Darn, it is not good to be possessive!!!

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I live in Chicago. I bought a blue 1999 Chevy Express van in MI. I drove my Mom's white 1997 Mercury Mountaineer to MI. I then drove the new van back home. Now, I need a way to get the Mountaineer back home.

Mind you, my girlfriend lives in MI.

One of my friends who happens to be female is going to MI. I asked her to drop me off in MI. She would like $30 in gas from me. I think that is fair. I'm happy to take her on that offer.

I think that is better than me taking Amtrak alone and having my Mom drive me to Amtrak or having to take cab/ride bike to Amtrak.

I would rather give $30 to someone that I know needs it to catch up with some bills rather than lining up company's pocket line. It would probably be about $35 or so for me to take train to Holland, MI. Not to mention I need a way to get to station.

So if someone can drive and drop me off in MIchigan for $30, great, I would go for that.

My girlfriend feels hurt that I would take a ride from other woman. If it was a guy, it would be no big deal. I may cancel the car ride and do Amtrak, but that will be more work to my end because my girlfriend worries!!!

So what would you do if you were me or my girlfriend?
 
The first thing I would do is leave her insecure butt down by the river. If there's no trust, there's no hope.
 
Tell your girlfriend not to be so silly and take the ride with your friend.

If the girlfriend can't handle that, it's going to be a big problem later. She can either get used to it, or break up with you, but you shouldn't accept her need to control you.
 
NitroHonda said:
The first thing I would do is leave her insecure butt down by the river. If there's no trust, there's no hope.
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I agree the g/f is too insecure and if she is that insecure she has to have low self esteem . If the OP can't ask a female friend for help the g/f should not be allowed to ask a male friend for help. I agree you can't have a healthy relationship when there is no trust. I think the OP and g/f has some issues to work on and it sound like the g/f has most of the issues ,
 
Depends on how fat along in the relationship you two have known each other. If she's recent, have her meet or call this woman for some friendly conversation, if you've known her for quite some time, you should have seen this coming- time to make some difficult compromises.
 
That sounded like "When Harry Met Sally"....mmm...

It's a difficult situation, I'm sure your g/f envisioning that she maybe prettier than her, or she grabbed the wrong stick shift by mistake....ummm... you know insecure... like what everyone said above... Or she only going to think that you only want to pick up the car and not focusing on free time with your g/f and so on.
But one thing that surprised me that she trust you when you "live" in Chicago and she live in MI? That she trust you that you are not flirting with other "girls" down there? Compare to just giving you ride up to to MI? You may want to think about that....

But other than that, what you could say that your goal is that you want to see your g/f again, not all about the ride or using Amtrak... if she truely want to see you... then try to focus on that...
 
you know that van does not have a turbocharger!!!!! that is probably the real reason she is mad at you... I just bought a 2001 Jetta TDI... It DOES have a Turobcharger!!!:giggle::giggle::laugh2:
 
Nope, I would not take the ride from the other girl....and how long would the ride be?....Ur girlfriend has made it known how she feels, so you know the score.....And ask urself how YOU would feel if she did the same thing and took a ride with another guy.....:hmm:....Lots can happen in a small amount of time :cool2:...so in order to keep the "peace" with ur g/f, I would not do it....she may or may not be "overly possessive"...she's just like any other female who worries over their b/f when they are in Love.....

Has ur g/f met ur female friend?....If not, then I can see the worry she has....
 
You might get on the Amtrak train instead, and for all your gf knows some woman will be travelling long distance and invite you into her sleeping compartment and :cuddle:

I think she's being unfair. 1 in 2 people is a woman (and possible cheaty partner!!), she has to trust and respect you or it's not going to go well.
 
Ask your GF to buy a heavy duty padlock, keep the keys, and mail the padlock to you.

Buy a steel chastity belt. Ask your mother to put it on you with that padlock just before you leave with that other woman.

Ask your mother to call the GF to confirm your private parts are now secure.

When you arrive in MI, your GF will unlock it with her keys. This way she knows the other woman could not do much with you except talk.
 
People who can't trust their partner are usually people who can't be trusted. The exception might be if they know each other and your female friend acts possessive towards you. If she is clingy or dresses provocatively, then your girlfriend has a right to be upset. You want her hugging some other hot half-naked guy in her Facebook pics? But if you can't have any female friends, she should not have any male ones. Double-standards are not okay. Even if she is insecure only because she has been cheated on in the past, a relationship with no trust eats both partners. I would try to build the trust if I stayed at all because I have a male friend like a brother and any guy has to accept that. But you may consider both of you only having real friends of the same gender. It's depends on how good the relationships are otherwise.
 
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