Interpretator, I think we might be getting there; that is, if I don't, somewhere along the line, be reduced to the pile of quivering protoplasm from whence I came before this is over! I'm really trying... Lol...ok, let's scuttle the English we, or rather, I was interjecting by way of comparison earlier and let's just take ASL and it's bluntness, straightforwardness, etc.
Why is that bluntness is inherently a feature of ASL? Why is it that, with ASL, there's no "beating around the bush"? Is this saying coyness, for example, is an impossibility with ASL? Or any other behaviors (like concilatory, politic, graciousness, etc) on the opposite end of the spectrum from bluntness (or candid, frank, curt, direct, forthright, etc)?
I really, REALLY suggest you getting the book "Reading Between the Signs" by Anna Mindess. She is an interpreter of 25+years, and with input from many Deaf people, wrote a book about intercultural communication---she wrote about many cultures, INCLUDING Deaf culture.
There is a "spectrum" that has organized languages/cultures from the least direct to the most direct. American Deaf culture is near the most direct, but Israeli culture/Hebrew is considered most direct. The reasons listed?
Israeli's live in a small country where straight talk is valued, it is a way of showing intimacy. By direct telling someone what you think, you are showing that you care...as a favorite quote of mine says, "to take someone's arguments seriously enough to question them is a significant form of respect." In Israeli culture, (and in many ways American Deaf culture) it is POLITE to be direct with someone, rather than hide your feelings/beliefs. In Anna's book she quotes Tom Holcomb (a Deaf man) as saying "It's the way you would talk with your siblings." --It's showing a level of intimacy, not trying to pick on people. If you don't say something about a person's change in looks, for example, it's like showing you didn't even notice.
Secondly, Israel is a country constantly under attack and in threat of being destroyed...while American Deaf people are not in physical danger, they do deal with oppression from the hearing world, and Deaf culture is also very much under attack (mainstreaming, cochlear implants, etc.). Israeli and Deaf culture are both minority cultures.
Deaf people are culturally polite, as we all are, when the situation makes it appropriate. Asking for a favor, apologizing, etc. Deaf people and ASL both have the ability to be indirect, and are, when it is culturally appropriate to do so...few people, Deaf, Israeli, or anyone else, are direct or indirect all the time.
Lastly, one ironic thing is that many -specifically educated- Deaf people claim that, although being blunt is a part of Deaf culture, they-educated people- don't do it. But the honest truth is nearly all of them do, but because they are following a culture norm and doing what they should be doing according to their culture, they don't even notice
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