.4%

  • No

    Votes: 25 55.6%
  • Total voters
    45
Cloggy said:
You are answering the question beyond my question. That's where the grey area's are.
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No, I'm answering the question... You just erroneously determined it to be a yes or no question, and as a result disrespected my opinion.
 
I dont vote. My child´s healthy is matter to me.


I would wear HA on my child straight way after found out he/she is deaf until my child is familiar with HA.... until she/he is old enough to have choice... I would be happy to support my child´s choice.


I accept what my child is because I love her/him what she/he is.
 
Cloggy, Asking a dhh person who has ALWAYS been dhh, if they want to hear is like asking a female if they want to become a male. Sure there are advantages to being hearing.......but we can ADAPT to living without hearing. Most of us here, don't think of ourselves as being "hearing impaired." Rather we consider our dhhness to be equal to being hearing.
 
dd-- That kind of gets to what I said when I tried to answer this question. I don't have the perspective of a person who is dhh; I only understand what it is to hear, and what knowledge I do and don't have. My feelings and concerns are driven by that perspective.

Where I do understand very slightly what it must feel like to approach from a different perspective is when you introduce the visual synesthesia I get along with sounds I hear. Odd as it sounds, I don't know what it's like to hear without that...it's so hardwired that even when I imagine a sound it has its matching image.

People often don't understand or seem freaked out if I try to explain what it is, so I usually just keep my mouth shut and don't talk about that part of my experience.
 
I am torn between two different feels on the subject.
Both my girls are hofh. They do hear with the help of aids.
Sure, I would want them to hear. BUT, if there were profoundly
deaf (I would accept them, until they felt that it was their choice to
pursue means of CI or other hearing devices) so in other words it would be HER DECISION (not mine).

My middlest states, that maybe she would like to be all ASL.
I said that was fine, it will be her decision. We have worked so hard
with her on her speech, and she is being mainstreamed.

The only way that I think she would end up going completely ASL is
if she had very negative experiences all the way through. The youngest
she is going to be 4 this Aug. We are still very concerned. She lacks in oral language. But she is doing incredible in ASL. If she ends up in a permament placement at the Deaf/HofH school that she is at right now (I will accept it either way).

I am very blessed to have known how to sign. Being part of the deaf culture, I have support. Being myself as a woman, mother and experience in dealing with this makes me that much more thankful that I am who I am. If I wasn't I wouldn't be able to fully understand where she is at.
 
I voted NO. Same here, Cheri. I am going for CI but if I have a deaf child, I won't force my deaf child to get a CI. And I let him/her choose her/his decsion than us making the decison.
Cheri said:
I voted no, I always wanted a deaf child and I end up having two hearing children, I'm fine with it, I love them no matter what. If I do have a deaf child, I would not change anything in the world to my child, I would let my child be whoever he/she become. ;)
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I dont want my kids to getting CI UNTIL they ask for it, I would support them no matter. I almost got CI because my grandpa wanted me to and my mom admit until we showed up in Tenn because they have a best doctor for surgery for CI. They checked on me and told my mom that if she still want me to getting a ci then I have more than 70% risk to become retard by surgery for CI. My mom said no then leaving, until maybe I was 15 yrs old and asked my mom that I want to get a CI and my mom said NO and I accepted until I realized that my mom is right that I shouldnt get a CI because Im proud to be deaf and I dont talk and read the lips that good same like my boyfriend, Sequoias do. So, I do support CI in some ways but mostly of the ways, not really. Sorry
 
Sweetheart said:
......... They checked on me and told my mom that if she still want me to getting a ci then I have more than 70% risk to become retard by surgery for CI. .......
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That's the first time I ever heard this.... and I cannot see a reason for that risk.
You'll have to explain that because there are more people reading this, looking for information.

I have never read - anywhere - that an operation for CI would have a 70% chance of the patient ending up mentally disabled.
The only thing I can think of is that you would be allergic to specific medicines and that the anestetic would be the problem. But then the 70% chance would be for any operation / anestesia.

So please, explain more about this.


Sweetheart said:
......... Sorry
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Why are you sorry?
 
Heart2Sign said:
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Sure, I would want them to hear. ............
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That's the simple answer to the question. Only after answering the first question with "yes".
we anter the grey area.

Heart2Sign said:
(I would accept them, .........
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What I find striking is that every time there seems to be the need to say that the "child will be accepted as it is". I also accept my daughter the way she is, and also I want the best for her, like any parent wants the best for their child. For some that means making the (difficult) decision to give her hearing, for some the decision not to.

Accepting the child as it is does not exclude wanting them to hear.
 
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Liebling:-))) said:
I would wear HA on my child straight way after found out he/she is deaf until my child is familiar with HA.... until she/he is old enough to have choice... I would be happy to support my child´s choice.
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If a HA would benefit the child, there's no reason to have a CI.
Liebling:-))) said:
I accept what my child is because I love her/him what she/he is.
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So do I.
 
But the topic is diluting. The question is often read as "Would you do anything to make your child hear?" and that is not what I meant.
Perhaps the question should be:

When expecting a child, would you want it to be deaf?

Keep in mind, the child will be loved just as much; hearing or deaf.

I am interested in the mindset of people without geting into a discussion. I'll start a new poll. (With two choices.... no "but"'s)
 
Cloggy,

I vote no.. Baby is health as long Deaf or Hearing or handicap or blind..
Still love'em growth more everyday..

Wow, you're trying goal encourge them a child become hearing.. Excuse me extactly another thread simlair alike here..

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I vote no bec if i have my own daughter either son are become deaf either hearing that i m still can accpet who their's life no matter what if they are become blind or handicap either hearing it's still love them in heart
 
Acceptiang the fact that your child is DEAF is one thing however considering whether to accept a Cochlear Implant, if suitable, is entirely different matter.
 
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