My dear friend Illuminator, I want to first give you a hug and whisper to you to remember You are an amazing man. I know this recent news must have caused you real, physical pain. After all you have done to try to make things wonderful for this girl, it appears your affections will not be returned. She is certainly the loser here, but I know that doesn't matter at this point. You must be spinning with confusion and self doubt. Please. Please take some deep breaths. I want to try to explain something to you. You know now that this Adam character did not return her affections, so they broke apart. Then she meets you, and you my friend are amazing in the lengths you went to and thoughtfulness you gave this girl. You did everything RIGHT! you are one of the "good guys". Now I believe that Adam found out she was dating a real man, one who wanted to show how much he appreciated her, and being the immature individual I just sense he is. He thru a little attention her way and she went running back, which I am afraid proves she is also not mature or the right person for you! I ask that you take a moment to look at the situation, as painful as it is, with "reality" as opposed to "pretending". Stay with me here please ! The reality of your situation is that this girl never really left Adam emotionally. You were simply so wonderful she took all you offered. She was immature, a user and worst if she truly has been in Love with this Adam the entire time, she committed emotional infedelity. Do you really want some one like that? I know you couldn't possibly. Here's the hard part but I want to help you as much as I can..because i care about you. You have been "pretending" we all do it. Not looking at a situation as it really is but as we wish it were. I hope you understand this. It happens all the time. Some people even get engaged and married "pretending" the relationship is perfect. Not looking at the reality of any situation cheats you
out of so much. You my dear friend have suffered so, the truth is when she told you "you were such a wonderful man" she was really leaving a door open, just in case Adam acted up again, which he will, i'm sure. How sad for them..they deserve one another. You deserve a woman who walks with grace and dignity, a woman who will see the reality of who you are. Don't let this make you sick or weak or self doubting, please. I can assure you when you meet a woman who looks at the reality of things, your caring and thoughtfulness will be returned immediately, and if you give your self some time (maybe to reread all the support your getting from your friends here) and let go of what would have never made you happy, you have to see that if you really look at the reality, smiling, I know you will find her. Just take some time to know exactly whats important to you, no more "pretending" about anything. You will find life so rich and full of people who know about the importance of reality, because we all have had to learn the lesson. Some choose to keep on pretending, but I'm betting you won't be one of them !
Another hug for you now. Smiling, the pain will pass in time and I just know you are gonna finally meet the woman you deserve. This time you will see her clearly and you will be amazed by that reality. We are a caring bunch here
stay with us..join in again..and accept the reality life shows us all. I remain,
your friend...Midnight♥♥♥ you can talk to me anytime, i promise to answer when I can... Just Let it Be....smile
It's simply that...well, I'm just not that good enough for her compared to the other guy..
otherwise friends 
