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caz12

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My daughter been in residential home 5mins away from me and i been unhappy with it and intended do something bring her out home...
she has constant infection of skin due to colostomy that still weeps pus so she needs constant anti biotics so every time bring her home i need take her to dr something staff at home should done,she went into that place 4yrs ago her size was 18 she now size 24 with cholesterol of 7 she started ripping her skin on hands had fist degree burn on arm.well i brought her home to find she had ear abcess to.so i phoned the home tell them i keeping her home.by this time the staff in home realised i reported them and was not taking her back..what i didn't realise few months back i had sent her back to home with pack of antibiotics that were mine we were on same thing it rushed i picked hers up not mine 3days left of them..next thing 9am morning i brought her home day before..banging on door my daughter let them in was cops and social worker with the 3days of anti biotics shoving them under my nose screaming at me i was a lier and got the anti biotics unlawfully.i could not hear them and they know signed no one in that home told them i deaf i looking at cops lips see what she talking about and she say cos not looking her in eyes i was lier,i use paper to write she flung it on floor social worker not look at me they then say i hystrical cos my voice high.M y Downs syndrome child was crying and hitting cop the social worker realise this big mistake and they go..
my husband comes home see me and daughter hysterical and phones cops to come back.it seem the home knew i was going do something about dreadful care and used this one mistake i made to stop me....they told cops i using to many anti biotics on child making it worse...not so,the hospital said she got be on them constantly or she have surgery..my husband went berserk told them had no right treat deaf woman who no understand and Downs child like this they even said though i was drunk cos my speech..then they just went no apology,it left me in dreadful state i dont think i ever get over it,my husband 70 i mid 60s spent 30yrs looking after my daughter..it tipped my hand and my girl at home with me now..two staff at the home were whistle blowing and they got sack..the social worker did turn out be a dimond in the end and has helped me and acknowledge i was treated appauling and home should be closed.but same time says i should draw line under it try forget it...got be kidding it nearly ruined me and i never be same again...
top it all the home sent me bill for thousand pounds which they can shove up there arse...i hoping to get sympathtic journalist who do undercover work bring it all out in public...
i will never forget cop screaming i drunk and lier she treat me like shit and needs go back to cop school taught how to talk to deaf person and disable Downs child...i still in tears now
 
That's terrible. :(

I totally understand about the antibiotics mix-up. If you've got more than one prescription bottle in the house, it's easy to get 2 of them mixed up if you don't look at them. It wasn't an INTENTIONAL mistake on your part. Sounds like they finally realized that but how frightening at first when they show up at your door like that.
 
Sorry to hear that....even over here in the States we have our issues like that.

I've heard many stories from other deaf folks about cops mistreating them due to their deaf accents. Cops are human beings, too, you get the smart ones and ignorant ones.

Hope your daughter gets better soon.
 
:jaw: I am so sorry your family went through this! I hope you find someone who will write an article on this for you. Have you called the local news agencies, to see if they'd want to do a piece on your story?
 
Where is this? Someone said that this happens in the states so I assume you dont live in the states?
 
You hang in there, caz....horrible things do happen to good people...and the Truth will eventually come out.....Be strong for urself and especially for ur daughter, caz.....wishing you both better health and happiness.
 
caz12, can you bring this up with a rep to explain your mistreatment from public officials?
You may need to get your husband to call some hotlines, I heard from one of my professors who is from UK about law and mistreatment and I think there is a coalition called the Equality Advisory.

I would think the magistrate will have one hell of a case from looking into something like this, those guys will be sorry they messed with you and you might even get settlement out of it as a bonus.
 
,she went into that place 4yrs ago her size was 18 she now size 24 with cholesterol of 7 she started ripping her skin on hands had fist degree burn on arm.well i brought her home to find she had ear abcess to.

OMG they haven't been taking decent care of her at all! Caz, I hope you are more relaxed now and calmed down a bit so that you can be strong and get the news media involved. I'm so sad for you to have this pressure on you, but your daughter is lucky to have you as her mother to save her from that horrid home. I worry that you will need help caring for her since she won't be going back to that home.
 
She said they billed her for "one thousand pounds", so I guessed England.

Thanks..

It is a horrible situation. I don't know what rights you have in England but getting the media involved would be a good start.
 
I am very sorry that you had a bad treatment from those cruel people. I hope someone will investigate the horrors at the institution eventually.
 
This is awful, Caz! This is happening to you so it is happening to others with loved ones in the same home. The home must be part of the government medical system. Something like this if you are the only ones protesting then they will single you out as troublemakers and not help.
It is not human nature to for people to threaten their own jobs. The ones who are helping are often invested in protecting their own job so you will get help that is not help. The others will pull all kinds of things to point the finger at you instead of themselves.
You need allies. The best allies will be other people with bad experiences and the help of dogooders in the legal profession and medical profession. It helps to have a rich philanthropist or too involved too. One person or one family standing alone yelling is not nearly as effective as a whole bunch of people pounding it to them from all directions until they straighten up. Each person in your local area you bring into your effort to have that place cleaned up and operating correctly expands your ability to bring about change. Once you have the allies in place stick it to them.
 
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