Buying a House... Before or After Marriage?

VamPyroX said:
What's your opinion on couples buying a house...

... before or after marriage?

I know someone who is getting married and is planning on buying a house together. One of them finished college and the other hasn't.

Should they go ahead and buy a house even though they aren't married yet?

What about other people... other scenarios?

What do you think? Why? Why not?
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Well, what do you think of your questions ? Care to share with us about what's your opinion on this ? :)
 
Depened on ppl before married if they are good together as long as they can then can buy a house before marriage :). And after married can buy a house that too :)


My 3rd sister and her husband before wasnt married that they bought a house before got an engagned till got married which is recently last July 28, 2007 still same the house for 3 yrs :)
 
I'm agree with them depend whoever want buy hous before married either after which no matter and only way better avoid losing due money to pay rent if house are on payment as low price which good deal depend on :)

One of my good friend who is hoh who is just get married last 2006 and they are live an apt for now till they're feel ready buy house in few yr later who know :)
 
This is very difficult part of dealing with a prenuptial (prenup or prenupt) agreement before they get married. If this person does not agree some of the prenuptial, then it is a problem. An owner of the house will kick a boyfriend/girlfriend out of the house. That's a true sad.

My own opinion is that I really do not believe in a marriage. I do believe is the spare of life and money. Both partners (boyfriend/girlfriend) could buy a house with 50/50 percent. It is a risk that they will "lose" the house after breaking up the relationship because they will have a difficult to buy their own home with high house value on the market.

If they are married and own two houses, they can keep their own house after the divorce.

In a rare situation, they never married and have two houses. They will keep their own house if they are lucky. That would be a great.

In other subject, a man makes more money than his wife. The law stated that the ex-husband must pay his ex-wife monthly or weekly for most of life. That is a scary because what would happen if the ex-husband gets a laid off or fired from his job. He still has to pay her - I don't know how long it takes... otherwise, he will be jailed.

If you broke up with your girlfriend and have a child, the law stated that you must pay the child support until the child turns 18 years old. I think many states have the same law. You really cannot mess up this law. (You better check the information in your state.)
 
Would prefer to buy a house after getting married. Otherwise, put the house in your name only to protect yourself. I know a few couples who have bought a home before they got married only to split up and have to go thru the headache of what to do with the house. It seems to be happening more these days.
 
shel90 said:
Would you prefer to buy a house after getting married. Otherwise, put the house in your name only to protect yourself. I know a few couples who have bought a home before they got married only to split up and have to go thru the headache of what to do with the house. It seems to be happening more these days.
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Put a house in your name to protect yourself (married) will never happen because of their divorce lawyers. It's up to the judge's decision.

I was an insurance house inspector, and I read many list of names that show me that they put their own last name together on the document for their house because of the prenup. That's interesting.
 
IF you can afford the house on your own simply sometimes you have to be careful as the other spouse will have to contribute to the expense of the house if she/he moved in .... Maybe write up a contract on the terms and what if the relationship breaks up noone will not be lost out.

Sometime, people will do that with when the relationship broken up, it's a big headache as I can see that happening when you put so much of your money into the house that's not in your name, you should get it all back.. that's a pain in the butt.. rather buy a house after marriage to have both names on the deed to be protected... and less headache as well

Also, for me, I prefer if he has a house already before marriage, I would rather he sell it and we go into a new house together as both share it... it just me.. but again depending on the circumstances I think...
 
Canuckian_Chick said:
Also, for me, I prefer if he has a house already before marriage, I would rather he sell it and we go into a new house together as both share it... it just me.. but again depending on the circumstances I think...
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If he does not want to sell it, do you accept him that you have to move in with him? Would you feel stuck that question in your mind living with him?
 
webexplorer said:
In 10 years, you might live on a boat house just because there is a full of houses in my country - no room for you. :eek3:
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:rofl: Good point, WebExplorer!! I shall just stick in Australia, if it happens to be no home for me! Australia is the back up ;) :nana:

EDIT -- W.E - Guess it would be no room for you either if you are in Australia :lol:
 
if i bought a house before getting married.. i would put my name on deed first.. only.. then make him sign pren up as i dont want to lose my house..

if its his house .. i would leave it alone.. cuz it was never mine to begin with.. so not worry about it..
 
jclarke said:
:rofl: Good point, WebExplorer!! I shall just stick in Australia, if it happens to be no home for me! Australia is the back up ;) :nana:

EDIT -- W.E - Guess it would be no room for you either if you are in Australia :lol:
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Oh no! Grrr. Thanks a lot! :jaw: :lol:
 
If I had plenty of money, I might buy a house for myself. However, if I were to get married... I would have to hope that it's the right house for both of us. That's why I rather stick with renting an apartment first before marriage, then get a house after we both have enough money and can agree to a new house. :)
 
I agree, vampy, that is the good option but would you just hate to blow all your dead money on renting?
 
VamPyroX said:
If I had plenty of money, I might buy a house for myself. However, if I were to get married... I would have to hope that it's the right house for both of us. That's why I rather stick with renting an apartment first before marriage, then get a house after we both have enough money and can agree to a new house. :)
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Right. I agree ! That will make the marriage a perfect suitable for the couple...makin' each other happy at the same time. It's all about sharin' new things when it comes to a new chapter for both. :)
 
jclarke said:
I agree, vampy, that is the good option but would you just hate to blow all your dead money on renting?
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It's either havin' a woman to complaint or argue with him or havin' him to blow all his dead money on rentin'. Which one is the best option ? Your opinion ? Lol
 
webexplorer said:
If he does not want to sell it, do you accept him that you have to move in with him? Would you feel stuck that question in your mind living with him?
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you got a point, it's possible to accept it, only so if my name will be put on the deed then I'm all for it I'm putting money into it as well.... if you know what I meant....
 
jclarke said:
Some people would wish to experience on how they rent a house, some one rather not to blow their money on rent for a long time, like my friend used to be has rented their house who was owned under his wife's parents for 9 and half years.

Everyone has their different choices, I assume.
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Yes I second that...

Mine is different because I married to a German. I lived in England and was too busy to think about hunt the job than consider to buy the house before we married and move to live here in Germany in 1985. Hunt the job is mainly important than worry about house etc. We found one bedroom apartment with cheap rent which is very easy for us to save up to buy a land to build the house.

I got job after 3 month unemployment since moved to live in Germany. We enjoy ourselves first and travel a lot... until we have enough money to buy a land. We found a land, we really want to live and bought it. We were busy and excited to design the house what we wish... It took us one year to find out what kind of house, we wish... then built in 1988-89. We are still living at the same house...
 
I noticed some of your posts saying that it´s important to put your own name on your house which mean that your spouse get nothing.

Not all true...

Some friends, I know well claimed their rights, no matter either their spouses´s name on their own house or not.

Let me to share the story without name some of my friends.

A wife and a husband sign the agreement contract that the house is belong to a husband because he bought the house before he married her.

They produced together a child...

A wife feel being neglect by her husband´s love and attention - it drives her to have an affair with other man.

They agreed to file a divorce and have 50/50 child custody with no complication. The problem is house!!!! A husband rejected wife´s suggestion to put their child´s name on his house and remind her about her sign on agreement contract....

The reason on a wife´s side to want him to put child´s name on his house is because she don´t want if his soon to be ex-husband married again and his 2nd wife own his house when he dies.. that´s why she suggest him to put child´s name on his house then his future wife won´t own the house. That house, she work hard to take care of - clean - wash - garden work, etc... etc...

The reason on a husband´s side for reject his soon to be ex-wife´s suggestion because he feel that she will have the right to live in his house as long as a child is 18 years old at legal age and can ask his 2nd wife to leave...

A wife´s lawyer disagree with her suggestion and then advised her to demand % of house profit from him because she lived in that house for years - do household, care of house, cook, wash, garden work, etc. etc. etc. for years... A wife feel not want to take profit from him because the house is HIS but she tried to persuade him to put a child´s name on the house... He still rejected with the help from his lawyer... She give in and let her lawyer to demand % of his house profit. It make him furious. We all advised him to take her suggestion instead of pay % house profit to her. He is stubborn and said that the house is HIS, not HER.

The court gave a wife right to demand % house profit of his house.

Their lawyers send house inspectors to estimate how much the house worth. They gave their estimate to court but the house estimate prices are huge difference so the court ordered Expert to estimate their house and follow Expert´s estimate... and paid 35,000 € profit off to her from house price estimate 300,000€.

Depend on difference % on how many months to years, you live in HIS or HER house and take care of HIS or HER house.....

Please don´t tell me that Germany´s different as in America because I learn from my co-workers that Americans do demand their rights the same as well because they live under their house for months to years... they have the right to claim the % profit of their house. (not 50/50 but just % of his house)
 
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