Can you give some advice please? (hearing/deaf love) :)

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Oh hi :wave:
My name is Cynthia and I'm a 22years old hearing girl from Mexico. Currently learning the mexican sign language, and here is the thing... (by the way, sorry if my english is bad :Oops:)
Months ago, I fell in love with a deaf boy; he is now teaching me and other 20 people my age the mexican sign language in a course that I took at the university just to know him more :)... I'm not actually a shy person, but with him around I get very nervous, and I have never approached him so he can know who I am... He actually just knows my name, and smiles at me everytime we see each other around campus...
But, last wednesday I decided to change the course of destiny (hahaha dramatic). At the end of class, I approached him and asked him for an interview; I told him I was studying journalism and that it was a homework I had to do, to interview someone, and that I had chosen him. (To be honest, this whole homework thing is a lie, but it was the first thing that came to my mind...:whistle: The good thing is that he said YES and we are meeting next thursday at 9am!! I am so nervous and happy!!!
The thing is, I don't know, what kind of interview should I do? I hope you guys can give me your points of view and some advices to what kind of questions should I do and... how can I make him know I really like him? My heart is beating so fast just to think I'm meeting him in a few days, I hope I don't make any mistakes... I really want him to know my feelings, but don't want to be too impulsive or to look crazy :(.
Sorry for the long text! I hope somebody can help me before thursday, I would really appreciate it :)

Sincerely,

Cynthia (Cyn) :)
 

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Most guys like cars with turbocharged engine. Maybe he does. If you do this interview, plan it so that you can see whether he likes turbo or not.

Don't make it deaf/hearing relationship. Make it him and you. No label needed.
 
dereksbicycles said:
Most guys like cars with turbocharged engine. Maybe he does. If you do this interview, plan it so that you can see whether he likes turbo or not.

Don't make it deaf/hearing relationship. Make it him and you. No label needed.
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I don't know if you were making fun of me with this answer, but it is actually very good :) hahaha, I just googled "turbocharged cars" and I'm currently reading this article: Top 10: Turbocharged Cars - AskMen
 
Haha cute, and good luck. Make sure to come clean in good time... Even "mid-interview" if you get a good vibe.

My suggestion is not to interview him about his deafness. Don't make it a thing, or an issue. Maybe make the interview about what your career is and how you fell into it? You might learn something about why he has a passion for teaching. Keep the "interview" short and move onto the topic of what he does for fun... Then come clean that you just wanted an excuse for a date. Haha if he makes you nervous or flustered you're probably not as good a liar as you think ;)
 
And if he doesn't like Turbo chargers, see if he likes Super Chargers.... But if all else fails, EVERYONE likes Mickey Mouse !
 
sonocativo said:
And if he doesn't like Turbo chargers, see if he likes Super Chargers.... But if all else fails, EVERYONE likes Mickey Mouse !
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No... I used to live there, Topo Gigio is most popular!
 
As a 34 year old and having experience with the 20-something dating ritual what I can offer you is to simply be ok with either outcome and KNOW that you are a great person who has a lot to offer.

Ironically it's unattractive if you look desperate or feel like the guy is doing you a favor just by going on a "date" with him. Just be yourself and have fun with him. If you don't feel a connection it's not the end of the world.
 
ChristineNeely said:
Haha cute, and good luck. Make sure to come clean in good time... Even "mid-interview" if you get a good vibe.

My suggestion is not to interview him about his deafness. Don't make it a thing, or an issue. Maybe make the interview about what your career is and how you fell into it? You might learn something about why he has a passion for teaching. Keep the "interview" short and move onto the topic of what he does for fun... Then come clean that you just wanted an excuse for a date. Haha if he makes you nervous or flustered you're probably not as good a liar as you think ;)
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You're right, I'll start asking about his career and what he does for fun, then move to the real facts hahaha :). I hope everything goes well, and if not... well, It wasn't meant to be. Thank you for your advice :)
 
A Nihilist said:
As a 34 year old and having experience with the 20-something dating ritual what I can offer you is to simply be ok with either outcome and KNOW that you are a great person who has a lot to offer.

Ironically it's unattractive if you look desperate or feel like the guy is doing you a favor just by going on a "date" with him. Just be yourself and have fun with him. If you don't feel a connection it's not the end of the world.
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Yes, you're very realistic and I appreciate it. I know I'll be fine, I just hope we could at least be friends (maybe I'm being too optimistic, cause right know I feel I can conquer him hahaha :laugh2:)... anyway, if this doesn't happen...everybody likes friends, right? :grouphug:
 
I loved Topo, but I am certainly the age of your parents. I saw him on Ed Sullivan's show. That is how old I am.

LOL
 
You should be honest with guy and tell him that you really wanted to met him as you really like him and you could not think of what to say and made up a story having homework. If you keep up with the lie the guy may not want anything to do with you. Your lie could backfire on you , some guys really hate to be lied to.
 
Another point to mention: some colleges look down on teachers dating students because they should respect that they're in a position of power.... They see it as abuse of power (why professionals don't date clients)... Idk the situation but keep it in mind and respect that if he keeps the "interview" professional.
 
Cynthia, that approach looks pretty clever, but let it simmer over to a building interest. You will likely be perceived as indecisive if you abruptly admit it's a false interview or you become tongue twisted. The point is to score more dates or at least to meet somewhere again to talk about something you two have an interest in. However, if you want to reel him in fast, nothing better to give him the hint than to provocatively show him your assets! ;)
 
Oh, another showtime!

Please don't stop the show until your at dead end with him.

:popcorn:
 
whatdidyousay! said:
You should be honest with guy and tell him that you really wanted to met him as you really like him and you could not think of what to say and made up a story having homework. If you keep up with the lie the guy may not want anything to do with you. Your lie could backfire on you , some guys really hate to be lied to.
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I understand your point. I think I won't say "I like you" immediatly, but I'll find a way to make him understand I just made up everything to know him better and to talk with him :).
 
ChristineNeely said:
Another point to mention: some colleges look down on teachers dating students because they should respect that they're in a position of power.... They see it as abuse of power (why professionals don't date clients)... Idk the situation but keep it in mind and respect that if he keeps the "interview" professional.
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Yes in my university the situation is the same, but I'm not sure if this applies for him because: 1) he is actually a student at the uni (mechanical and electrical engineering :) ), and 2) the teacher in the class is his mom, and he is just there to help her and to practice with us, telling us our mistakes, etcetera. But I'll be prepared anyway to not be dissapointed if he is too distant or serious. Thank you for this :)
 
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