Bi Question

Handsome_Smiley said:
Sorry, just a confurt level and I get defencive at that poiint and reactions kick in. I have no problem and if a guy asks me if I am gay and that I look good, that is fine. But if he just starts goofing off and goes to far and I let him know before, then my reaction takes over.
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Two wrongs don't make a right. You should ask for advice on how to handle this without breaking the law.

Harassment can be so unpleasant, whether one is gay or straight!
 
If I never knew that my husband was bi, then to be honest I would probably feel confused and perhaps a little betrayed. I don't know if I might feel that way because he never told me in the first place. But if he was faithful, then that's all it matters. What I would liked to do when I find out that he is bi is to have a long talk and discuss things with him. But does that mean I will stop love him or leave him because of who he is, then no I won't. Why would you leave someone who is good to you even though that person is different than what society expected everyone to be?

But again, I do not have husband, so I'm just telling you what I might feel or do. I am studying to be social worker, so I already have learned to accept people for who they are and not to judge them for who they are.

That's a good question. It forced me to see thing in a different way.
 
Interesting thread...

I rather to have my hubby to tell me the truth about himself in first place then I won't feel being betray if I learn the truth later...

If I know the truth in first place then I will aware and accept who my hubby really is. Its about trust and open communicate... It's so... Not just BI, gay & lesbian questions but anything what they did in the past... example divorce, crimes, etc.
 
I stay away from BI people. Why you ask me. They are very confused and wishy wash people, can't make up thier mind. One day they like same sex , other day they like different sex. WTF.

I am not bashing them but I wouldn't get involves romantically with bi people.

Yes, there is a reason for my "semi" gripe with BI people because I was burned by one bi female in the past. She suddenly decide she want to be with woman. :pissed:
 
DreamDeaf said:
I was working on some artist trading cards last night, and I got to thinking...

I'm an OUT bisexual femme - always have, always will be. I've always been honest to every person I've had a relationship with - I've told them I'm bi, but I do not believe in having affairs while in a relationship, no matter what sex I'm with. Many of them have understood, and were very accepting...many of them have remained friends after our relationships faded away - it's nicer that way.

Now, back on topic - this is for both sides of the coin.

What is your uppermost thought, innermost feelings, when your partner turns to you and tells you that he/she's bisexual? I'm talking to those in long-term relationships, where the partner has always thought the other partner was straight in his/her sexual orientation.

Would you feel betrayed, or just accepting of it? What emotions did you feel when that happened to you, or what do you think would happen if that did happen to you? How would you deal with it, and if it has happened already, how did you deal with it then?

For the others, who came out as bisexual, what happened when you told your partner that you were bisexual?

Just wondering - never had a problem.

Please no flaming, no bashing, no inappropriate posts. This is intended for serious discussion, please.
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I am bi. I have never been with a girl. I know strange lol.
I guess I was always too afraid of it. My family would never except it so I always dated guys.
When I finally was willing to give it a try I met my fiance.
He's the coolest guy ever!
Well i had never came out that I was bi, only to very close friends.
I told my fiance about 6 months or so after we were dating.
I figured that he would hate me or be uncomfortable.
But he was great about it.
Now we both are like you. we don't think we should have threesomes or anything like that lol.
But yeah he was cool with it.
So I guess i will never know what it is like to be with a girl though since I am getting married to a guy hehe.
Oh well i guess you can't miss what you ahve not had.
I think i always liked boys more though.
My friends are really accepting but I have never told my family. they would just make fun of me. I would never hear the end of it!
 
I know DreamDeaf used be with boys before me. Now she is very loyal to me and become steady relationship. I met her one of ex boyfriend and he is nice man. We chatted like man to man. She is proud to see me comfortable with man because it is nothing to be wrong or right. There is lot of friendship and enemy out there.

She choice to be OUT Bisexual.... her type favor. You can see me come OUT as transqueer. I prefer that way. Hope that understandable for you.
 
trish_e87 said:
I am bi. I have never been with a girl. I know strange lol.
I guess I was always too afraid of it. My family would never except it so I always dated guys.
When I finally was willing to give it a try I met my fiance.
He's the coolest guy ever!
Well i had never came out that I was bi, only to very close friends.
I told my fiance about 6 months or so after we were dating.
I figured that he would hate me or be uncomfortable.
But he was great about it.
Now we both are like you. we don't think we should have threesomes or anything like that lol.
But yeah he was cool with it.
So I guess i will never know what it is like to be with a girl though since I am getting married to a guy hehe.
Oh well i guess you can't miss what you ahve not had.
I think i always liked boys more though.
My friends are really accepting but I have never told my family. they would just make fun of me. I would never hear the end of it!
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well if u wanna try with girl, and if u dont wanna ur family to know or wanna them to know who u are.. but just follow ur heart what right thing to do.. :)
 
I've never had a problem, but then I think it's easier for women to come out as bi anyway. Somehow I've also dated a lot of bi men, and am married to one as well, which is interesting to say the least...
 
I didn't know that this thread was here, but I want to share.

I am Bisexuality myself, and I don't believe in to reject other's love because the gender, that look like discrimination to me. And I don't see any betraying for a person to like both.

Also sometimes I got really mad at some girls because they sometimes reject me because of my bisexuality, they said that they fear that I will like other men more that they can't challenge with.

But that is not making any sense to me, I can love both men and women, and I will be only in relationship with one, not two, and that one would be either men and women.

I am very damn proud of being Bisexuality.
 
RedheadGrrl said:
I was bi long time ago. I had a gf who was bi also. We had boyfriends. Our bfs didnt know that my bi gf and I were in relationship. We were very carefully not show any sign to our bfs. After we were off with our bfs and ourselves. I realized that we were cheating on our bfs.

I learned my lesson and wont do it again if I decided to be bi again. I couldnt do that to a person or persons. It could become attach string if I want either gf or bf while dating others. It could hurt other person. Am I making a sense?
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You are always bi I think, it is just what you prefer at a certain point in your life. You may have a stronger preference for women, but even if the attraction to men is few and far bewteen, I'd say you're bi. I'm definitely bi, though I married a man, but he knew when we go together from the get go. I just could never see myself in a long-term relationship with a woman, though maybe I never met the right one.

Being bi is ok, it's just the issue of being faithful, or honest about it and if you do have a third party involvement that everyone is comfortable. Some people even have tri-relationships (not recommended!!)

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I am curious...has everyone bi, gay, or straight ever had any curiosity or thoughts of having sex with someone of the same sex? I have had wondered what it would be like to do it with a woman so does that make me bi or just simply curious?
 
shel90 said:
I am curious...has everyone bi, gay, or straight ever had any curiosity or thoughts of having sex with someone of the same sex? I have had wondered what it would be like to do it with a woman so does that make me bi or just simply curious?
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Bi-Curiousity is your answer ;)
 
shel90 said:
That's a good one. :ty:
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No problem :) I have alot of bi-curiousity friends, they usually have oddly views. One my friend, he told me that he want to know what's it like to be gay, but he scare of what if he like it.
 
PuyoPiyo said:
No problem :) I have alot of bi-curiousity friends, they usually have oddly views. One my friend, he told me that he want to know what's it like to be gay, but he scare of what if he like it.
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Hahahahahaha!!! That's so funny!
 
shel90 said:
Well..I may be understanding but I dont think I will be able to stay with him if he ever does confess he is bi because I DONT want to share!!! LOL
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I understand, I bet it does hurt a little. Is he seeing someone who is a man? I remember you told me that you will ask him about Thailand to see if I was right about it. :afro:
 
Liebling:-))) said:
If I know the truth in first place then I will aware and accept who my hubby really is. Its about trust and open communicate... It's so... Not just BI, gay & lesbian questions but anything what they did in the past... example divorce, crimes, etc.
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A very good point! :bowdown:
 
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