deaf or hearing child

my oldest daughter is hearing and she is very good sign language and she acts like deaf..... and my second daughter is hard of hearing and will become deaf soon because her left ear was closed when she born that way but her right ear started ear inflection since she was a baby and started drop bottom and started cant hear very wellllll

my oldest daughter was talked to my second daughter and my second daughter keep said what ?? what??? and my oldest daughter have to yell aloud so my second daughter understand what she try to say something..... i told my oldest daughter dont have to loud voice.... but she said she tired of loud voice so i told her use a sign language so my second daughter must use a sign languge and my oldest daughter have to talk loud with sign language same time......

it is not bother me which one i want my kids are hearing or deaf? i really want my kids born a good healthly and i never thought about when the baby born is deaf or hearing .....
 
It wouldn’t really matter to me if my children were deaf or hearing. I have monaural hearing, so I have all the same characteristics of a person with bilateral hearing, with the exception of the ability to localize sound. But I’m also learning ASL, and I could easily allocate more time for studying if the need were to arise. I also know how a deaf child should be raised and educated, so I would be fully prepared to deal with the task. I have actually given this some thought before, and I think that raising a deaf child would be an enjoyable and gratifying experience. I know that most hearing people would look at me as if I were from another planet if I told them this, but I would have the same reaction to having a deaf child as I would to having a child who had a genius level intelligence or was abnormally physically attractive—I would be overjoyed.
 
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Frankly, I would rather to have hearing, deaf, blind, or deaf-blind kid than to have a mentally retarded kid because of communication.
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Lady Duke....you hit the nail on the head.....physical disabilties are a lot easier to deal with then mental disabilties. Of course, if I did end up having an MR kid I'd try to make sure that their delays weren't due to parental neglect/parental disappointment and I'd make sure that they weren't the "Who's President Bush" type of out of it MR.
Levonian, that is AWESOME that you have such a great perspective!!!!
It really does irritate me when hearing parents of newly dx kids, go on and on about how horrible it is that their kid can't hear.
I'd also be overjoyed if my kid was deaf or hard of hearing!
 
It doesnt matter to me rather they are deaf or hearing.. would Love child just the same.*smiling*
 
I would LOVE them no matter if they're deaf or hearing.... :angel:
 
It doesn't really matter to me, as long as they're healthy. My 3 year old is hard of hearing and my baby son (11 mos) is hearing.. I'm happy they're healthy..that's all it matters to me..both of them is communicating with both ASL and verbally
 
well, it don't matter to me as long as kids are healthy. I ended up have oldest 3 yr old son is hearing and my youngest son 6 months old is deaf...all it matters to me that they are healthy. :)
 
My 3 year old is hard of hearing
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I'd like to find out if knowing ASL gives HOH kids an advantage over orally raised HOH kids. (eg better self-esteem, better jobs etc)
all it matters to me that they are healthy.
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WOW....I love the perspective of this forum.... Over on a couple of other forums and lists that I frequent, hearing parents are always whining that they wish their deaf/hoh kid was "healthy" Sounds like we don't have too many superfical parents-to-be in this forum! :)
 
Can you post links to those forums? I’d like to read them just to see how they view the issue. It might help me in the future when dealing with hearing parents.
 
I am an oral deaf female with a severe to profound hearing loss. Both my daughters are hearing and healthy, I wouldn't have it any other way.

Prior to getting pregnant, I have to be honest, I did not want deaf children. It doesn't mean I'd love them any less.
 
deafdyke said:
I'd like to find out if knowing ASL gives HOH kids an advantage over orally raised HOH kids. (eg better self-esteem, better jobs etc)


I was an orally raised HOH kid, and it sucked. My audiologist as a child was a dick and said that my hearing loss was really just "selective hearing" (that's when you only hear what you want) It wasn't until i got my hearing tested at another audiologist when i was 15 that the guy told my parents "No, she really does have a huge hearing loss. She needs hearing aids".

Growing up knowing i had a hearing problem (my parents knew too, but they couldn't do much about it coz my audiologist wouldnt give me hearing aids) was hard. All i had was home sign. Now that i'm 18 and have hearing aids and know SL is a lot easier, because if i can't pick something up by hearing it, i can sign it to someone (my bf usually) and he can tell me that way. Going to elementary school being serverly HOH was a bitch coz no one knew what to do with me. I was just kind of there....alone....
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Neither...
I do NOT want any Deaf nor Hearing child ...
This would take a lot of work to have
a deaf or hearing child..
 
Doesn't matter still LOVE both Deaf or Hearing child(s) anyway..
as long babies are healthier.. :)

My 3 kids are hearing...
 
Good responses here, by and large. I've come across some people who would try real hard to pair up with a partner genetically predisposed to passing on a deaf gene. Worse, I've heard about some people who would damage a baby's eardrum in the hopes that the infant would be/become deaf. What do you think about people like that?
 
Trying to damage the child's ears on purpose, not a chance! I would report CPS on them right away! I wouldn't care if my child was hearing or deaf, I'll deal with what I am destined with, not try to change things.
 
I don't care about deaf or hearing child. I rather to have them in my life. They would learn better than what I have been standing front my family.

If I have hearing child; I would not ask him or her to interpreter what the people say. Of course, I do love the child but afriad will betray me. I met one woman who have hearing son and one night while she sleep. He took her car without her know. Its only negative thing that I am afriad about begin advantage due the deafness that can't hear any noisey. Beside, I just hope nothing would happen and I do not know what their relationship is like.

About the deaf child; I will be sure that public school provide him or her a better education. I will not accepting their words whatever their suggust becaust I do not want them feed him or her that deaf can't do anything.

I rather to have boy. heh
 
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Worse, I've heard about some people who would damage a baby's eardrum in the hopes that the infant would be/become deaf.
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Wow—that is really heavy. We’ve all talked repeatedly here about hearing parents who refuse to accept their deaf children. But this is the first time I’ve ever encountered the other side of the coin. Can you tell us more? Have you ever known any of these people personally? Do you have any links to news reports about this? Do you have any information about specific cases, and what happened to the parents and the children?
 
Honestly, I only want my kids are healthy but I really never thought about deaf when I was pregnant with 2 sons. It doesn't bother me really either my kids are deaf or not. I love them what they are because I born them. My both sons use sign languages with us very good. They also understand us when we use sign languages without voice. oooohhh. My sons like to interpreter for us voluntary what they hear or what they know eg.

I remember when I was pregnant with 1st child. My mother-in-law kept on worried all the time is "hoping my grandchild is hearing". It nerves me total! After my 1st son was born. I saw them do something to test if my son can hear or not. It annoy me total. I told them that I thought they are happy to have their first grandchild but they think all is his EARS. We took our 6 months old baby to hearing test but he fail his test. Anyway, the doctor asked us to bring him again for other test within 3 months time. My parents in law are curious & asked us either he's hear or not. They are real panic & cried right way which we unfinished stated what the doctor said. I don't bother to calm them down that I know for the sure that my baby is hearing because I has him for 24 hours. It's the best proof that they are not accept what their grandchild are. They didn't even give me the chance to explain but row! They keep telling us that the hearing children are good for us because they can help us & can interpreter for us eg. I told them that I don't believe to use my hearing children to interpreter for us because I love them what they are. I also told them that it's not necessary for me to ask my sons for the help because I own fax machine, email, mobile phone, & also order neutral interpreters etc. I know how to handle without the help from hearing world. They accused me for selfish etc. I got the enough then walk out of their house. That's how we broke our contact with them because of this. We feel hurt by their behavior because they can't accept that we are happy if our child are deaf or not. It's our baby, not their. We make up peace again after they learn that my baby is hearing. Mmmmhhh.
 
Liebling, yes I remember it very well! I'm sure your not only one went through like this. Mother in laws!!!! :werd:

When my first baby was born, my parents in law (Hearing hubby's) asked me if I have any doubt that she is deaf? I said No, they believe me. Before I got married to him, they did asked me if I will pass it to my babies, I said "If I have 20 children, all of them will be hearing!" (They went to Auslan course to learn sign language to communicate with me so is my sister/brother in law too!!)

Well I would prefer to have hearing babies, but I will be better mother to deaf babies than hearing mums to their deaf babies. It don't mean I will love deaf babies any less.

I would tell everyone that I lead my life independant for many, many years BEFORE my babies arrived, they are not born to be WORKER!!
 
Would it REALLY matter? Like for myself, either way whether the child(ren) is deaf or hearing, it does boils down to the fact of how we're able to accept and LOVE the child(ren)...however a child is born, fully healthy or some sort of handicap or disease infecting the child, I'm sure everyone of us here would do ALL we can to provide that child with LOVE, lots of LOVE and giving encouragements and showing the willingness and desires to give a child everything he/she so deserves....comfort, attention, LOVE LOVE LOVE!!! And SOOOO much more!!! :D
 
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