Being a Jewish mom at Christmas isn't so bad

When I taught VPK. I would teach about different culture and their holidays observed. The December cirriculum we taught Hanukkah - Chanukah, Christmas, and Kwanzaa. It was required by the early learning coalition to do so. :)
 
Before I got married, I dated a woman from Tel Aviv. Her father was a combat fighter pilot for the IDF. We all visited the Smithsonian Museums and there was a display at the American History Museum about Vietnam soldiers. Her father had a strong interest in the history of Vietnam.

Anyways .... in that display, there was a small Christmas tree. It was an attempt to show how soldiers in Vietnam celebrated Christmas. There were packages under the tree (mail from home), alongside combat boots and a mess kit.

Her whole family had never seen a Christmas tree before. They all looked it like it was the strangest thing. Then they asked me what the HELL is that?

So, a discussion of holidays took up a better part of the afternoon. I learned a lot, and I think they learned a thing or two as well.
 
When I taught VPK. I would teach about different culture and their holidays observed. The December cirriculum we taught Hanukkah - Chanukah, Christmas, and Kwanzaa. It was required by the early learning coalition to do so. :)
What are VPK and the early learning coalition?
 
Just found out that the Galliera, Houston and Texas' largest mall, now has the largest menorah. For 30 years there has been the largest Christmas tree in the middle of the ice rink (yes, we have ice skating in Houston). Now there is a menorah to equalize the holiday seasons.
 
What are VPK and the early learning coalition?

VPK is Volunteer Pre Kindergarden. Free preschool for 4 year olds. That help children with school readiness.

ELC is the group that overlooks daycare to make sure they are giving quality care and education.
 
VPK is Volunteer Pre Kindergarden. Free preschool for 4 year olds. That help children with school readiness.

ELC is the group that overlooks daycare to make sure they are giving quality care and education.
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One of the grades school in my city is not having a secret Santa this year as some students do cerebrate Christmas. I think this is bad idea as some kids could mad the kids that do not cerebrate Christmas. I feel this just single out kids more that have difference belief . I would rather have my kid not go to school when they're having the Christmas party than being the reason the rest of the class can't have it.
 
I'm thinking next year I will make it more of a solstice thing at my own home.


That's how I have to do it, as a Winter Solstice holiday. It represents the end of shorter and shorter days and the beginning to gradually longer and longer days, though it does serve as a warning of much colder days for about 3+ plus from now. I do this strictly from a physical perspective, as I am "none of the above" when it comes to which human belief systems I am a part of. I am not agnostic, christian, jewish, nor even atheist. I don't know how to describe what it is, because there are no words for it.
 
I think it is totally wonderful!! My biggest problem with Christmas anymore is the over-commercialism of it. The Christians have lost sight of the true meaning of Christmas, whereas the Jewish have never lost sight of their traditions. That, to me, speaks volumes!

According to some sources, Christmas as a pagan holiday was banned in England and several of the American colonies. What is fact is that Christmas was not recognized as a Federal holiday until 1870. My store put out the decorations even earlier than it has before, occurring about a week or two before Halloween as opposed to right after it.

Someone else made the comment that the woman is secure in her beliefs and doesn't feel the need to convert people. We have a LOT of people of faith who feel the need because they're afraid that they might be wrong or feel threatened by the prospect of being ruled by a group of people with beliefs in opposition to theirs (fundamentalists come to mind, especially with regards to seeing increasing numbers of muslims, or whoever their perceived enemies might be).
 
I'll be the first to admit there is an undeniable religious association with Christmas (I was raised Catholic), but anyone who knows history understands that it's not exactly accurate either.

I don't believe the above quote is true. Christmas is much more a commercial holiday than anything else. There are people, myself included, who feel we could do without the religious symbolism, surely. However, I don't believe giving thanks to the people in your life is one of them. If you feel better doing that while standing next to a cross, star or any other religious symbol, so be it, but it is much more a human act, IMO, than a metaphysical one.

You don't need the tree or the fat guy in the suit to have a Holiday.

Ummm...that was one of the points the author was making.
 
The only comment I am going to make regarding non Christmas observers not getting an invitation is that every church I have ever attended does not ban people from attending. Now, that isn't to say that perhaps there are some that do.

Christmas services are nearly always open to the general public, you do not have to be a Christian to attend, just respectful so others can also enjoy the service.

Dude, she was using a metaphor. Don't take everything so literally.:roll:
 
When I taught VPK. I would teach about different culture and their holidays observed. The December cirriculum we taught Hanukkah - Chanukah, Christmas, and Kwanzaa. It was required by the early learning coalition to do so. :)

Cool. It really should be, IMO. Our kids could do with a lot more multicultural education. Prevents all the stereotyping and fear when they are older.
 
One of the grades school in my city is not having a secret Santa this year as some students do cerebrate Christmas. I think this is bad idea as some kids could mad the kids that do not cerebrate Christmas. I feel this just single out kids more that have difference belief . I would rather have my kid not go to school when they're having the Christmas party than being the reason the rest of the class can't have it.

That is really a good solution. Give the kids that are not celebrating Christmas an excused absence for that part of the day.
 
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I grew up in a culturally Jewish household where we lit the menorah mostly when I was a young kid. I'm an only child. We have a pic. of me and my zaydeh < OBM; grandpa> when I was about 7 lighting the candles. My folks allowed me to choose as young child if I wanted to be involved with institutional/religious Judaism or not, because they did not want me to become embittered by forceful practice and feel more likely to return to it later if I wanted <which I have>. I went once or twice as a little girl to a Reform synagogue and to a Sunday School and thought at the time for me, it was stupid and told my folks so. They were like, ok, let her drop it, so I did.

So in our house there was some Yiddish and the traditional Askenazic foods and strong emphasis on tikkum olam in terms of social justice, strong feminism, public education and union activism, and learning about multicultural and inclusion. One of my earliest childhood memories is my mom was on a PTA textbook committee and she was to look through possible school texts and see if there were pictures of men and women in different roles, and people of various ethnicities and background, people using wheelchairs doing everyday things and working <as opposed to only recipients of services> , etc So she explained what she was doing and asked if I wanted to help and so we looked through the books together. She also wrote and edited newsletters and was a member of the NAACP and involved in various protests and meetings at state and national levels, some of which I went to.
One time at my grade school, there was an accommodation situation with a boy with severe CP or some other severe mobility issue, who used a wheelchair for long trips and throughout the day in school. He could walk with a great amount of difficulty and assistance. His chair was a typical rigid, late 70's kid's non-athletic chair for someone with very limited use of their limbs. He originally was not going to be able to go on our field trip to an outdoor educational nature park in our area because there allegedly wasn't an aide, or enough aides and his chair was an issue...or something...I was 9 or so - my mom got very upset and decided that she would go with and help him so he could go on the trip too.

Though some Jews do, we did not have a Christmas tree as my dad, whose family was originally Orthodox <in his years as a very young child; they moved to Conservative later> was not comfortable with it. My dad was bar mitzvah; my mom was confirmed. My mom - raised in a very assimilated German-Hungarian Jewish household where Yiddish was a "dirty language" - wouldn't have minded.

My dad remembers as boy, his parents poke Russian specifically when they didn't want him to understand something. Also Yiddish and Hebrew and English at other times. They went to Texas for a while as recommended by family doc. at that time for health reasons relating to my dad's younger sister. In Texas they met up with the Klan for the first time.

I had friends of various backgrounds, and Jewish friends and acquaintances who were Orthodox and kept kosher; we'd sometimes go to their homes and I remember the smell of the latkes and oil and the dreidel game.

The neighbors around us would have their Christmas lights and later those Easter baskets...my dad and I would walk around during the Christmas time, me holding his hand...we'd walk around looking at the people's decorations and talking about the lights and colors and sharing time together.
Once I asked my folks why we didn't have Easter baskets...nu, we're Jews, they said.


I always feel ambivalent around the December holidays because I'm so bombarded with all the Christmas stuff...but then, that's what many in this country do. I know very well that tree itself is technically a pagan symbol but I suppose I've fallen also to the specific "Christmas tree" idea. I'm pretty open about responding "I'm Jewish" if someone wishes me "Merry Christmas" but for me it depends on context, too.

My hubby's and my house - we don't have a tree or any decorations. Since Hanukkah wasn't a huge part of my life as a kid < we stopped really doing anything there when I got to high school>, I've never developed a habit of putting out the menorah...folks and I spend more time with the Jewish High Holy Days, earlier in the Fall. I identify as Jewish pagan.

I think true multicultural education and initiative is very important - not tokenism.
 
Before I got married, I dated a woman from Tel Aviv. Her father was a combat fighter pilot for the IDF. We all visited the Smithsonian Museums and there was a display at the American History Museum about Vietnam soldiers. Her father had a strong interest in the history of Vietnam.

Anyways .... in that display, there was a small Christmas tree. It was an attempt to show how soldiers in Vietnam celebrated Christmas. There were packages under the tree (mail from home), alongside combat boots and a mess kit.

Her whole family had never seen a Christmas tree before. They all looked it like it was the strangest thing. Then they asked me what the HELL is that?

So, a discussion of holidays took up a better part of the afternoon. I learned a lot, and I think they learned a thing or two as well.

Funny, I went out with a woman who also lived in Tel Aviv and was also a Canadian citizen while going to Gallaudet. Met her parents in Canada during one of our trips during our college break to see the sights of the Northeast up to Quebec. I learned from her like Purim and other Jewish celebrations. We maintained our even contact during the summer break while I was a summer camp counselor at a Jewish summer camp in Maryland. We're still great friends.
 
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I agree, true multiculturism is important. Tokenism doesn't deliver the whole message.

You have had a wonderful upbringing, and I would also say that it is evident in your adult perspectives. Particularly the concentration on areas concerned with social justice.

Happy Chanukah.
 
Funny, I went out with a woman who also lived in Tel Aviv and was also a Canadian citizen while going to Gallaudet. Met her parents in Canada during one of our trips during our college break to see the sights of the Northeast up to Quebec. I learned from her like Purim and other Jewish celebrations. We maintained our even contact during the summer break while I was a summer camp counselor at a Jewish summer camp in Maryland. We're still great friends.

Well, aren't you just the tolerant one?:laugh2:
 
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