date how long before engaged??

[Pinky]

I understand that you never get married. It take your time no rush. I found a right man from God's answered my pray. I don't believe in wrong relationship cause divorce and break up. I had a bad experience with wrong relationships. I realized about it. I know how people are. They got divorce for many situation with money, cheat, not happy together. The important is Love more than money. My parent never get divorce. My dad passed away when I was 15. My mom was a widowed. She didn't want to be lonely without marriage. She decided to get marry to my step dad. I am still miss my dad thou.

If it's meant to be, and if you are willing to live with this very same person all your life, and is willing to face every challenge that throw in front of you in your marriage, then go for it.

Some people get married for all the wrong reasons, just because you love someone it doesn't mean you have to marry that person right away, Marriage is a lifetime commitment. It's not you fall in love, then you get married and you live happily ever after, It's not always true. There will be some ups and down in every marriage. It takes two to make the marriage to work for a lifetime. I have never been married, I don't rush myself, I take all the time I need before I make a big commitment in my life with the person I wanna be with.

 

[Maria]

Hmm I have some questions here for all of you -- hopefully some of you will give some answers....

Some men will not marry unless a woman is financially stable and have a job. Do you think it requires a woman to follow what a man wants if, she really wants him ? Or should he allow her to follow her heart what ever it makes her happy ?

I know some men and women are picky over financial issues.

It's very hard to find a job for some people for many reasons ( due to health, and such ), but people do have good hearts for one another if, it means to show how much they love for one another and show their caring for one another - no matter how much incomes they receive.

As for me, I am interested in love than money itself. I know " money " don't last forever, but LOVE is! Some people don't think of that......

 

[Reba]

Hmm I have some questions here for all of you -- hopefully some of you will give some answers....

Some men will not marry unless a woman is financially stable and have a job. Do you think it requires a woman to follow what a man wants if, she really wants him ? Or should he allow her to follow her heart what ever it makes her happy ?

What about the man? Is he "financially stable", and does he have a job? What does "financially stable" mean? Different people have different viewpoints on that.

I believe a couple needs to be in agreement about how they will manage their finances but there are too many variables to just say outright that the woman should always have a job before they get married.

 

[Reba]

Yeah. I still think that less than 1 year is too soon. I've seen a lot of marriages fail that way.

If a couple have known each other as friends for years and then went into a relationship for less than a year before getting engaged and married, then that would be good since they already knew each other for years.

If a couple never met each other and went into a relationship within days or weeks of dating, then they should have more time to get to know each other.

Everybody always uses the "It's fate!" or "We're destined to be together!" comments for their short-term dating before marriage.

I rarely see people actually having a successful marriage after a short time of dating.

It just depends.

Hubby and I dated for about three months before we got engaged. Then, we married two months later. We've been married over 30 years since then. :P

 

[PowerON]

Date one day then bingo, you're engaged. Rare lucky.....

only in old day. ha.

 

[Pinky]

What about the man? Is he "financially stable", and does he have a job? What does "financially stable" mean? Different people have different viewpoints on that.

I believe a couple needs to be in agreement about how they will manage their finances but there are too many variables to just say outright that the woman should always have a job before they get married.

I agree with you about men and women need to be fair. The important is communicate and discuss with finances. Men want women to have a job and money. Some men doesn't mind for women to have a job for reasonable. Women always be responsible to clean up the house, handle with bills, cooking. The men always have a job and good money. Some men doesn't have a job. They don't know how to take care of house or not good cooking. They always watch TV. The female always clean up and cooking. Some of both couples doesn't care about the house and not responsible cause problem.

Hmm I have some questions here for all of you -- hopefully some of you will give some answers....

Sure!

Some men will not marry unless a woman is financially stable and have a job. Do you think it requires a woman to follow what a man wants if, she really wants him ? Or should he allow her to follow her heart what ever it makes her happy ?

All men rather ask women first. The most men doesn't like women to ask him for go out. He rather pick a personality and heart. He always spoil on woman on money for restaurant and something special. He always give woman a flowers. They like a beautiful women. All women always take care of herself and be self-confidence. It make her feel good when men call her a beautiful and great personality. If he treat her very well. Some men doesn't care how women look. They are different on individual couples.

I know some men and women are picky over financial issues.

It's very hard to find a job for some people for many reasons ( due to health, and such ), but people do have good hearts for one another if, it means to show how much they love for one another and show their caring for one another - no matter how much incomes they receive.

It depend on men and women are enrolling to college and make more money. The reason why people don't have a job. They never attend to college and never experience with lifestyle. Some women are stupid to think about money instead of love. They always cheat and player. That's same with men. Many people do drugs and not take care of house very good. It's not show a love. Not enough communicate together. [/QUOTE]

As for me, I am interested in love than money itself. I know " money " don't last forever, but LOVE is! Some people don't think of that......

Me too! The love coming FIRST than money. If they are poor or rich. It doesn't matter about money. They like to be in love instead of money. The people aren't smart about love. They do think about money than a love.

Are you married or in the relationship currently?

I am getting marry in next 6 weeks.

 

[Cowpuppy]

You didn't mention if he knows how you feel about it.
My view is that it takes 2 1/2 to 3 1/2 years to get to know someone well in that way.
I think lot of people think that piece of paper is going to change things dramatically....well it might....for the worse.
Still if going to keep on keeping on.......then have to discuss what kind of relation it is between the two of you. Kids....future plans etc.
It's just a piece of paper though. Causes a lot of grief...lol.
With kids it does create more of a family sense and example of commitment between the parents. Also get the legal tax benefits.

 

[Maria]

Are you married or in the relationship currently?

Well, there's one deaf man who is very much interested in me. He just found me a few days ago. And, of course I call him my " Prince Charming " His personality is very pleasant to the eye. We get to know each other some more.

I am getting marry in next 6 weeks.

Congratulations!

 

[Pinky]

Next 6 weeks?? It mean You have a wedding day on June 7th??? We will get marry on June 7th. That's why my username with number 678 on it. LoL Are you deaf or hoh or hearing?? I am deaf and my fiance is hearing. He know sign language.

Congratulation on your wedding!!!

Are you married or in the relationship currently?

Well, there's one deaf man who is very much interested in me. He just found me a few days ago. And, of course I call him my " Prince Charming " His personality is very pleasant to the eye. We get to know each other some more.

I am getting marry in next 6 weeks.

Congratulations!

 

[Maria]

Next 6 weeks?? It mean You have a wedding day on June 7th??? We will get marry on June 7th. That's why my username with number 678 on it. LoL Are you deaf or hoh or hearing?? I am deaf and my fiance is hearing. He know sign language.

Congratulation on your wedding!!!

Oh, no - we are not planning to marry. We just get to know each other. Sorry for misunderstanding. I mean I congratulate you on your wedding. lol

Of course, I am TOTALLY deaf. Proud to be deaf. Heh heh

 

[Sexy Babe]

My ex husband is H.O.H and I am deaf. We have been together for 6 months and got married, after being together for 6 months. I have learned my mistakes, bec I never took my time. We weren't living together that long, before we got married. and learned that my ex husband is an abusive and controling my life and jealous so easy, after I married him. I was married abusive life for 12 yrs. So I got fed up and left my ex husband and never want ever want to get married again, bec of what I went through. Then after my sepearation for 3 months. He have been dating with few girls. So I decided to step up and start a new life. I met my first hearing husband through the internet. I did not let him move in with me after 8 months later. We have been together for 3 years. Bec it took me long time to heal and a while for me to take a next step to be ready for marriage. Bec of what I went through and don't want to make the same mistakes. He proposal me on Christmas Eve of 2006, After one year together. He wanted to get married. I told him that I wasn't ready. He have been reallll patient with me for 3 years til recently Oct 6 of 2007, we finally got married. My husband knows how I felt, bec he went through same situations with his ex wife cheating on him and all.

So everyone are very different on how they feel about having long term relationship, being enage, before get married. Some people don't want to get married bec of the $$$ for marriage license, wedding things and what they went through with their previous relationships and they can break up anytime they want without going to court and spend more $$$ on anythings. Bec being in relationship and break up really does save ur money from getting married or divorce. A lot of people have different options with their relationship. Some people wanted to get married, bec they mean so much to eachother and have wonderful relationship or marriage life. Some don't. We are not perfect in the world and a lot of people do have gone through mistakes with their marriage or relationships for many reasons. All I can say if you are really in love with your man/woman, just follow your heart and open up your feelings about getting married or in a serious relationship or be enaged and take your time to see how things are, before decide to get married. That is what I did and I am thankful that I took my time, before I got married. I felt a lot better. But to be honest with you.. Being in relationship (live together) and being married are a lot same, except change your new last name, if you are married to someone.

 

[Sexy Babe]

Hmm I have some questions here for all of you -- hopefully some of you will give some answers....

Some men will not marry unless a woman is financially stable and have a job. Do you think it requires a woman to follow what a man wants if, she really wants him ? Or should he allow her to follow her heart what ever it makes her happy ?

I know some men and women are picky over financial issues.

It's very hard to find a job for some people for many reasons ( due to health, and such ), but people do have good hearts for one another if, it means to show how much they love for one another and show their caring for one another - no matter how much incomes they receive.

As for me, I am interested in love than money itself. I know " money " don't last forever, but LOVE is! Some people don't think of that......

I have been open up to my man and asked him how he felt about me not working or if he want me to work or not. Bec my hometown is very hard to find a job and some dont allow deaf people to work. My husband told me that I don't have to work unless if I want to.

Yes, I agree with you that Love is most important thing in your life than money. A lot of people are money greedy around in the world and don't think Love. That sure does remind me of my ex husband.

I am glad that I followed my heart and have faith and thankful that my man love me for who I am. Not after my money or anything else, but LOVE is all what he need from me. I know that some people don't know what Love is all about and some people think love and money are important. I know we need to have money to make living and all. But still it don't matter, bec money don't count.. But true love will last forever.

 

[Sexy Babe]

My ex husband is H.O.H and I am deaf. We have been together for 6 months and got married, after being together for 6 months. I have learned my mistakes, bec I never took my time. We weren't living together that long, before we got married. and learned that my ex husband is an abusive and controling my life and jealous so easy, after I married him. I was married abusive life for 12 yrs. So I got fed up and left my ex husband and never want ever want to get married again, bec of what I went through. Then after my sepearation for 3 months. He have been dating with few girls. So I decided to step up and start a new life. I met my first hearing husband through the internet. I did not let him move in with me after 8 months later. We have been together for 3 years. Bec it took me long time to heal and a while for me to take a next step to be ready for marriage. Bec of what I went through and don't want to make the same mistakes. He proposal me on Christmas Eve of 2006, After one year together. He wanted to get married. I told him that I wasn't ready. He have been reallll patient with me for 3 years til recently Oct 6 of 2007, we finally got married. My husband knows how I felt, bec he went through same situations with his ex wife cheating on him and all.

So everyone are very different on how they feel about having long term relationship, being enage, before get married. Some people don't want to get married bec of the $$$ for marriage license, wedding things and what they went through with their previous relationships and they can break up anytime they want without going to court and spend more $$$ on anythings. Bec being in relationship and break up really does save ur money from getting married or divorce. A lot of people have different options with their relationship. Some people wanted to get married, bec they mean so much to eachother and have wonderful relationship or marriage life. Some don't. We are not perfect in the world and a lot of people do have gone through mistakes with their marriage or relationships for many reasons. All I can say if you are really in love with your man/woman, just follow your heart and open up your feelings about getting married or in a serious relationship or be enaged and take your time to see how things are, before decide to get married. That is what I did and I am thankful that I took my time, before I got married. I felt a lot better. But to be honest with you.. Being in relationship (live together) and being married are a lot same, except change your new last name, if you are married to someone.

Grrrrr I mean Engaged * Typo* something is wrong with my g keyboard..

 

[Pinky]

LoL! That's okay. Thank you! I am profoundly deaf too.

Oh, no - we are not planning to marry. We just get to know each other. Sorry for misunderstanding. I mean I congratulate you on your wedding. lol

Of course, I am TOTALLY deaf. Proud to be deaf. Heh heh