Deaf gay father fights for custody of son

Wow, this is one sad story here...

I feel really bad for gay people who trying to have a life of their own, then sudden when there's a child involved it makes it even worse cause they lose their rights on having custody on the child when their lover still live in the same household...NOW the judge is ordering the father to have his lover move out if he wants to have custody of his son, now that's what's is more sad cause we have the freedom to live with whoever we please to as long the child is not harm, it's almost like the father has no right to live the life he wanted to live and live with the person he truly loves....such a shame to see where the world is heading today, where some people's rights are taking away all because of what their lifestyle may be....

If I was the judge, I would ask the child which parents he rather to live with, then that when I know I'm doing the right thing for the child's sake not for what it looks like to those people out there who thinks that gay people shouldn't have a life together cause it really none of their business what they do in their lives or who they are with....
 
A parent must do what is best for the child. If that means the parent needs to put his or her "life style" or "love life" on hold for a few years, well then, that's life. That applies to heterosexual and homosexual parents.
 
It´s sad to see the parents battle over child custody. They thinks nothing about their children´s wish which it´s no good.

Why can´t they ask their children to choose which they wants to live with.

There´re some of gay parents could be also good parents, too.
 
Liebling:-))) said:
Why can´t they ask their children to choose which they wants to live with.
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Amen, I second that!
 
Liebling:-))) said:
It´s sad to see the parents battle over child custody. They thinks nothing about their children´s wish which it´s no good.

Why can´t they ask their children to choose which they wants to live with.

There´re some of gay parents could be also good parents, too.
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I think it depends on the age of the child that determines choice. If you are dealing with a very young child, it would be difficult to ask the child what they feel is best for them. but if you are dealing with a teen, then certainly you should be able to ask for their input, and you should ask for their input. Older kids need to be heard on what they feel is best for them.

Just my two cents.

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Okay, I read the article. The child in question is 12, so therefore, he should be asked his opinion.
 
Not true because my sister was not a teenager when the judge asked her who she wants to live with, when she beg our father that she wants to move out from our mother's home, so my dad took my mom to court, the judge did asked my sister which she was only 12 years old at that time....
 
Reba said:
A parent must do what is best for the child. If that means the parent needs to put his or her "life style" or "love life" on hold for a few years, well then, that's life. That applies to heterosexual and homosexual parents.
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I agree with you that a parent must do what is best for their child, but where is it implied that a couple has to place his or her love life on hold? Nobody does that, Reba. Parents separate their child from bedroom activities, but they don't put their love life on hold just because they are raising a child.

Why would you make that distinction here?
 
Oceanbreeze said:
I think it depends on the age of the child that determines choice. If you are dealing with a very young child, it would be difficult to ask the child what they feel is best for them. but if you are dealing with a teen, then certainly you should be able to ask for their input, and you should ask for their input. Older kids need to be heard on what they feel is best for them.

Just my two cents.
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I´m mother of 12 and 9 years old children. I dont think it´s diffcult to ask the children to choose but we do is explain them why we do not live together anymore. Yes, I know it´s very hard for the children because they wants to see their parents together.

All what we show our children how much we love them and everything wont be change if we dont live together anymore.

All what I saw alot of children choose to live with their parents in Germany instead of let their parents battle over children custody. The judge are not interesting to listen about battle over children custody but consider children´s feeling. They sends counselling to check with children before the judge decision.

Alots of Germans here have together 50/50 children custody which it lead no problems.
 
^Angel^ said:
Not true because my sister was not a teenager when the judge asked her who she wants to live with, when she beg our father that she wants to move out from our mother's home, so my dad took my mom to court, the judge did asked my sister which she was only 12 years old at that time....
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that´s exactly same as in Germany...
 
Oceanbreeze said:
I agree with you that a parent must do what is best for their child, but where is it implied that a couple has to place his or her love life on hold? Nobody does that, Reba. Parents separate their child from bedroom activities, but they don't put their love life on hold just because they are raising a child.

Why would you make that distinction here?
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I has to disagree with you respectfully.

I beleive is let children choose to live with her/his mother or father. Consider children´s feeling is more important to me.
 
wow!!! it so sad!!! sigh.. i wish that ask that 12 yrs old son which he wanna live with dad or mom.. also ask son that he wanna visit dad and mom??? then judge will know.. u know what i mean???
 
Liebling:-))) said:
I´m mother of 12 and 9 years old children. I dont think it´s diffcult to ask the children to choose but we do is explain them why we do not live together anymore. Yes, I know it´s very hard for the children because they wants to see their parents together.
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In most cases yes, it is hard for a child to pick which ones they want to live with since they do want their parents together, but in some cases, there may be somewhat a situation where a child see there's no way two parents can live together, such as being in an abusive home etc....and that would be more easier on the child to choose which parent he/she rather to live with....

I believe a child who is above the age of 10 can have an opinion on who the child may want to live with....The judge don't know what going on behind the closed doors either any of us do, so the only way to solved this type of situation or batter in court is to have the child involved to keep both the parents and the child happy in a home where ever the child may choose to live with...It doesn't mean the child will not see the other parent but to visit as much as the child would want to.....Just to keep both family together for the child's sake...
 
Reba said:
A parent must do what is best for the child. If that means the parent needs to put his or her "life style" or "love life" on hold for a few years, well then, that's life. That applies to heterosexual and homosexual parents.
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What's best for a child? This case is about homosexual, They look at the "their lifestyle" is "not looking what's best for the child itself."
Hedberg is the deaf, gay father of a 12-year-old boy. He left his wife, Annica Detthow, for his current domestic partner and they have raised boy for years
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He had his son for years, nobody asked the son if he would be happy living with his father. How would a judge or the court know what is best for a child? When they never asked the child what the child wants.

And the mother of the boy didn't think that it is harm to be raise by his father and his lover
Detthow, the boy's mother, did not attend the court hearing, she lives in south Florida. But according to her deposition, she never claims living with a gay couple is harmful to her son.
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That is why I cannot stand other parties getting involved with family business, when there is no report abuse in the family, but looking at them as homosexual as a issue to separate the father and son. :(
 
Cheri said:
What's best for a child? This case is about homosexual, They look at the "their lifestyle" is "not looking what's best for the child itself."

He had his son for years, nobody asked the son if he would be happy living with his father. How would a judge or the court know what is best for a child? When they never asked the child what the child wants.

And the mother of the boy didn't think that it is harm to be raise by his father and his lover


That is why I cannot stand other parties getting involved with family business, when there is no report abuse in the family, but looking at them as homosexual as a issue to separate the father and son. :(
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:werd:
 
^Angel^ said:
Not true because my sister was not a teenager when the judge asked her who she wants to live with, when she beg our father that she wants to move out from our mother's home, so my dad took my mom to court, the judge did asked my sister which she was only 12 years old at that time....
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I'm glad the judge asked. Teens need to be asked their opinion. With young child, that's alittle more difficult to do, but what is the harm in asking a kid to whom do they want to live with?

Personally, I don't see the harm in that.
 
Mother should always get custody.

The gay father needs to back off and stop trying to get sympathy
and get a job and pay child support.
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
Mother should always get custody.

The gay father needs to back off and stop trying to get sympathy
and get a job and pay child support.
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The father has a job and he been raising his son for years. Therefore it doesn't matter who should have custody of the kid it could be either the mother or father. It doesn't always have to be the mother. :)
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
Mother should always get custody.

The gay father needs to back off and stop trying to get sympathy
and get a job and pay child support.
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I disagree. Fathers have just as much right to custody as a Mother does. There's no rule that says Mothers are better at direct child rearing. That's a myth.
 
Oceanbreeze said:
I disagree. Fathers have just as much right to custody as a Mother does. There's no rule that says Mothers are better at direct child rearing. That's a myth.
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Then your child's father might think oh, if I be gay... then there is a higher chance to get full custody of the child.

You would be piss.... if your child's father put a stunt like this...
by pretending to be gay and to do whatever to take your child away.
 
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