Any Guys Been in a Relationship With an Abusive Girlfriend?

Sounds like she was controlling, demeaning, and very jealous.

All forms of emotional abuse. Cut your ties with her and find a nice girl who will appreciate you. And in turn, treat her like a queen. :)
 
Doug5 said:
Anyone have any stories? What are signs to watch out for?
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My ex wife was always jealous of other women...didn't matter if they were 6 months old or 60 years old....

One day I was on the computer researching something & a porn site popped up...well she saw that & thought I was looking at porn & before I could explain what happened, she clocked me with a Chicago IL phone book...you know the kind, one that's about 4 or 5 inches thick & weighs a ton....next thing I knew, I was bleeding from my ear like a freshly butchered hog....

The police were called, they looked at me, asked if I wanted to go to the hospital, then threw handcuffs on my ex(we were still married back then), & hauled her off to jail for 3 days(Indiana law says it takes 72 hours/3 days to calm down after an abusive incident).

I found out that when she got home, SHE is the person that called the cops on ME, but it backfired & she's who got punished for abuse.
When she got home, she spent the next hour & a half to 2 hours beating the ever lovin' S*** out of me & blaming me for what happened to her...
every time I tried to set her straight, she would beat on me some more. When she abuse me, All I would do is just curl up into a ball on the floor-usually in a corner somewhere...that way she could only beat me on one side of my body.

Now Y'all have to understand that I am disabled & unable to defend myself be any stretch of the imagination....both back then & now as well.

We finally got divorced this past August 16 & I moved from Indiana to Maryland just to get away from her...

I seriously doubt that I will ever trust another human being again because of what she did to me physically, emotionally, & psychologically...I will always trust animals(4 legged kind), reptiles, amphibians, Birds, etc....they are always up front with their feelings & emotions....they will always tell you immediately how they feel, humans seldom do. :cry:
 
Babyblue said:
My little brother used to be in one. His ex wife used to get mad at him and start slapping and swinging at him. My brother used to laugh at her at first and thought it was funny. Then it became a problem where everytime she did not get her way she would throw one of her fits. Needless to say, he only stayed with her for a few months after he came back from Iraq. Then he left her with her mother, and moved back in with his father.

He is currently with a girlfriend and seems to be happy with her. He is about to have his first child. :)
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Abuse will NEVER have any place in a relationship...Never.
 
JAMES09 said:
My ex wife was always jealous of other women...didn't matter if they were 6 months old or 60 years old....

One day I was on the computer researching something & a porn site popped up...well she saw that & thought I was looking at porn & before I could explain what happened, she clocked me with a Chicago IL phone book...you know the kind, one that's about 4 or 5 inches thick & weighs a ton....next thing I knew, I was bleeding from my ear like a freshly butchered hog....

The police were called, they looked at me, asked if I wanted to go to the hospital, then threw handcuffs on my ex(we were still married back then), & hauled her off to jail for 3 days(Indiana law says it takes 72 hours/3 days to calm down after an abusive incident).

I found out that when she got home, SHE is the person that called the cops on ME, but it backfired & she's who got punished for abuse.
When she got home, she spent the next hour & a half to 2 hours beating the ever lovin' S*** out of me & blaming me for what happened to her...
every time I tried to set her straight, she would beat on me some more. When she abuse me, All I would do is just curl up into a ball on the floor-usually in a corner somewhere...that way she could only beat me on one side of my body.

Now Y'all have to understand that I am disabled & unable to defend myself be any stretch of the imagination....both back then & now as well.

We finally got divorced this past August 16 & I moved from Indiana to Maryland just to get away from her...

I seriously doubt that I will ever trust another human being again because of what she did to me physically, emotionally, & psychologically...I will always trust animals(4 legged kind), reptiles, amphibians, Birds, etc....they are always up front with their feelings & emotions....they will always tell you immediately how they feel, humans seldom do. :cry:
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Sorry to hear that. Well you are stronger, and more cautious now. I completely understand only trusting animals, because they are the truth. It gets better. :hug:
 
katerivera said:
my mom's ex friend "Gina" is a perfect example of an abusive woman. she had two girls and i used to be friends with one of them. anyway, she divorced their dad because he would physically abuse her all the time. after that, she met "Brad" a really sweet, cool guy. Gina was terrible with him. kept him on a tight leash, would throw a fit every time Brad went out with my dad to have a "mens night out" at a bar or a baseball game. she got paranoid and accused my dad of introducing Brad to girls. she'd call Brad constantly to see what he was up to, and would have a FIT if he didn't come home on time.

Gina would always accuse Brad of being unfaithful, when in reality she WAS the ONE who was fooling around with an old friend from her high school behind his back! Brad was awesome with her daughters and did everything to keep a roof over their heads. unfortunately, that was never good enough for Gina. she always wanted MORE AND MORE from him

one of her daughters told me how Gina pushed Brad hard one time, and he fell back against the dresser. the poor guy hurt his back pretty bad

please don't ever be in a relationship with a psycho like her
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"Gina" sounds like my ex wife...on a good day. :(
 
rockin'robin said:
Well, I don't think I was abusive....even tho' I threw a dinner glass at my ex when he came home drunk at 4AM in the morning and I had gotton off work at 3AM and I'd worked 4 hours overtime.....the glass missed his head by inches....so I went over to the door, picked him up by the shirt and threw him out of the house....He slept or passed out on the porch outside along with all his clothes I threw out!...So that spelled Divorce!....And I'm not sorry I did it! :giggle:
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Ms.Robin, how many times I have to tell you....NEVER, EVER throw something at your bf/hubby...

you are supposed to meet him at the door with a rolling pin in one hand & the good book in the other. :D

If he says anything you do not like, clock him square between the eyes with the rolling pin, say a prayer over him, THEN, throw him out clothes & all.
:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D
 
I suffered through 10 long years of her abuse, insults, etc....

It's gona take me a long time before I am ever "normal" again.....

Right now, 'm open to friendship, but the thought of having a sweetheart scared the crap out of me...and I want no part of it .

BTW, Thanks for the hug. :)

:hug:
 
james i'm sorry you had to go through that.. i know it's hard to trust another woman after you've been hurt by the one you loved - i, myself, have trust issues too because i was in horrible relationships but i tell myself all the time that not ALL men are bad. i'm also confident that in the future, i will meet a nice guy who will treat me well. and so will you! not all women are bad either
 
katerivera said:
even though many women are victims of abuse, women can also be the abusers. i believe they use the same tactics as the abusive men.

1. gets extremely jealous, isolates you from your friends and family

2. is like jekyll and hyde. can change from a sweetheart to a complete bitch in a few seconds

3. uses verbal assaults and threats with you to get her way

4. has unrealistically high expectations. no matter how much you give, it's never good enough for her.
examples: you're not giving me enough sex, you don't make enough money, you never help me around the house, you never pay enough attention to me, you spend too time watching tv.. etc

5. behavior/response is unpredictable. like one day it's okay for you to use the laptop for something important. the next day, the same thing you do is "insensitive, disrespectful, you don't love me, all you can do is think about yourself"
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That describes my ex wife to the letter. She thought she could get away with it too, because she had gotten away with it with her prior two husbands.

It took a while, but I finally had all the evidence to charge her with a felony (and won the case). I am no sucker. To make a looong story short - she lied to the FAA when she was cheating with her new BF who was a pilot - they also prosecuted her.
 
Steinhauer said:
That describes my ex wife to the letter. She thought she could get away with it too, because she had gotten away with it with her prior two husbands.

It took a while, but I finally had all the evidence to charge her with a felony (and won the case). I am no sucker. To make a looong story short - she lied to the FAA when she was cheating with her new BF who was a pilot - they also prosecuted her.
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like the saying goes, when you play with fire, you WILL get burned.:cool2:
 
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