Cyberbullied

[TweetyBird]

good thread cheri!!!

wow i am sowwy to hear abt this 13 yrs old.. geez!!!

i agree with yall..

 

[Liza]

http://www.bullyonline.org/

A lot of good info there... and I am impressed so far with what the site has to say. Enjoy!

 

[Oceanbreeze]

Sorry, but I don't believe that computer uses should be restricted to just educational purposes for the kids.

A kid need to have some fun. Especially on a rainy day. It's the responsibility of the parents to know what their children are doing on the computer, and they should be allowed to use the Internet too as well. But of course, rules should be made regarding the uses of a household computer along with softwares to protect your children from viewing the offensive materials.

Otherwise, you're just holding them back. Plus, there are far more benefits from using a computer in comparison to the dangers. Parents just have to be careful. Plus, a child NEED to be taught how to resist the peer pressure and how to deal with a bully. In the ol' days where there weren't any computers, there were still bullies. People just have to know how to deal with them.

But of course, some parents are too "busy" with their lives to give a shit. My parents always gave a shit about what went on in my life. Some people just get stuck with irresponsible parents.

Nobody said life was fair.

I agree wholeheartedly with you, Banjo. I don't think forbidding a child from using the computer is the answer, either. It's not the answer. The hard truth is, kids are going to be bullied no matter what. The internet is just another extention of that. Kids bully other kids in classrooms, so are we going to pull the child out of school just because a group of kids are giving him or her a hard time? I don't think so. Some parent might, but most parents won't. So, why are you going to forbid your kid from using the internet?

Like banjo said, it's apart of a kids life nowadays. Kids need to grow up and learn how to deal with life. You're not doing your kid any favors by shielding this way.

 

[Cheri]

I agree wholeheartedly with you, Banjo. I don't think forbidding a child from using the computer is the answer, either. It's not the answer. The hard truth is, kids are going to be bullied no matter what. The internet is just another extention of that. Kids bully other kids in classrooms, so are we going to pull the child out of school just because a group of kids are giving him or her a hard time? I don't think so. Some parent might, but most parents won't. So, why are you going to forbid your kid from using the internet?

Like banjo said, it's apart of a kids life nowadays. Kids need to grow up and learn how to deal with life. You're not doing your kid any favors by shielding this way.

I don't agree with you Oceanbreeze, Yes it is true that kids are going to get bullied in schools, in workplace and on the Internet, What do you expect how to deal with bully? Fight back? First, one or both of the kids could get hurt and both kids would end up suspended from school. Fighting is also against the rules . Parent are a biggest role in every child's life and they should be able to help kids who have been bullied to build their confidence and strength and to use their power to change things for the better. Bully can be a big problem and it doesn't get better, unless a parent stood up and report it to the school the school can handle the conflicts and deal from there. And why? We are forbid our kids from using the internet? You think nowdays internet is safe? Where were you? Internet is not safe for anybody. Have you heard people got raped, murder, kidnapped? Hello?!!

 

[Banjo]

We are forbid our kids from using the internet? You think nowdays internet is safe? Where were you? Internet is not safe for anybody. Have you heard people got raped, murder, kidnapped? Hello?!!

It's safe as long the children aren't talking to strangers, and it's also important that the children don't submit personal information in chatrooms and websites. Also, a child shouldn't be agreeing to meet up with strangers over the internet. Any parents should know that.

They should only be talking to their relatives, friends from schools, and the neighbourhood.

 

[Cheri]

I'm guessing that the kid took it too personally from the "bullies" online...they usually insult and bash people than threatening them.

I've been bullied before, but I don't give a shit of what they are trying to do on me, because most people like them just like to piss you off and make games with you, etc...they are just wasting their time and I won't waste my time with 'em either so I dont take 'em personally and I bash them back, making them madder than I am, an' then they get so pissed they wanted me off the chatroom lol but why? they are the ones who started it... lol so I usually ignore them and just do whatever I like to do as a mature civil person.

Steel, They are 13 yrs old and under the age of 18 and how old are you? I am sure you can deal with it but children that are small cannot deal with being bullied and I don't think they are taking it personal. By the way you don't have children of your own to understand your own child yet. When you do somedays are you going to say "Oh just ignored them" Well guess what it didn't work for me, I cut school I was only 12 years old. If my parent would have stood up for me, if they care so much about me about my feelings, My parent would have went to the school and report it. The bully never stopped not until we moved to another city. Does that solved anything? No it doesn't that means the bully got away with it.

 

[Cheri]

It's safe as long the children aren't talking to strangers, and it's also important that the children don't submit personal information in chatrooms and websites. Also, a child shouldn't be agreeing to meet up with strangers over the internet. Any parents should know that.

They should only be talking to their relatives, friends from schools, and the neighbourhood.

That is what I meant. Oceanbreeze made it sounds like we are forbid our kids from using the internet meaning having full access. Those children do not need full access. Parent control is the best way to protect children from dangerous from strangers on line.

 

[Banjo]

That's why I always say it is best to not have computer in the bedroom and that there should only be one computer in the house for the family, which limits the time people spend on the computer.

Many people are required to have a computer at home in order to complete their tasks.

I still believe the computer should only be used for homework and learning skills.

What do you consider to be learning skills?

What about children who want to become computer programmers, graphic designers, software developers, game designers, illustrators, digital artist, computer technician, engineers, video editor and many, many more careers requiring heavy skills in using computers?

A family should be spending time together having fun and not have kids holed up in their bedroom or house all day "having fun" on the computer or watching telly.

Nobody's saying that the kid should be spending 18 hours a day on the computer or watching TV.

On rainy days parents can take their kids and go places indoors like libraries, museums, shopping malls, swimming pool, "family places" where there's all kinds of games and toys and activities going on, or signing up for some activities like dance, indoor soccer, indoor floor hockey, gymnastics, or go to the local Boys & Girls Club.

Again, nobody's saying that the kids should be allowed to be on the computers all day long.

In fact, the parents do not have to be with the child all the time, those places like the BGC or "family place" are great places where you can drop the kids off and let them spend a hour or two there. Library story times and activities are another example. Same with indoor sports and activities and the kids can learn to be part of a team and learn sportsmanship.

Again, nobody's saying that the kids should be allowed to be on the computers all day long.

If the weather is so horrible outside that one cannot travel, then spend time with the children. Involve them in housework stuff, play games with them, colour and draw stuff, talk with them, bake cookies, whatever. No need to have a computer or telly.

Again, nobody's saying that the kids should be allowed to be on the computers all day long.

I continue to be amazed at the high number (anyone can get these statistics from the government or news media) of guns in the household across the USA where there are children living. It is common sense that if people insist on having guns in the house to put them somewhere the children don't know or keep them locked up and the key hidden, plus keep the bullets separate from the gun. If one truly fears for their life that they need a gun in the house then maybe they should consider a Taser or moving somewhere safer.

It's their right to bear armed. Nothing you can do about it.

 

[Banjo]

That is what I meant. Oceanbreeze made it sounds like we are forbid our kids from using the internet meaning having full access. Those children do not need full access. Parent control is the best way to protect children from dangerous from strangers on line.

No, Oceanbreeze didn't say that you forbid your children from using the internet.. She was really talking about someone else, not you.

What she meant is, it's not healthy to take extreme measures to protect your children from the dangers of the world. Especially when it is something that contains more benefits outweighing the cons. She didn't say you were doing that at all. But yes, there are parents who are a tad too overprotective of their children that it becomes ridiculous.

 

[Steel X]

Steel, They are 13 yrs old and under the age of 18 and how old are you? I am sure you can deal with it but children that are small cannot deal with being bullied and I don't think they are taking it personal. By the way you don't have children of your own to understand your own child yet. When you do somedays are you going to say "Oh just ignored them" Well guess what it didn't work for me, I cut school I was only 12 years old. If my parent would have stood up for me, if they care so much about me about my feelings, My parent would have went to the school and report it. The bully never stopped not until we moved to another city. Does that solved anything? No it doesn't that means the bully got away with it.

I will be 21 this october and I know I don't have any kids yet and of course I like kids but it's just an interent and they don't even know the bullies in person either so if they are being bullied, then at least they could just put 'em on "ignore" or get out of the chatroom and go to another chatroom or whatever like that...you know? but I guess they are just too young to understand anything like that. Real life bullies are just more different than the online bullies and OF COURSE I would do something about it if some real life bully was picking on my kids, then I would report it to the school immediately.

But online bullies...that's where I would tell my kids to ignore 'em and just find something else to do.

 

[Cheri]

I will be 21 this october and I know I don't have any kids yet and of course I like kids but it's just an interent and they don't even know the bullies in person either so if they are being bullied, then at least they could just put 'em on "ignore" or get out of the chatroom and go to another chatroom or whatever like that...you know? but I guess they are just too young to understand anything like that. Real life bullies are just more different than the online bullies and OF COURSE I would do something about it if some real life bully was picking on my kids, then I would report it to the school immediately.

But online bullies...that's where I would tell my kids to ignore 'em and just find something else to do.

The boy I just mention on my thread, the kids were in his school and they spread rumors in the chat room about him and bullied him on line and in school too. Yes, The boy did know the kids.

 

[Opal]

Sad for this 13 years old boy.

Unfortunately, for my teenagers daughters have computer internet access at their High School, babysitter's place, Library and Internet Cafe room, and of course here, I don't go with them 24 hours, and they have MSN and yahoo chat there. I can't go and check with their conversation because I respect their privacy, and I don't know their password, and they keep changing it all the time!!!

They know as they feel threaten by one of their friends recently, and they show it to me, and I print it on piece of paper and came to confront her mother!! They know I will be there for them if they ask for help.

Bullies happen everywhere eg school, work, social clubs, etc, not only internet computer.