Dad sells son's 90-dollar video game online for more than 9000

[Angel]

Yeah, I thought gifts were something that was given and received....not a reward that is earned. That's why its called a "gift". Its given no matter whether it has been earned or is thought to be deserved or not.

!! I love the way you think!

 

[sara1981]

mostly parents need know what right price or wrong price for their son wanted guitar hero 3 on video games.

that story very touches and its lots of money!

 

[Liebling:-)))]

I thought you did approve of alternative ways of disciplining children. You always post that parents should use creative ways to discipline their children instead of spanking them. Well, that is exactly what the dad did.

I never say anything to approve parents's form of discipline to humiliate for sell their things to the public or ebay. I said that each parents have different form of discipline which mean is we have different form of discipline to expose our children. It doesn't mean that they are wrong when I disagree with their form of discipline.

He used a creative way to teach his son a lesson.

I personally would not do that because it would teachs his son to be angry, bitter and aggressive.

It wasn't a guitar; it was a video game.

for correction.

Why shouldn't the dad keep the profit? The game was his property. Would you feel better if dad took the game outside, laid it on the driveway, and drove over it? What difference does it make how he disposed of it? The point was, the son didn't get it in his hot little, pot tokin' hands.

I don't use my form of discipline to humliate/cancel/sell children's material things because they will learn to know that material things are mainly important than focus anyone's feeling and problem. To punish with material things has nothing do with form of discipline but teach them angry, bitter and aggressive. IMO.

I would focus my son's problem and feeling and solve with him is Sit and talk with him than focus to punish/humliate them with material things when I were Dad. Do you think it teachs his son lesson? I don't but teach him to be angry and bitter and will know that material things are important than focus anyone's feeling and problem.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

I'm sorry but I'm going with Liebling on this, I do not sell my children's "gifts" on eBay as a punishment, sounds so greedy to me. The father could be lying for all I know just to make more profile out of a 90 dollars worth of video game. I wouldn't be surprise if the father goes into the son's room and try to take more things and sell them on eBay, for more $ :roll:


The father is no better than the son IMO, he could have kept it or return it back to the store to refund his money but no he had to be soo greedy!

Jillos' post
Yeah, I thought gifts were something that was given and received....not a reward that is earned. That's why its called a "gift". Its given no matter whether it has been earned or is thought to be deserved or not.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

I'm with Banjo on this one. If a kid is acting out of hand, no sense in rewarding bad behavior. The gift was never given. My stepdaughter got caught doing something extremely naughty just before her birthday this year. We ended up cancelling her birthday party on account of her poor choices. What is the use of discipline if it is not meaningful to the child?

I know each parents use different form of discipline on their children. It doesn't mean that they are wrong when I disagree with their form of disicpline. I respect your form of discipline to use children's material things as form of punishment.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Reba, I forget to add something to edit your post.

I use form of punishment like that if they repeat to disrespect/disown my rules.
http://www.alldeaf.com/884805-post10.html

I would seperate Christmas, birthdays, special occassion etc and the pot smoking issue when I were Dad because they are not connected.

Don't use money or gifts to try to control as form of punishment/discipline but help son to understand, not punishment, why smoking pot is not right. Its about respectful and maturity, also positive consequence. Remember, teens are not children.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

FAKE.

$9,000 for a video game that is easy to find? No, I don't think so. $300, $500, maybe, because you'd have to export it to Australia. Not $9K. Shenigans.

Ebay item number for this auction is: 200181539427. Auction finished on 10th Dec.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

"Then, yesterday, I came home from work early and what do I find? My innocent little boy smoking pot in the back yard with two of his delinquent friends."

I do not see anything where Dad sits down and talk with his son when it's a first time for his son. He need to find out why his son use drugs in the first place when he know his son is an innocent? Is this right to punish him like this instead of talk with his son? He should have talked to his son about drug issues and educated him like alcohol and sex. What's about this?

 

[Angel]

I do not see anything where Dad sits down and talk with his son when it's a first time for his son. He need to find out why his son use drugs in the first place when he know his son is an innocent? Is this right to punish him like this instead of talk with his son? He should have talked to his son about drug issues and educated him like alcohol and sex. What's about this?

Exactly, this is a positive use of discipline that involves in communicate with your child to find out why your child did this or that but humilation a child serves no purpose and it only creates more problems between the parents and the child. If a parent keep punishing a child occasionally, then when a child grows up to become a teen, he/she isn't going have an open and honest relationship with their parent because of the fear of being punished that's why it is very important keep lines of communication with your child open so that your child can come up to you for anything also when a parent caught their teen's unacceptable behavior, they should focus on managing to solve the problem instead of arguing, yelling, threaten or humilating them. tsk tsk

 

[Eve]

I do not see anything where Dad sits down and talk with his son when it's a first time for his son.

We don't know if this was the first time or how the father dealt with the situation behind the scenes. I am sure this father was desperate to try and deal with the kid's behavior before it got out of hand and possibly thought that public humiliation might do the trick.

It reminds me of a parent in Dallas who made her son wear a sandwich board on a street corner, saying that he was dealing drugs and hanging out with gang members. She had probably tried every other tactic known to man before trying humiliation, but as a parent she had to try everything rather than just giving up on her son.

Last year my daughter wasn't turning in her school work and was acting up in class. I went to class with her and threatened that if her behavior didn't change, I would....the next time I would go to class with her I would be dressed in a huge purple mu mu, wearing big fuzzy bunny slippers, rollers in my hair, and so much make up I would look like Mimi from the Drew Carey show. Oh, and a hand-printed sign (compliments of her 4-year-old brother) which read, "Bethany's mom" hanging on my back. The threat of humiliation alone put my daughter back on the dean's list.

Sometimes when all other methods fail, we reach for what to do with our kids, because it is our responsibility to keep them on the "straight and narrow" path.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Eve, it says in article: "Then, yesterday, I came home from work early and what do I find? My innocent little boy smoking pot in the back yard with two of his delinquent friends." sound first time to me.

 

[Cheri]

I would....the next time I would go to class with her I would be dressed in a huge purple mu mu, wearing big fuzzy bunny slippers, rollers in my hair, and so much make up I would look like Mimi from the Drew Carey show. Oh, and a hand-printed sign (compliments of her 4-year-old brother) which read, "Bethany's mom" hanging on my back.

sorry but that was hilarious

On to the point of the topic:

This article did not say much about if this was the first time that the son's father has caught him smoking pot, if it wasn't the first time then I agree with the punishment, but if it was the first time then I disagree with how he handle the situation while I doubt this will keep him from ever smoking pot again, he would just not smoke it around where he would most likely be caught by his father. Perhaps drug rehab would have been a more proper approach than selling one of his game on ebay, in my opinion.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Exactly, this is a positive use of discipline that involves in communicate with your child to find out why your child did this or that but humilation a child serves no purpose and it only creates more problems between the parents and the child. If a parent keep punishing a child occasionally, then when a child grows up to become a teen, he/she isn't going have an open and honest relationship with their parent because of the fear of being punished that's why it is very important keep lines of communication with your child open so that your child can come up to you for anything also when a parent caught their teen's unacceptable behavior, they should focus on managing to solve the problem instead of arguing, yelling, threaten or humilating them. tsk tsk

Exactly!!!

 

[Liebling:-)))]

This article did not say much about if this was the first time that the son's father has caught him smoking pot

To me, it's first time - see my post #31 what the article writes "Then, yesterday, I came home from work early and what do I find? My innocent little boy smoking pot in the back yard with two of his delinquent friends."

if it wasn't the first time then I agree with the punishment,

This is your opinion. I don't punish my children for that but help them like go to counsellor, rehab, etc.

 

[Cheri]

This is your opinion. I don't punish my children for that but help them like go to counsellor, rehab, etc.

You would do that when he was caught for the second time, or the first time?

 

[Reba]

Yeah, I thought gifts were something that was given and received....not a reward that is earned. That's why its called a "gift". Its given no matter whether it has been earned or is thought to be deserved or not.

But the dad had not yet given the game to the boy. The boy never possessed it.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

You would do that when he was caught for the second time, or the first time?

Like what I said before, I don't punish him if he was caught for second time but send him to physican first before to counsellor/rehab because he need the help, not punishment.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

But the dad had not yet given the game to the boy. The boy never possessed it.

But it could be that boy know his Dad fulfill his wish?

Do you think boy look forward on Xmas Day? I doubt.

 

[Reba]

I personally would not do that because it would teachs his son to be angry, bitter and aggressive.

Where did you read that the son became angry, bitter or aggressive? How do you know that? Maybe the son learned his lesson, and didn't become angry, bitter or aggressive. Maybe the son thought about it, and decided, hmm, smoking pot isn't worth it. You don't know how the boy reacted. The father knows his son better than you do.

I would focus my son's problem and feeling and solve with him is Sit and talk with him than focus to punish/humliate them with material things when I were Dad. Do you think it teachs his son lesson? I don't but teach him to be angry and bitter and will know that material things are important than focus anyone's feeling and problem.

How do you know the father didn't also sit down and discuss the problem with his son? How do you know that the son was humiliated? Their identities were kept private. How do you know the boy became angry and bitter? Many kids get punished and they don't become angry and bitter. Why do you assume this boy became angry and bitter? There is nothing in the story to imply that.

 

[Reba]

...Don't use money or gifts to try to control as form of punishment/discipline but help son to understand, not punishment, why smoking pot is not right. Its about respectful and maturity, also positive consequence. Remember, teens are not children.

Do you mean that you believe the teenage son didn't know it was "not right" to smoke pot? Puh-lease!

Like you said, teens are not children. I can't believe he didn't know smoking pot was "not right". :roll: