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Curious about yourself.....

You became gay or lesbian. What caused you to be gay or lesbian?
 
Momoftwo said:
Curious about yourself.....

You became gay or lesbian. What caused you to be gay or lesbian?
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You dont 'become' gay anymore than you 'become' straight.

Did you wake up one morning and think your self 'gee i think im going to become straight today' of course not.

Being gay is just like being straight, you dont become straight or gay, you just are. Nothing caused you to become straight right? You just are.

I could ask you the same question what caused you to become straight? And what would you say? " I just am who I am"

Its no a choice, because if it were a choice, who would chose to be gay? Who would chose to have an entire population of people hate them? Who would chose to have people dislike them even if they dont know them just because they are gay? Who would chose to become something that so many people dislike? no one.


And please dont insist that "well then why dont you change and become straight" That would be like me insisting that you become gay. You just cant become, you are born one or the other. There is not changing, there is no choice, there is no deciding. I wouldnt ever ask anyone to change who they are.

there is your answer.

like it or not its the truth, you can disagree with it all you want. I am gay because thats how I was born, and you cant refute that because you arent gay, you dont know what its like you werent born gay you werent born different so you cant tell me that i am wrong.

Its just as much the same as any deaf person, who would chose to become deaf, who would chose to have people ridicule you because of something you cant help, who would chose to have people stereotype you and assume absurd things about you because of something you were born with. no one.
 
It'spopular in fundie circles to assume that lesbians and gay men are the result of either a) women being so turned off by being raped or sexual assault that they turn to ladies or b) in the case of men, that they were molested and thus "recruited"
I am bisexual b/c I happen to love souls that happen to be women. If they were males, I'd love them the same way too!
I can't decribe it....I don't know why I fell in love with Maureen, or Dani or Jocelyn or McInnis or whoever.....I just did. Momoftwo, if your current husband was a woman, wouldn't you feel just as attracted to him?
There's a verse in the Bible where the charector thinks that's it's what's on the outside that's important. God says No! it's what's on the INSIDE that's important! I read that as God doesn't make a huge fuss about things like genitialia or skin color or things like that. Man is the one who makes a big fuss about that....God only judges us on our SOULS!
 
Born as a lesbian! I was a tomboy & always like female all my life. I tried to kiss a boy once and EWWWWWWWWWWWW :barf: and decided not to kiss a boy ever since. Finally slept with a woman when I was 19 in Gallaudet!!
Better late than never, eh?! :)
 
I am a bisexual. I knew that ever since I was 16 years old. I even dated one gal but not that far to anything.
 
interesting question

Re-define your question. You probaly should ask us 'how we did come out' being gay/lesbian ? Well, I believe I was born being a lesbian because when I was young girl, I was attracted to another girls while I was always playing with boys so then I didn't know what it means until I went to high school and met this girl then she kissed me. I knew from that moment I was really lesbian for pretty long time.

Your question is no way 'how we become a gay or lesbian' is not correct because a lot of people will disagree with you because in the gay community we know who we are. We are proud of it and we are queer and we are here! you have should think deeply how it does affect yours and maybe you are exploring your own sexuality that has not been found yet. Yet, we may help you. Those are a lot of good people here, right ?

So re-define yourself :)
 
HippieSnow05 said:
Re-define your question. You probaly should ask us 'how we did come out' being gay/lesbian ? Well, I believe I was born being a lesbian because when I was young girl, I was attracted to another girls while I was always playing with boys so then I didn't know what it means until I went to high school and met this girl then she kissed me. I knew from that moment I was really lesbian for pretty long time.

Your question is no way 'how we become a gay or lesbian' is not correct because a lot of people will disagree with you because in the gay community we know who we are. We are proud of it and we are queer and we are here! you have should think deeply how it does affect yours and maybe you are exploring your own sexuality that has not been found yet. Yet, we may help you. Those are a lot of good people here, right ?

So re-define yourself :)
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You're crazy!! :crazy: No, I am NOT exploring my own sexuality!!!! I am MARRIED to my WONDERFUL husband for 19 years and plus 4 years of sweetheart with him. That makes 23 years to be with him.

I only wanted to know why you became lesbian and gay. But I respect your choice to be what you want to be.
 
Momoftwo said:
You're crazy!! :crazy: No, I am NOT exploring my own sexuality!!!! I am MARRIED to my WONDERFUL husband for 19 years and plus 4 years of sweetheart with him. That makes 23 years to be with him.

I only wanted to know why you became lesbian and gay. But I respect your choice to be what you want to be.
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Listen, I have tried to make this clear with you. No one BECOMES any sexuality. You didnt become straight. You didnt chose to become straight. It is not a choice.

So quit refering to us as having a choice or becoming anything. Please, if youre going to come into this section, at least come at it with a little bit of respect.

You wouldnt like me to go into the religion/spirituality thread and assume that you have a choice of being christian, and ask why did you become christian? Right? You would tell me its not a choice, its just who you are.
 
But I respect your choice to be what you want to be.
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I would never have chosen to like women. I'm already incredibily different. I got teased and tormented so much for being deaf. Why would I have consciously chosen to like girls? Yet it turned out that the souls I like happen to be attached to female genitila......God doesn't care about superfical stuff like that. God Himself is love.
 
I am not answer what you ask but I am willing to answer opposite of question... I been born that way. Little kids not understand what that means till you become older... AAHHHHH that is who i am! Straight and Gay are same people and love in sight.
 
MizzDeaf said:
I am not answer what you ask but I am willing to answer opposite of question... I been born that way. Little kids not understand what that means till you become older... AAHHHHH that is who i am! Straight and Gay are same people and love in sight.
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yea true u got good point..
 
deafdyke said:
I would never have chosen to like women. I'm already incredibily different. I got teased and tormented so much for being deaf. Why would I have consciously chosen to like girls? Yet it turned out that the souls I like happen to be attached to female genitila......God doesn't care about superfical stuff like that. God Himself is love.
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I agree with you. I did not choose to be attracted to women. I just am, and I've known this since I was 7 yrs old.

Someone already said this, but I agree with this as well. Why on Earth would this be a choice we'd make for ourselves, when the majority of society hates us so much? Why would we choose to put our lives on the line, in some cases? We wouldn't.

Nobody chooses their sexuality, and I really wish atitudes like these would just disappear. It's a MYTH that homosexuality is a choice. It ISN'T.
 
Momoftwo said:
You're crazy!! :crazy: No, I am NOT exploring my own sexuality!!!! I am MARRIED to my WONDERFUL husband for 19 years and plus 4 years of sweetheart with him. That makes 23 years to be with him.

I only wanted to know why you became lesbian and gay. But I respect your choice to be what you want to be.
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Why SO defensive? That person made a valid observation. Most people who ask the kind of question you did, ARE in fact, exploring their sexuality.
 
Got a quote of the day...

"You can't come out to other people until you come out to yourself"
 
Oceanbreeze said:
Why SO defensive? That person made a valid observation. Most people who ask the kind of question you did, ARE in fact, exploring their sexuality.
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You ARE :crazy:

My husband and I DON'T understand WHY those people who are gay and lesbian. That is SO DISGUSTING!! :barf: Gays and lesbians are like unfit like the metal ring to metal ring. Man to woman are like metal screw and metal ring to fit. AND the Bible says homosexual is wrong.

Go fire! I am NOT coming back here! I will NOT read here! We don't understand people who are gay and lesbian! EWWWWW! So fire on!

:bye: :barf:
 
Momoftwo said:
You ARE :crazy:

My husband and I DON'T understand WHY those people who are gay and lesbian. That is SO DISGUSTING!! :barf: Gays and lesbians are like unfit like the metal ring to metal ring. Man to woman are like metal screw and metal ring to fit. AND the Bible says homosexual is wrong.

Go fire! I am NOT coming back here! I will NOT read here! We don't understand people who are gay and lesbian! EWWWWW! So fire on!

:bye: :barf:
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I don't think you wanted to understand. You just wanted to find another reason to feel as you do.

That's fine. It's your loss; not ours.
 
nozobo said:
Got a quote of the day...

"You can't come out to other people until you come out to yourself"
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This is true. One must start to feel comfortable with themselves before they can feel secure about coming out to other people.

I haven't fully come out. Actually, I've barely stuck a toe out of the closet. I'm mostly out online. People here know of my orientation. However, very few people in my personal life know of my sexuality. A couple friends and my sister, but that's it.

It was a HUGE deal when I came out to my sister. Eventually, I'll come out completely, but I'm not yet ready. It takes time. :)
 
Your Mom said:
You dont 'become' gay anymore than you 'become' straight.

Did you wake up one morning and think your self 'gee i think im going to become straight today' of course not.

Being gay is just like being straight, you dont become straight or gay, you just are. Nothing caused you to become straight right? You just are.

I could ask you the same question what caused you to become straight? And what would you say? " I just am who I am"

Its no a choice, because if it were a choice, who would chose to be gay? Who would chose to have an entire population of people hate them? Who would chose to have people dislike them even if they dont know them just because they are gay? Who would chose to become something that so many people dislike? no one.


And please dont insist that "well then why dont you change and become straight" That would be like me insisting that you become gay. You just cant become, you are born one or the other. There is not changing, there is no choice, there is no deciding. I wouldnt ever ask anyone to change who they are.

there is your answer.

like it or not its the truth, you can disagree with it all you want. I am gay because thats how I was born, and you cant refute that because you arent gay, you dont know what its like you werent born gay you werent born different so you cant tell me that i am wrong.

Its just as much the same as any deaf person, who would chose to become deaf, who would chose to have people ridicule you because of something you cant help, who would chose to have people stereotype you and assume absurd things about you because of something you were born with. no one.
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Interest post here, I remember discussing this with my sister's ex lover who has doctor degree. She said no one was born gay. My sister who was straight till she was raped then she become gay. I accept her as who she is because I wanted her to be happy.
I do not believe anyone was born gay. It is how they grew up.
 
Momoftwo,

Why do you create this thread at the 1st place and now you refused to read!? When I was younger in around late teen years, I was confused and why there are gay/lesbo everywhere. (that when I was at Clarke School in Northampton, and there were so many lesbo). After I left Clarke, returned back to my hometown. And one of my friend finally met me and pulled other friend to see me. We all knew each other since we were little. She told me she is BI and I asked her why? I don't understand. So she explained why this and that. After she explained, finally I understood. Even it was nice of her that she took me to Bay Area (in S.F. and Fremont area) and met her friends. Now I am confusing myself. I do attract to women. I don't know if I will LIKE it or not. SO I'll stick myself as BI-curious. :thumb:

No one is PERFECT! That's the way God made us.

I accept who my friends are. I don't think none in my family are gay or lesbo. If one of them is, I will still accept.

We just FOLLOW by our hearts who we want to be attract to man or woman.
 
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