Been cheated by my ex.

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I have been there and done that. I have forgiven him and guess what I got divorced. Cuz I was so tired of him cheating on me and he is worthless. So now I am in a much happier life then I was. :D I am so sorry to hear that and hope you find your happiness. :hug:
 
Hugs DeafGeorgiaLady...

this week is my bad week too.. but not the cheat part.

my fiance of 4 years... and i broke up last wednesday evening... Something bugged him and fall apart.. the stress got him down.. plus my stress too.. its like the rope went tight and snapped apart..

Whats more I knew it will happen.... I was disappointed that things didnt work out well till last night.. he asked me to go out for couple hours.. alone... so I left the young ones to oldest daughter and older son... we had long talks and decided that we stay on relationship.. unleash the stress, if the stress come to it.. STOP.. go out alone and talk about it or for peace...
the major issue is fiancially.. our fianically is disaster.. because Minnesota just changed alot over couple months.. Tax went up 8%, Cigs went up 4.50 (i am smoker of 27 years) try to stop smoking for a week but the stress, i was like i need help no one show some support.. i failed.. I will try again.. Gas went up.. our rent went up.. gas for heating, elec.. went up.. everything went up.. so I decided to go work.. make things better for him.. and he needs to unleash his negative.. we all do have negative or depressed.. but think of something else positive and move on.. if seriously.. stop, sit or go out, have talk... its the best solution..

so we decided to give the relationship other chance.. I am happy but.. I still reserve.. cuz my feelings still hurt what he said those words couple days ago.. I forgave him .. give him other chance.. anyway..

for the cheating part.. I wont give other chance on relationship cuz once cheat.. always cheatings.. I am sorry that you have to go through that.. hang in there dear.. look up the light.. :)

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Oh gee! well at LEAST your lucky you didn't marry him in the first place. If he wasn't honest or upfront with you then he is WRONG guy for you! Believe me, divorce ain't cheap and IS painful, along with humilation because you'd fail the commitment to stick to the death. It is REAL hard to predict future and what this person might turn once married or get in together.

Believe me, I find it true that the next one will be better than the last one. So, it is NOT end of the world.

I have NO desire on cheating my gf. If I find other woman, I always get this open to both ends. My gf WILL know for sure, even though I do flirt some ladies sometimes. I have always started with "No strings attached" because I have already had one tied up. If that woman don't like em, then find somebody else. I don't care, AS LONG AS honest is present. I really don't want to screw up any ladies life, yet I wanted to have fun so both ends can have fun.
 
DeafGeorgeLady,

Sorry about this. U better off from that jerk man. Not worth! Go and find a right guy for you in the future. I had been bad experience with my ex. He listened his own dad cuz his dad prefer for him to marry hearing lady plus his dad forced him to drop wedding plans. He followed his dad's demands. Know why? Cuz he was afraid of his dad's verbal abuse! Oh jeez!

I have been struggle to forgive my ex cuz he was a heavy liar, keep ran away many times than face with problems, etc.

Hey, u are not alone. Same with others. ;)
 
cheating on someone is the most stupidest thing in the world. i have never cheated on a gf. because there's no point in it. if u are interested in someone else and u want to persue a relationship with a new person, then break up with ur gf or bf, and start a new relationship. all cheating does is hurt people, and make people cry and its :bsflag:
 
break up would still hurt people and make them cry as well...what good would that do when u break up with someone for someone else? that would be sort of cheating too.
 
well would u rather be cheated on, or would u rather be told that ur gf/bf is interested in someone else. i understand that no one wants to be dumped but id rather be dumped than cheated on.
 
I need to reply to this.

I've seen your other posts regarding sexual functioning. Forgive me for saying so, but you seem to be very bitter about all this. Have you considered counseling? It might help to have an objective opinion on things?
 
MsGiglz said:
Hugs DeafGeorgiaLady...

this week is my bad week too.. but not the cheat part.

my fiance of 4 years... and i broke up last wednesday evening... Something bugged him and fall apart.. the stress got him down.. plus my stress too.. its like the rope went tight and snapped apart..

Whats more I knew it will happen.... I was disappointed that things didnt work out well till last night.. he asked me to go out for couple hours.. alone... so I left the young ones to oldest daughter and older son... we had long talks and decided that we stay on relationship.. unleash the stress, if the stress come to it.. STOP.. go out alone and talk about it or for peace...
the major issue is fiancially.. our fianically is disaster.. because Minnesota just changed alot over couple months.. Tax went up 8%, Cigs went up 4.50 (i am smoker of 27 years) try to stop smoking for a week but the stress, i was like i need help no one show some support.. i failed.. I will try again.. Gas went up.. our rent went up.. gas for heating, elec.. went up.. everything went up.. so I decided to go work.. make things better for him.. and he needs to unleash his negative.. we all do have negative or depressed.. but think of something else positive and move on.. if seriously.. stop, sit or go out, have talk... its the best solution..

so we decided to give the relationship other chance.. I am happy but.. I still reserve.. cuz my feelings still hurt what he said those words couple days ago.. I forgave him .. give him other chance.. anyway..

for the cheating part.. I wont give other chance on relationship cuz once cheat.. always cheatings.. I am sorry that you have to go through that.. hang in there dear.. look up the light.. :)

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oh man, i am very sowwy to hear.. but i hope ur relationship will better soon.. i know u love him so much... i pray for u and ur family stay together... :ily:
 
i broke up with my ex gf last july, i saw my ex gf acted funny to me... so one time i came out of shower, i poked on her shoulder and she got scared and cancelled IM.. so i puzzled... then i got guts something then later, set up DEAD AIM.. then she used computer, she done so i waited til tonight, she went bed and gave time abt 15 min then i checked DEAD AIM and busted that she like other girl behind my back for 3 months.. then i printed convo and waited til july 16th, she flew back home, so i told her pls read that papers while she was on airplane so i told her good lucky! she puzzled and stared at me too.. then she left, i went home.. she never email or pager me again!! i know she is GULPED big time...
 
TweetyBird said:
i broke up with my ex gf last july, i saw my ex gf acted funny to me... so one time i came out of shower, i poked on her shoulder and she got scared and cancelled IM.. so i puzzled... then i got guts something then later, set up DEAD AIM.. then she used computer, she done so i waited til tonight, she went bed and gave time abt 15 min then i checked DEAD AIM and busted that she like other girl behind my back for 3 months.. then i printed convo and waited til july 16th, she flew back home, so i told her pls read that papers while she was on airplane so i told her good lucky! she puzzled and stared at me too.. then she left, i went home.. she never email or pager me again!! i know she is GULPED big time...
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Wow, good thing that u busted her!
 
True! BUT sometimes honesty sure HURTS! So, it is best to discuss before going out with somebody else. Some people don't mind at all, while other do. Need to respect your partner feelings. Do that after you discuss with your own partner is really cheating.

Steel said:
break up would still hurt people and make them cry as well...what good would that do when u break up with someone for someone else? that would be sort of cheating too.
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A good rant can cleanse the soul, but to continue ranting without action soils it again.

You know now the guy is no good, so don't fall in with another bum next time.

My advice would be to sit down and write out exactly what you are looking for in a man. Also write down what you will not tolerate. This way, when you come across a man, you don't fall in love and find out after the fact that he is a dirtbag. You will know the leopard by it's spots.

On my list, I won't go out with a man who has previously cheated on another girlfriend. A cheater will always repeat his actions.

I also wouldn't go out with someone who had nasty teeth (due to having to read lips so much). It may not be a big deal, but I know it would eventually drive me crazy.

Sometimes we fall in love and tend to think we will get over those little annoying habits, but in the end, they just seem to grow.

Know yourself and love yourself before you start looking for a man to fill that void.
 
:confused: Whose other posts, Oceanbreeze?
 
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Eve said:
A good rant can cleanse the soul, but to continue ranting without action soils it again.

You know now the guy is no good, so don't fall in with another bum next time.

My advice would be to sit down and write out exactly what you are looking for in a man. Also write down what you will not tolerate. This way, when you come across a man, you don't fall in love and find out after the fact that he is a dirtbag. You will know the leopard by it's spots.

On my list, I won't go out with a man who has previously cheated on another girlfriend. A cheater will always repeat his actions.

I also wouldn't go out with someone who had nasty teeth (due to having to read lips so much). It may not be a big deal, but I know it would eventually drive me crazy.

Sometimes we fall in love and tend to think we will get over those little annoying habits, but in the end, they just seem to grow.

Know yourself and love yourself before you start looking for a man to fill that void.
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yup 90% men cheat, I saw on Oprah.

Leave those men alone, if you want babies, go to sperm bank.
 
DeafGeorgiaLady said:
I just found out that I have been cheated by my ex. He has been cheating on me while we were together 2 years ago. He has been cheating on someone too-HIS FIANCEE! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR! :pissed: :mad: :mad2:

It is over with us. He doesnt know what will bite his ass. Ofc he will be in hell for that. His fiancee and I just had a talk. He is in BIG TROUBLE! :evil:

His fiancee is still with him and she doesnt want to break up with him after he has been cheating on her 4 times! What a crazy woman!:crazy:

Anyways, I am outta of it. He can eat shit and die. :evil:
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I'm sorry to hear that :-/ :hug:

That ex of yours does not worth your time, your love or your commitment.

AJ said:
well would u rather be cheated on, or would u rather be told that ur gf/bf is interested in someone else. i understand that no one wants to be dumped but id rather be dumped than cheated on.
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I concur.
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
yup 90% men cheat, I saw on Oprah.

Leave those men alone, if you want babies, go to sperm bank.
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hmmm I could go to those sperm banks to earn extra $$$...
 
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