The success of your daughter will depend largely on her. How old is she? I think the biggest favor you can do for her is to establish her independence. Where does she want to live? The best community will be a place she feels safe and among people who share her interests and values. There is a big difference between Rochester and San Francisco. If she is still a child, then help her to feel she doesn't need your consant help, but that she can achieve for herself while embracing dhh culture. But, if she is made to feel that being dhh is a burden that you share, she will never find her full potential. Again, her age is important. Is she in school? Are there other dhh individuals she can relate to? Does she know ASL? If college age, does she plan to go to college? If she is a teen, then she might want to meet other deaf teens or be in a school environment with them.
As said above, more information about your daughter might help you to get a more focused response. Would she benefit from a boarding environment? Could you cope if she were in a boarding environment? As a family, are you more comfortable in a small town or a metropolitan city?
There are so many excellent choices...it's a big country. Help us in our recommendations by providing more specific information about your daughter. Better yet...hand the keyboard to her and have her tell us about herself.
Wishing you, your husband, and daughter the best,
Michael