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My life is often governed by the urge to find a mate. If I could stick a pencil in my ear and sever the portion of my brain that pulses love and sex I would. There is a heavy weight on my chest that makes it hard to function, and I fear my despair is caused by loneliness. Yet, I am unwilling to expose myself and enter the dating realm. I have lost the part of me that relates with other people, and it becomes harder to recover with each passing day.

I have depression, but I think depression is a word used to describe a lack of self. I’m a ghost of my former self; more observant, but far more desolate. Does that make any sense? It barely does to me either.
 
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It makes perfect sense. No need to rush though. Eventually, you will find your mate. Takes a lot of time & patients. As far as depression goes. You should probably talk to someone & get some help for that. Because that can get really bad at times & run you down into the ground. Good luck to you:)
 
you are not the only one.. i have anxiety attacks and panic attacks so its real scary to enter the scene again. Not knowing what to expect?? I guess just be yourself and go with flow but go slow.. :)

Good luck! :)
 
That makes sense to me. I sometimes feel that way as well.

I'm single. I've been single for 3 years 1 month.

My relationship ended badly and there are times when I wish I did something different. Yet, I've moved on. Has she? I dunno.

Now, I'm taking it easy. I won't be in Rochester much longer, so there's no point in trying to find a woman when I'm going to leave her in a few months anyway.
 
VamPyroX said:
That makes sense to me. I sometimes feel that way as well.

I'm single. I've been single for 3 years 1 month.

My relationship ended badly and there are times when I wish I did something different. Yet, I've moved on. Has she? I dunno.

Now, I'm taking it easy. I won't be in Rochester much longer, so there's no point in trying to find a woman when I'm going to leave her in a few months anyway.
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aww vampy... :hug: u have many ladies from AD go after you. :giggle:

where you going next?? :)
 
LIFE IS full of ups and downs,i was married then divorced,then lived alone,now remarried for 12 years with a great wife and kids,
i had and still do have times of loneliness despite being surrounded by people..
we are human and weak..the slightest trial of life unhinges us..
we have many needs ..but have been balancedwith faith and spirituality..
volntary work helps,as does talking with understanding folk and parents,you will find most people have the same issues once we are brave enough to get out and mingle,the net helps through forums where anonimity is easy..
maybe aiming too high with too high expectations dont help either,the grass is never greener on the other side
 
i have same situation .. feel despres, lonely,etc and need companionship but i know that i have to solve my issues first than moving on and make mistakes..but same timke havin high hopes y'all know what im talkin abt? and ending up gettin hurt.. just puttin my 5 cents in bec im goin thur same things...
 
Casperman said:
i have same situation .. feel despres, lonely,etc and need companionship but i know that i have to solve my issues first than moving on and make mistakes..but same timke havin high hopes y'all know what im talkin abt? and ending up gettin hurt.. just puttin my 5 cents in bec im goin thur same things...
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i know what you mean.. its hard to have high hope and having to resolve the issues first then u will be happy.. instead of dragging the new love with your past problems. it wont do any good. sigh..

i hope you will be able to move on and be happy .. just think positive ! :)
 
yeah i know how everyone feels about love and depression.. I went into deep depression right after my husband passed away in my arm.. depression for 6 yrs.. now i am ok..
 
SxyPorkie said:
yeah i know how everyone feels about love and depression.. I went into deep depression right after my husband passed away in my arm.. depression for 6 yrs.. now i am ok..
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SUBHANALLAH...MEANING..PRAISE TO YOU:angel:
 
Beholder_fod said:
My life is often governed by the urge to find a mate. If I could stick a pencil in my ear and sever the portion of my brain that pulses love and sex I would. There is a heavy weight on my chest that makes it hard to function, and I fear my despair is caused by loneliness. Yet, I am unwilling to expose myself and enter the dating realm. I have lost the part of me that relates with other people, and it becomes harder to recover with each passing day.

I have depression, but I think depression is a word used to describe a lack of self. I’m a ghost of my former self; more observant, but far more desolate. Does that make any sense? It barely does to me either.
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Don't worry. these things take time. when you are ready to date again, you will. ^^
 
BHAI1 said:
SUBHANALLAH...MEANING..PRAISE TO YOU:angel:
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Thank you very much... my dear husband still is in my heart... i did tried to date few... it does not work... it is not fair to my dates i kept talking about my husband... two of them still pester me wanting to date me again.. i refuse..
 
Beholder_fod said:
My life is often governed by the urge to find a mate. If I could stick a pencil in my ear and sever the portion of my brain that pulses love and sex I would. There is a heavy weight on my chest that makes it hard to function, and I fear my despair is caused by loneliness. Yet, I am unwilling to expose myself and enter the dating realm. I have lost the part of me that relates with other people, and it becomes harder to recover with each passing day.

I have depression, but I think depression is a word used to describe a lack of self. I’m a ghost of my former self; more observant, but far more desolate. Does that make any sense? It barely does to me either.
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perhaps getting a furry pet would help, they give you the unconditional love and gives you the reason to live life the way it should be lived?
 
SxyPorkie said:
Yeah.. I used to think LOVE sucks.. until i met my late husband... it was different story... you will know if it is Love for real if you meet right person..
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i thought it was love when i met someone.. but it didnt worked out as he made mistakes over and over .. i cant deal with that!
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SmileyGin said:
i thought it was love when i met someone.. but it didnt worked out as he made mistakes over and over .. i cant deal with that!
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I thought that real love means accepting mistakes and forgiving the person...afterall he is just a human being?

I know it is damn hard to forgive but we have to swallow our false pride if in real love.
 
Gemtun said:
I thought that real love means accepting mistakes and forgiving the person...afterall he is just a human being?

I know it is damn hard to forgive but we have to swallow our false pride if in real love.
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not if lying to me after i asked for truth .. where is my trust and honesty? i got zero! and there are more that i wont say in here. :(
 
SmileyGin said:
i know what you mean.. its hard to have high hope and having to resolve the issues first then u will be happy.. instead of dragging the new love with your past problems. it wont do any good. sigh..

i hope you will be able to move on and be happy .. just think positive ! :)
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excatly right~ thanxz
 
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