Being Your Own Worst Enemy

Nancy, I think it is very safe to say that we are our own worst enemies. :lol: All the wonderful books, computer links or references isn't going to help. It's just the good ol' kick in the rear to get our thinking straight.
 
Well, I have looked at some "signs" of self-sabotage, and I noticed several of them are very familiar to me......I was like "Oh my....." realizing that those familiar ones are mirroring my life.
Yes, it does take a kick to the rump to get the thinking straight, but it is not that easy, Patty. :)
 
Nancy, you're not alone. I am sooooo hard on myself and have a hard time accepting compliments, etc. Knowledge is there but can't cure me of beating myself up to death with self doubts.

For example, I'm dating a man who loves me to death but I keep thinking I could do better if I'm thin, smarter, funnier or outgoing. I selfsabotage myself constantly.

It sucks so to speak.
 
I'm hard on myself a lot, and I think rightfully so. I honestly do think I am a terrible person. And alot of times I don't like being paid compliments because it boosts my ego, and justs makes me feel above people, which really makes me uncomfortable.
 
Nancy said:
Well, I have looked at some "signs" of self-sabotage, and I noticed several of them are very familiar to me......I was like "Oh my....." realizing that those familiar ones are mirroring my life.
Yes, it does take a kick to the rump to get the thinking straight, but it is not that easy, Patty. :)
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It is never easy, Nancy and I didn't say it was. A true friend would give you a good kick in the hiney to get your thinking into a different perspective instead of coddling you. A true friend wouldn't allow for you to live your life in a bubble or do "self-sabotage". An even much better friend would stop you when you do your own character assasssination because it is quite embarrassing. :hug: I do understand.
 
This is tough. I think we do sabotage ourselves both in thoughts and in actions.

For instance: When I don't work out for a long time, I feel fat and ugly. I start thinking to myself that I am. I start feeling like I am...then I work out less. Self fullfilling prophecy.

I procrastinate. I feel bad because I am not getting things done. But then I feel bad, so I don't feel up to doing anything, which means I'm not getting things done, which upsets people, which makes me feel worse...

Basically...today I went for a run. I made myself do it. I called a friend to talk.

I guess really what it is is that you have to find something that motivates you, and then do it. Sometimes it's just MAKING yourself. Sometimes it's a certain book, or saying, or something.

It's an ongoing issue with me, and something that I'm working on.
 
well you're 35...
and you said you had bisexual tendenies.
and you ain't married and have no children...

and you don't even like your job.

maybe you are right, you are your own worst enemy...
you must not doing something right for yourself.
 
yea I think everyone is their own worst enemy, nobody is comfortable in their own skin. for instance i have ...

low selfesteem
low self confidence
im really negative
i don't believe in myself
I never take anyones compliments seriously
......
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
well you're 35...
and you said you had bisexual tendenies.
and you ain't married and have no children...

and you don't even like your job.

maybe you are right, you are your own worst enemy...
you must not doing something right for yourself.
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:shock: MissP!
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
well you're 35...
and you said you had bisexual tendenies.
and you ain't married and have no children...

and you don't even like your job.

maybe you are right, you are your own worst enemy...
you must not doing something right for yourself.
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Miss P, gets the facts straight.....I enjoy my job very much. I don't know where you got the idea that I don't like my job. In fact, do you have a job? I don't think so. I have work there for almost 3 years....and I am getting some help from a team leader at work, since I have asked for help. :)
You are your own worst enemy, Miss P, is that you keep bringing in these negetive posts....whining about wanting a boyfriend but you want to stay away from guys. You make people get really annoyed with you. You live off the government and you live off your mother, crusing in boats, taking vacations....instead of working.
As far about about being "bisexual", I am mostly leaning towards liking men, which is the opposite sex for me. You are your own worst enemy because you stay away from men, and you don't even really care about them. Why do you WHINE in the first place about wanting a guy?? I had a couple of boyfriends myself in the past....I liked all of them, but I haven't found Mr. Right yet. I would NEVER do what you do -- stay away from them just because it is convenient for you.....I want to be with them so I can be a friend.
Oh, and you are your own worst enemy because you don't think before you post stuff....you really hurt a lot of people's feelings here, Miss P. and You annoy people as heck all get out.
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
well you're 35...
and you said you had bisexual tendenies.
and you ain't married and have no children...

and you don't even like your job.

maybe you are right, you are your own worst enemy...
you must not doing something right for yourself.
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Nancy and I didn't meet eye-to-eye on many subjects but man, you just crossed the line.

In many ways, you are your own worst enemy. With these posts & topics you made around here.
 
Nancy said:
Miss P, gets the facts straight.....I enjoy my job very much. I don't know where you got the idea that I don't like my job. In fact, do you have a job? I don't think so. I have work there for almost 3 years....and I am getting some help from a team leader at work, since I have asked for help. :)
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why you made the thread, "fired or quit" and you said you have problem
with schedule and boss and you're thinking about resigning your job?
 
Yeah I want a boyfriend/husband, but I am staying away from
men because I fear of rejection.


"Being Your Own Worst Enemy"? I did a whole lot better than
my dad, people who did drugs, people out there prostituting,
people who starve themselves to be thin, prisoners, overweight
people who have health problem and Aids victims and everything else...


I know I whined alot, I'm sorry.
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
why you made the thread, "fired or quit" and you said you have problem
with schedule and boss and you're thinking about resigning your job?
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I never had a problem with my boss....it's just the schedule I have a problem with....and I do love my job. Like I said, I have some help now so I am not resigning. My boss accepted the fact that a team leader is working with me, and she seems happy with it.
I made the poll, not just because of me, but because I was wondering if the others felt it is better to quit or to be fired themselves. I noticed that some people felt it is better to be fired (in their own work experiences -- not mine).
Quit jumping to conclusions. And yes, you are your own worst enemy for a lot of things, Miss P.
 
Great thread, Nancy :)

While we might judge others harshly at times, we are also guilty of judging ourselves worse than that - IMO.
 
I wasn't judging, I was trying to solve AIDS/HIV crisis...
I don't care about lesbians, cause they don't harm anyone though.
 
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