Whoa, Cheri..... I just recently joined and hadn't come across this thread until tonight. I hate to say that it was such a page-turner, so please forgive for saying that. Your dad will definitely be in my thoughts and I will be checking back on this thread for further news.
Four years ago, when I was 33 (less than a month before my 34th birthday), I ended up with a brain lesion. I was a medical mystery for months before I was diagnosed with a stroke. Docs haven't found out why I had my stroke. My heart had been closely looked at and it's fine, hence the nickname of Firebrand Strongheart. That's what my mom called me as I was still swimming from the sedatives of the trans-esophageal echocardiogram. I barely remember it, but it got burnt into my memory.
At first, they thought I had M.S. or lupus. After the 5th MRI scan, the brain lesion shrank and reveal a stroke. The thing is, I'm not even sure if that's the correct diagnosis as there are stroke-imitation conditions out there. I have this doubt because strokes don't cause brain lesions. I know this through my research. I studied biology for a year and a half at Purdue University. I couldn't continue on the investigative part because of the out-of-pocket expenses were killing us (my hubby and I).
I'm very glad that he is getting psychological/medical therapy for the stress and depression. I know this has been a horribly scary journey for your dad to go through. Believe me, this leaves a mark in the mind. I have had a long history with depression. Of course, the event messed up my brain chemistry enough to render my medication ineffective and we had to find another medication to treat my depression.
Doctors don't know him at all. You are right to fight for your dad's recovery. I was able to recover almost 100%. I had been paralyzed on my left side at first. I had coordination issues as well as balance issues. It was months before I was able to get it all back. The brain damage has left me with vertigo attacks that I have to take Neurontin to prevent them. It prevents most of them.
Now, I'm 38. I never had physical therapy because the therapists were quite impressed with how I've been working on myself in getting my strength back. Besides, my Frenchie-Pug dog was a great physical therapist to me. He loves rough-housing and tug-of-war, which helped me a lot.
Of course, I still have dreams about going through the neurological event and medical treatments. Those dreams are so bizarre. The stroke/event changed everything, even my perception of my reality. I can understand the frustration your dad has gone through. I am so glad that you found a great place for your dad. It seems that the people there really care.
Oh, I almost forgot.... I had a horrible time with waking up. I would have two alarms and I would have no memory of ignoring/turning it off. I have 3 cats, which 2 of them would try to wake me up. My husband had a hard time waking me up. I would sort of wake up, but fall right back to sleep. I believed that this problem was mainly from the depression. I still have a bit of that problem, but it's much better now. I don't know if that's from the stroke/event or the leftover effects of depression or the meds that I take. Could be all above. Just thought I would give you a heads up.
I wish you, your dad, and your family the best, Cheri. I hope I didn't hijack your thread......