Deaf or hearing? Some thoughts...

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Well, my husband is hoh, and I am a very special deaf person. I simply explained at the start that he and all our children would simply be required to stand back in awe and worship my specialness.

It has worked for 30 years. :P
 
sounds like you may want to pick the guys older than you, the problem is while they may have jobs or money but also they may have some baggages they prefer not to share with you, so you'd stiil find they are just as shallow. You seem mature beyond your years and hmmm maybe you need to try find guys who are passionate about something that is not cars or some material bullshit, but in a sense of being serious about what they want to do like professional development or personal development ( i think you would rather pick the latter) seeing that they are interested in being human and being able to discuss life AND to show the passion of existential enjoyment as well so you would not be stuck with boring intellectual guys with no um, sex drive. (gulp) but um hope i dont offend you, and like to say wish you best of luck.
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Julie° said:
I know I shouldn't tell, but... Most guys who are hard of hearing (and don't use sign language) are stupid to me. They do something technical and talk about rather basic things, such as cars, women, and silly (visual) jokes,
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nice pedestal you have yourself on. since im deaf in the left ear and have a severe/profound hearing loss in the right and dont sign i guess im too stupid to offer any insight here. guess im just going to go and finish rebuilding the engine in my race car. :mad2:
 
Julie I think you're just meeting the wrong guys. It shouldn't matter if a guy is Ddeaf/hoh or hearing some guys just like boobs and car ...but u can't say only deaf/hoh guys are like that cuz plentyyyyyyyyyy of hearing guys are jerks and are stupid too. It's kind of ignorant of you to say that deaf/hoh guys are all stupid...maybe you're not potraying yourself right to guys either which could be why you are attracting "stupid guys"
 
ncff07 said:
nice pedestal you have yourself on. since im deaf in the left ear and have a severe/profound hearing loss in the right and dont sign i guess im too stupid to offer any insight here. guess im just going to go and finish rebuilding the engine in my race car. :mad2:
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ncf don't worry about it...she obviously isn't meeting nice guys because she isn't picking the right ones...i think you are fine and probably quite smart! :hug:
 
AliciaM said:
ncf don't worry about it...she obviously isn't meeting nice guys because she isn't picking the right ones...i think you are fine and probably quite smart! :hug:
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But you have to admit, ncff07 has a point.

She does seem to have a very large ego.

I think a hostile response is what she should expect. :dunno:
 
Julie -

Are you saying that you want to find someone who can hold a deeper connection to you per se being in the same league as you are? Or are you saying that you just haven't really felt fulfilled by meeting these deaf/hearing guys?

I don't really think it outplays due to the hearing/deaf status. It's all about having a preference that comes in to this. Communication barrier may be one thing but keep in mind - the bigger picture is - where the obstacles lies at with your conflicting stance that comes in play. I just think you need to broaden your horizon by looking elsewhere instead of focusing on one thing than another.
 
Bottesini said:
But you have to admit, ncff07 has a point.

She does seem to have a very large ego.

I think a hostile response is what she should expect. :dunno:
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oh he has a great point..i think Julie needs to get over herself and maybe look at herself as the problem not the guys she's seeing.
 
AliciaM said:
oh he has a great point..i think Julie needs to get over herself and maybe look at herself as the problem not the guys she's seeing.
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Yes, I think that pretty much tells the problem.
 
:wave: Julie --

I am deaf and my fiance is hearin'. He is learnin' ASL. We write on papers sometimes when I give him some break from practicin' ASL. Sometimes, I have no patience waitin' for him to finish his spellin' when communicatin' with me. :lol: I would just grab a paper and pen for him to write and tell me what he says. Other times, I am patience with him to practice ASL. Some days are good, some not. It's all about moods. Each day is different.

He loves deaf culture and thought it is very beauitful. He laughs ALOT when I share my sense of humors with him with my body language. I am very descriptive person. :lol:

I can see that we have alot in common. Know what's funny ? I just learned that he also shared my sense of humors with his co-workers at his work! :giggle: He is tryin' to be just like me, be a deaf person. :laugh2: I thought it is sooo awesome!!

Uh-oh, one of his friends dropped his jaw when my fiance joked with him about a pantin' dog with his body language, just like what I did to him. They all laughed so hard!! :bowlol:

I just couldn't believe my eyes. Hahaha!!

Soo, I guess you need to open your mind a little bit and try to participate yourself in man's shoes and share yourself with him. :)
 
my preference is deaf over hearing from my own experiences and my personality.
 
My ex hubby and current hubby are both hearing. My ex didnt sign and my current hubby does..I think for me, I look to see if the man is fluent in ASL regardless of their hearing status.
 
:aw: The OP edited and deleted her original thread.

So I don't know how to respond to this.... :(

I wonder why the OP did this.
 
Babyblue said:
:aw: The OP edited and deleted her original thread.

So I don't know how to respond to this.... :(

I wonder why the OP did this.
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Too bad I did not quote it. If you did not see it, she basically said she goes to a hearing school and deaf guys are way beneath her.

It was extremely offensive.

She probably deleted it because there was no way anyone would see it her way or give her a positive response.
 
Bottesini said:
Too bad I did not quote it. If you did not see it, she basically said she goes to a hearing school and deaf guys are way beneath her.

It was extremely offensive.

She probably deleted it because there was no way anyone would see it her way or give her a positive response.
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Ouch!


I agree..that would be very offensive.
 
Bottesini said:
Too bad I did not quote it. If you did not see it, she basically said she goes to a hearing school and deaf guys are way beneath her.

It was extremely offensive.

She probably deleted it because there was no way anyone would see it her way or give her a positive response

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Nor did I see her original post, but as a hearing guy -- Once I found out she thought deaf guys were beneath her -- I would not want anything to do with her either.

If she is on a pedestal it must be in a very shallow fountain of water.
 
Berry said:
Nor did I see her original post, but as a hearing guy -- Once I found out she thought deaf guys were beneath her -- I would not want anything to do with her either.

If she is on a pedestal it must be in a very shallow fountain of water.
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:D Cool metaphor! ( at least I think that is a metaphor )
 
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