deaf/hearing couples' experiences?

is that because of limitations in HIS asl? for those really intense conversations, when you need the right words, and the speed? i'm scared i won't be able to express myself in either language, but i guess it's good to have the option.

can i ask, friesian, how long have you been dating this particular man? has he always known asl?
 
I am HoH, really don't know much ASL. I used to back when I was in College, but after I left I had no one to sign too.

If he's like me... Oral, HoH and can hear to a point.

Make sure he's looking directly at you when you speak.

I hate when people talk to me from the side/back or start talking to me without ever catching my attention. If they take that extra second to call my name or touch me. I'll be able to focus on that person.
 
I am hearing and my boyfriend is deaf. I am trying to learn sign language but having trouble. Does anyone know of some good sights or books to help me??? We talk through text or writing it down...I tend to talk to fast for him to read my lips. I could really use some help.


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Hi Ema,

Nothing replaces a class with a good teacher, but if you can't do that right now, I'd go to • ASL • American Sign Language - I wouldn't try to learn ASL from books in the earlier stages. (Later when you want to go deeper into the linguistic aspects, books are great.) For now I'd start with lifeprint, and other sources you can watch - just make sure you're getting everything in context (if you try to learn vocabulary in isolation, you can fall into some easy misunderstandings about how to use the new signs you're learning.)

It's great stuff, though - I hope you enjoy starting to learn!

[edited to add: I just read your other post that he's already been teaching you. Maybe the lifeprint (link above) will be a little on the remedial side of things for you. I did a blog post about tips for learning asl for a member who was taking a class and wanting to supplement her studies to emulate an immersion experience. Maybe some of the ideas/resources there will be of use to you.
http://www.alldeaf.com/blogs/tuatara/1191-ideas-learning-asl.html ]
 
@ Hurley , I loathe that "selective hearing" excuse that people slap on when they don't have a clue. Sorry that that guy was a jerk.
On a side note, the sexiest thing i've heard a hearing girl say was that she was comfortable with silence.
@ Withdeaf , Either learn to appreciate the things he does catch and create a system to communicate logistical things. Or, both of you learn sign language, understand that faulting his deafness as a complication does not help (it leads to fights about things we cant change) but acknowledging the communication disconnect does help. ultimately you guys will find an understanding if you keep at it and know that you're both acting out of love even when one gets frustrated or angry, just remember that its a side effect of the fear of loss.
 
One thing that I have asked people to do, is to get my attention before they start talking to me. Helps prevents a lot of the "what" and "never mind". We use a whiteboard too when I can't follow a long. In groups I always make sure that someone tells me what the topic is. That way I know if I want to put all the efforst in trying to hear something I may not be to interest in.
 
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