I'm HoH. I really don't like the "faking it" mentality. Some of us didn't have the choice. With our hearing loss we were given hearing aids or in some cases a CI and mainstreamed in hearing schools where we had to learn to speak and get around in the hearing world without signing. The sign I was exposed to wasn't ASL either, it was signed English and SEE. I'm learning proper ASL and I really want to be more active in the Deaf community. But I also have my family and friends in the hearing community and I've had a lot longer to learn how to get by with speech, using my HAs and other adaptations than in a completely ASL Deaf community, though even when I am much more fluent in ASL and am more active in the Deaf community I'll still have those hearing friends and family. Does that make sense?
But yeah 100% agree with
@Lysander it does hurt. It's that attitude that kept me from trying to jump into the Deaf ASL community when I was younger. I didn't want to be made fun of, called a faker, be told I'm not "Deaf" enough or anything like that. It's not like I chose the communication style I was forced to learn as a child because I thought ASL and the Deaf community weren't good enough for me or something outrageous like that. It's why a lot of us HoH folks don't feel too hearing for the Deaf community and too Deaf for the hearing community so we don't fit in anywhere :-(