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I have read the "People's magazine "special double issue" about the Internet bullies, one boy who is 13 yrs old commit suicide because he got tired of being bullied by some people from the instant messages or chat rooms and that he spend hours chatting online in his bedroom, while he was home alone he took his grandfather's shotgun and loaded it with shells and shot himself. :( His mother says she regrets letting her son keep a computer in his room, she thought she was being a great mom, didn't realized that people can be some mean on the Internet. There are more teens nowadays are experiences threatening instant messages. But why do some parent allowing them being on the Internet for hours? or allowing them in chat rooms when they should know that not every person from the Internet are good people, there are some mean and harsh people and either in chat rooms, there are going to be harassment in there also. I would not allow my son spend hours on the Internet and he is also under parent control, not allow to go in chat rooms he can only talk to people he knows his family and one of his best friend from school and allow to play certain games online, because I know how people are from the Internet, I wouldn't want my son being bullied or being harass. Let's discuss! ;)
 
deaflibrarian said:
This story is definitely another reason to not have a computer at home, especially in your bedroom, or not to allow your children to access chat rooms and IM. Children should use the computer only for their homework and learning skills (i.e., reading programs, math, geography, etc.)
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Sorry, but I don't believe that computer uses should be restricted to just educational purposes for the kids.

A kid need to have some fun. Especially on a rainy day. It's the responsibility of the parents to know what their children are doing on the computer, and they should be allowed to use the Internet too as well. But of course, rules should be made regarding the uses of a household computer along with softwares to protect your children from viewing the offensive materials.

Otherwise, you're just holding them back. Plus, there are far more benefits from using a computer in comparison to the dangers. Parents just have to be careful. Plus, a child NEED to be taught how to resist the peer pressure and how to deal with a bully. In the ol' days where there weren't any computers, there were still bullies. People just have to know how to deal with them.

But of course, some parents are too "busy" with their lives to give a shit. My parents always gave a shit about what went on in my life. Some people just get stuck with irresponsible parents.

Nobody said life was fair.
 
deaflibrarian, I agree with you whole heartly. :hug:

Have you heard anything about what the school is planning to do to address this problem so that other parents and students are aware of the dangers the Internet can pose?
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In fact the schools are playing a huge part in taking in control helping resolve the conflicts if the students goes to that school who cybered bullied them on the Internet, They have said to save print out cyber bullying messages, teach children never to post anything they wouldn't want others to read, And also said if there are threats are made, call the police and the Internet service provider or check on line activity educating them about interent safely where they can go to cyberbully.org or i-safe.org,mindoh.com But, I do believe that parent should take control over their teens allowing them limit of interent.

Another question I have is what the heck was a gun doing in the house and why did the lad know where it was plus the bullets?
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I have no idea why the gun was'nt out of reach from children, But I have read that he found it under his grandfather's bed with shells too and he is the one who loaded the shell himself. I guess that another wake up call for them. Sad isn't it?
 
I wouldn't want my son being bullied or being harass. Let's discuss! ;)
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That's good to hear, and the most important thing to do is to let your son know that you are the person to talk to if he ever encounter any problems with students at school. Many students talk to each other via MSN, AIM, etc too as well. So, it wouldn't surprise me if some students do harass other students over instant messengers. Your son just need to know that you are the person who can help him with his problems.

I know it's sad that some young people end up killing themselves due to isolation and fears. But it's also important that the children be loved by their parents because it does help.
 
Banjo said:
That's good to hear, and the most important thing to do is to let your son know that you are the person to talk to if he ever encounter any problems with students at school. Many students talk to each other via MSN, AIM, etc too as well. So, it wouldn't surprise me if some students do harass other students over instant messengers. Your son just need to know that you are the person who can help him with his problems.

I know it's sad that some young people end up killing themselves due to isolation and fears. But it's also important that the children be loved by their parents because it does help.
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In fact my son was bullied on the school bus by two boys and they were punching him in the stomach, He cried and told me about it, I report it to the school and the principal told my son to pointed which boys that were punching him, and both boys got suspended, Even the school bus driver had wrote them up also and gave them a warning if they strike again they will be removed from riding the bus again. I have told him that he can always come to me with any problems he may have. I also think it is sad that young children and teens end up commit sucide too. I think parent should play a huge role of having their children/teens come to them with any problems they may have and help resolve the conflicts. ;) My parent never did that, they always told me to ignored the bully, It made me end up cutting school so much when I was in Jr. high.
 
Aw that's really sad to hear about the 13 years old boy....:(

I think the reason why there are so many children and even adults like to become a bully is when a parent did not teach their children that becoming a bully is wrong and can hurt another child's inner feelings and at the end the child will more likely end up killing themselves all because of the way they've been treat by others....

It sad to see more and more children being involved in the wrong crowd ( friends ) all because they want to be popular or above others....and when one of their friend start to pick on a child that this friend wouldn't approve for whatever reason it may be, then a group of friends jump into the bandwagon and pick on that child also.....It really sad to see something like that as a parent..

I teach all my three boys that picking on someone is a big no no!! :nono: and I will continue to teach them the right way on how to treat people with kindness no matter what color, race, disablity or whatever they may look like on the outside...The inside of the person is what counts the most....

It sad to see that more and more parents out there are not paying any attention to their children and it more likely can result a child's behavior to change also...I think the more blame should be put on the parents than the children themselves, because parents are suppose to be the one teaching and raising the child in the right direction...I also believe that if more parents step in and put an end on their child's behavior, then maybe less children wouldn't be in a such a situation like this....

It is very sad to see children being picked on by a bully, I just wish more parents will keep loving their children in a good way and pay more attention to them too....
 
Good thread, Cheri :hug:


Its very sad condition.

I would not allow my children use internet in the computer or TV in their rooms. We have 2 TV in 2 living rooms, that we can watch, not in the bedrooms.

We have only one computer for the family in the computer room but we need one more computer for play game without internet because PC games could destory internet. We want to put 2nd computer in the computer room for the boys to play the games.

We limited our sons with PC games or internet. My both sons use computer 2 to 3 hours a day. I use internet most of time is in the office than at home computer. I only use home computer when my sons are not around or bedtime or watch on TV.

We have children protection and internet password to open internet in my computer where my children cant open and dont know the password to open internet. It's important to use children protection and online password in the computer to protect the children. My sons are allow to use internet unless there're sense information and children discussion forum. I control them when they are on the online. It's scary to leave the children sit on the internet all the day alone without parent's guardian.
 
Liebling:-))) said:
We have children protection and internet password to open internet in my computer where my children cant open and dont know the password to open internet. It's important to use children protection and online password in the computer to protect the children. My sons are allow to use internet unless there're sense information and children discussion forum. I control them when they are on the online. It's scary to leave the children sit on the internet all the day alone without parent's guardian.
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Right on Lieblinggirl :hug: That is what I have for my son too. There are certain websites that allowing me to type in my password to allow my son to view that website I love it because it protects my son and his welfare of being on line reading something that he is not supposed to be reading. He also have emailing for those he knows like my family are allow to email him but the rest of the people who tried to email him will not be send to my son's mail box it deleted automatically. I allow my son to be on line at least 1 to 2 hours to play games and look at cartoons websites. Or he could talk to his cousins on line too. One time I was out of town trying to iming him but he didn't get my message because I forgot to add my own screen name on his buddy list. Duh!

Also I hate it when Yahoo or MSN automatically comes on everytime my son gets on his line on AOL, And some people would imed me thinking it was me but it is my son on line. I have told him not to answer it. Some people get mad at me for ignoring them but I don't know how to shut off Yahoo or MSN while I am out of town. That is something I need to work on, If I figured out how to keep it closed during the times that I am not on line.
 
Exactly ^Angel^!

I also teach my children to not bully other children and also their color skin, too.

I remember that my oldest son asked me either I am against color skin or not. I replied: No, I'm not against color skin because color skin are not important but nice personality. I told them it's important to look after nice personalities, not their look and color skin. I want give him positive to respect everyone who have different beliefs, color skin, personalities, etc. That's why I bought the culture book for them to read once a month to learn their cultures in the world.

Important is pick right school with good reputation. Yes, my sons were bullied by children during negative our deafness etc. that's time my son goes his first school. I dont blame the children because they didnt know what deafness are so I got Principal and teachers to give the children the positive imformation over deafness. The children understood and nice to us now.

I will make sure if my children were bullied by other children. I already told them to come to us if they have problem.
 
Yea I agree. I have computer for online in the living room where I spend most of the times in the room. My son was allow to be online with his own screenname but limit access. And he have limit time on it too. So I also teach him what right and wrong and teach him not to bullies anybody. I explained to him what happened to me and he was sad about it. So now he understood about it. I also told him to come to me anytime when there is a problem or need to vent out.

I believe that the computer should be in the view where the parent's eyes are.

Cheri, I know that feeling about MSN and Yahoo when someone imed to ya. But my msn always imed to me and I cant figure out to shut the damn thing off without bugging me. It is really annoyed. I have no problem with my yahoo but MSN :pissed:
 
Pomeranian said:
I believe that the computer should be in the view where the parent's eyes are.
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I total agree with you. I have mine in the living room where I can see my son being on line. :hug:
 
Yes, I'm agree with you Pomeranian. My computer is in computer room with no door but open for dinning room and 2 living room which it's easier for us to eye them.

I have 4 spaces in one room is one dinning room, 2 living room and computer room which it's easier for us to eye my sons use computer when we are in dinning room or living room.

That's why I never have my children to use TV or computer in their bedrooms.
 
This bullying is not limited to children, but to adults as well. I have encountered some cyberbulling on this very forum, and it really turned me off big time. One of the reasons why I quit as a moderator here.
 
kuifje75 said:
This bullying is not limited to children, but to adults as well. I have encountered some cyberbulling on this very forum, and it really turned me off big time. One of the reasons why I quit as a moderator here.
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I dont blame ya. :hug:
 
kuifje75 said:
This bullying is not limited to children, but to adults as well. I have encountered some cyberbulling on this very forum, and it really turned me off big time. One of the reasons why I quit as a moderator here.
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You were bullied when you were a moderator here?.... :eek:
 
Liebling:-))) said:
I would not allow my children use internet in the computer or TV in their rooms. We have 2 TV in 2 living rooms, that we can watch, not in the bedrooms.
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I second the above msg. It is against feng shui to have TV in bedroom. I try to keep TV and computers out of bedrooms.
 
I have 3 tv in the house 2 tvs in the living room and 1 in my son room for his PS2 and gamecube. Most of the time my son watch tv in livingroom with 25 inches while I watch 13 inches. :D
 
I recommend you use YAHOO *invisible mode* or edit your new message away.. It will less the problem.. I don't use "auto-sign on" Advise that just turn it off unmarked w/auto-sign on.. as same thing as MSN/AIM and rest of all.. Includes same thing Trillian.. It does works as well... *I'm here to give you out recommend.* Worth of my 2 cents!
Should have use "your common sense".

I do let my children use my old computer which beside my desk.. there's only 1 internet for kids only... even my own internet computer on line come w/pwd.

Of course I do let my children their own computer in the bedroom which there's no internet line... TOO BAD... Just playing their gaming-off line come w/CDRom.. or do their homework under Word Perfect. That is it.. When I feel ready allow my children additional internet line extra singal wireless in their bedroom. Unless my kid is very good matures and as well responbile duties better ways...

Truly sorry about their parent loss their child because of cyber-bullies on line.. Well Should have set the "Parental Control" Why didn't put it there first place? SAD!
 
I'm guessing that the kid took it too personally from the "bullies" online...they usually insult and bash people than threatening them.

I've been bullied before, but I don't give a shit of what they are trying to do on me, because most people like them just like to piss you off and make games with you, etc...they are just wasting their time and I won't waste my time with 'em either so I dont take 'em personally and I bash them back, making them madder than I am, an' then they get so pissed they wanted me off the chatroom lol but why? they are the ones who started it... lol so I usually ignore them and just do whatever I like to do as a mature civil person.
 
I agree. It's a matter of making sure that the kids understand what to listen and what not to listen to. You can't just think about killing yourself just because someone bothers you. If that was true in every case, we'd be having members here killing themselves day after day! :eek:
 
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